Charles NoonanPresident, Landbank University · Real Estate Developer & Instructor

Being Hurt vs Abandoned/ Dive deep into the conversation with Queenella and Charles J Noonan

19 Oct 2023 · 1 min

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This YouTube conversation (uploaded Oct 19, 2023 by Charles Noonan) features Queenella discussing emotional intelligence and distinguishing ‘hurt’ from ‘abandonment.’ She links feelings of abandonment to gaps in paternal love, says she filled that void with relationships with older men and Haitian men, and describes a lineup that reframes Haitian men as entrepreneurs, successful fathers, and caretakers.

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When you think about intelligence, like emotional intelligence, you have to be able to label things correctly. So if I say I'm hurt, I may not be hurt. I may be abandoned. Feeling abandonment is what makes me feel this hurt.
Okay.
Right. So it's. It's deeper than just hurt. I feel abandoned. If my dad has stepped in at any point and loved me the way that I felt I needed to, then that would have gone away. That would have went away. But for some reason, having that void because I pushed him away. I replaced it with older men. I replaced it with Haitian men.
Yeah.
So this lineup is another way of me saying, like, just, y'. All. There's other ways of looking at Haitian men. Like, they're entrepreneurs. They're.
That's dear.
They're. They're successful men. These are men on the lineup that are fathers. Like, they're taking care of their children. So I'm able to see Haitian men in a different light, if that makes sense.
That is so deep.