Dr. Cara argues that leaders isolate themselves by refusing to show uncertainty or ask for help. The pressure to always have answers creates the loneliness they experience. Vulnerability, not perfection, is what actually connects people.
I stopped trying to explain it, convinced myself this is just what leadership looked like at this level, that isolation was the price of authority. What I didn't realize then, and what took me years to understand was that loneliness wasn't coming from the role itself. It was coming from the pressure I was putting on myself, the self imposed belief that I had to have all the answers, that I couldn't show uncertainty and that asking for support meant I wasn't capable of the position that I had earned. And.
