The speaker reflects on Gay Hendricks' concept of the "upper-limit problem," where people unconsciously cap their own success and happiness. He uses his yearly word "evolve" to question and push past these self-imposed limits, and asks listeners what word they chose and whether it's helping them break through.
Good morning, everyone. Here is your moment of yes for Friday, January 31st. Last day of January. One month in the books, y'all. Can you believe it? They go by super, super fast. How you doing? How are we doing? Start to the month. Did you choose a word? If so, how is your word serving you one month in? Yeah, here we go. I just got back from Hartford last night. a chance to read actually a book that Halster gave me called The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks. He's written a bunch of books. This one, yeah, actually strong, strong concept. He introduces the idea of what he calls the upper limit problem. The upper limit problem, this would kind of fall in line with Steven Pressfield's Resistance Or Mary Baker Eddy's Animal Magnetism. It's basically this concept of, you know, when things are good or when you're improving, you are almost— you almost prevent yourself from feeling too much success or too happy. You're thinking you don't deserve it, or it's just a matter of time before something bad happens. And he goes, so like, you have the opportunity and actually, you know, the right to keep being happier, to keep having more success, but we kind of self-sabotage ourselves. He calls that your upper limit problem. You kind of hit your upper limit, and instead of kind of going through it and seeing that you should be happy and you should continue to be happy and have success, but we almost kind of self-sabotage ourselves. And it always feels external, like, oh, it's my spouse, or it's the economy, or even getting sick. He talks about it can be a an upper limit problem. And the book is kind of how to combat, how to combat that, which is super interesting. And so enjoying that. So to go back to kind of like the word for the year, whenever I notice myself kind of getting flustered, frustrated, stuck, a lack of clarity, I kind of go back to that word, right? Because it's like when you hit that stuck part, it's easy to stay stuck and just sort of like, all right, that is the way it is, instead of Using that question, using that intention or that word as a question, obviously for me this year, it's like, all right, I'm kind of stuck with this. What would it look like to, for me, evolve my response? What would it look like if I evolved how I responded to this situation, which is probably going to be different than how I've handled it my whole life, thus evolve? And so, I'm wanting to challenge kind of my own upper limit problem when it comes to how successful I think I can be or just how happy I think I can be. And so, it's been an interesting read kind of combined with my word of the year. So, there you have it. How's your word going? What upper limit problems are you running into and are you ready to break through them? Let's go. February is going to be awesome. That's your moment of yes for today. Have an awesome weekend, everybody.
