Andy Neary leads a workshop session with Laura and Chris on leadership and communication. They work through the perception pyramid and explore how core personal attributes shape how others see you.
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We'll just get this cranking. Jerry, you ready to kick it off? Fire away, John. Enough to get Laura hers.
All right, so Chris is leading the way tonight because he's just starting his vacation. So I think our two rock stars right out of the gate. Chris is with us to start his vacation, and Lauren is with us to start her adulthood. So, I mean, that's pretty darn impressive.
Talking about leadership, that's about as powerful as leadership gets. So there's two people who are ready to launch, and we're going to launch into our module two tonight, and we're going to take a lot of what we started with last week on module one, and we're going to use those same tools, but we're going to use them in slightly different ways. But before we dive too deeply into what we're doing in Module two, let's go back and revisit some of the key points from module one and see how you all put those to work. Andy, you can take that full screen if you want.
So, in Module two, we're going to take this next level, but before we do, let's make sure the foundation is set. And let's go back to the perception pyramid and the core four. And I want to go through the list, and I want each of you to share with us the one area, perhaps as you really kind of digested the perception pyramid, where maybe you think you struggle or you have a weakness and then share with everybody your core four, if you wouldn't mind. So we'll start off. Laura, let's start off with you.
All right, sure. So I think for the perception pyramid, and this is again, something I think we've talked about before, but the words actually is where I feel like I struggle just finding differences in ways of saying things and presenting and being clear in my expression of content sometimes can be a struggle.
Okay, and what's your core four?
And then my core four is engaging, personable, fun content and knowledgeable content.
All right, so as we all look at that, as you look at the perception pyramid, where is the area? And I'll give you a hint, it's not words that you are going to most effectively and most quickly convey the perception that matches up to your core. For.
I'll give you a hint. Correct. It begins with T tone, because you can tell people that you're engaging and that you're personable and you're fun, but they're going to engage entirely from do you come across as engaging and personable and fun?
And I just feel like My use of spirit fingers helps with that. And like jazz.
Absolutely. Who doesn't love spirit fingers? Jazz hands. Spirit fingers makes. Makes the point. Excellent job. Okay, Chris, before you dive into happy hour, as you looked at the pyramid, where do you think he might have the biggest challenges and what's your core for?
Okay, so as one of the elderly gentlemen on this call, I would say that.
I have worked through many of these things. Let's see, am I doing Core 4 first or the pyramidal?
Give us weakness first. Give us weakness first.
Gotcha. Yeah. So been around a while. A lot of weaknesses, but tried to correct many of them over the years. I think that without a doubt, words and tone as it relates to email is one of my major weaknesses that I've improved a lot on over the past, you know, four or five years. But there's always something whereby I'm rushing along. I'll shoot out an email, just have a quick thought and not really read it back too many times, and all of a sudden I've offended somebody because I have said something either too short and brief and not put the whole point in there, or, you know, just maybe the tone of the email tends to be taken wrong. Okay, core four again.
I think number one. I don't think I know that number one is integrity. I want to always be seen as someone who carries the highest amount of integrity. Of course, wisdom is number two. Fair but firm is number three, and a good listener is number four. And the number four is one that I continuously strive with. And of course, you can imagine who would agree with me wholeheartedly, and that would be the one I've been married to for 35 years this coming Monday. So anyway, and by the way, we were supposed. We were supposed to be in the Faroe Islands right now, but because of COVID we couldn't. So we're out at the Outer Banks in North Carolina, and we, of course, live in North Carolina.
So, anyway, so, Chris, I'll give you one technique that can help you with the listening, since that's an aspirational one, and I applaud you for putting that in there. And the technique is called listen without the intent to reply. And it works like this. Typically when we are in a conversation, you and I are talking. While I'm talking, you're processing what I'm saying, and then you're waiting for me to finish so you can reply because you're formulating what you're going to say as soon as I pause or when I finish, and then you're going to reply. It's kind of verbal volleyball to become an advanced listener. Practice listening. And you practice it with your wife. She'll be amazed at this. But with anybody without the intent to reply, instead of taking the time to formulate your thoughts literally, just be present and listening.
Two things will happen. One, there'll be a little bit more of a natural pause between when they talk and when you talk, so you're not going to step over anybody. And two, you'll actually come up with far more intelligent, far more insightful things to reply with because you will have taken the time to be completely present and you'll feel the emotional content, not just the intellectual content of their message. That's right.
Very good. Thank you.
Okay, Lauren, Happy birthday. Happy launch. To life. Thank you. Thank you. So it's, I'm telling you, it's inspirational to see somebody at your stage of life to be proactive enough to do this. So as you looked at the perception pyramid, where did you feel.
