Travis Thomas argues you can't control what happens, only how you respond. He calls this the "yes, and" mindset: accept reality, then act. High performers focus on making their partners look brilliant instead of chasing personal glory.
You cannot control 100% of what happens to you, and you control 100% about how you respond. When you are living with a yes and mindset, you are in radical collaboration with reality. Now apply that to every aspect of your life. No matter how badly they want to tear your ideas down or disagree with you, you stay about your purpose and you just kind of navigate right through the distraction, right through the negativity. My mantra when I step on stage is my goal is to make my partner look brilliant. So what is their focus? To make me look brilliant. Because it's not about me, it's about us. And that's what high performers do. High performers put all of their energy into responding to the situation instead of trying to control what is going to happen. So when we get in this yes and mindset, it is how quickly can I accept my new reality and what am I going to do about it? So the yes is acceptance. We're on the same page, but we don't stop there. The and is what? It's your response. It's your build. It's how you move forward. Yes, and.
