Dr. Cara uses an avocado analogy to argue your worth doesn't change with achievements, applause, setbacks, or criticism. The problem: nobody told you your value is fixed, so you chase external validation that can't actually raise or lower it.
But here's the thing. Their value did not go up because I changed my mind. The avocado's worth stayed constant, completely independent of my opinion. Now, I need you to hear this. Your worth works exactly the same. Not your performance, not your approvals, not whether or not they've clapped after your presentation or whether your boss responded to your email. Your worth is not emotion. It is not going up when things go well and is not coming down when they do not. It is settled. The problem is not that your value changed. The problem is that Nobody ever told you that.
