4 Strange Ways to Turn a Guy On Emotionally

Now, a lot of women think that men are just like light switches. And that might be true when it comes to the bedroom. But you know what? I too have feelings. And if you've just started hanging out with a new guy before you get to that level in the bedroom, let's build some emotional attraction first. And what does that mean? Let's basically turn him on up here before we go any further, because we already know if he's already pursuing you, he's likely already turned on in other ways. So in this video, I share four really strange, kind of weird ways to turn a guy on emotionally. And at the end of this video, I'm gonna share common way that women try to do this that can actually ruin your life. So keep watching. Hey there. My name is Adam Lodolce. I'm the founder of lovestrategies.com, where we help successful single women get out there and attract long lasting love and do it with a proven strategy. Now, having been doing this for so long and worked with so many clients, we know that most of our clients, when it comes to attracting love, they don't want anything short term. We want something that is going to last not just for the next 10 days, not for the next 10 months, but for the next 10, 20 years in the future. And if that's the type of relationship that you want, then it's important to start off a new connection the right way. Let's focus our energy on building that emotional attraction, that emotional connection before turning a guy on in other ways. So here's exactly how to do that. For starters, withhold intimacy until you've built that emotional connection. Long story short, as humans, we value what it is that we work for. And the easiest way to build that value and position yourself as that high value woman is to slow things down in the bedroom until you've just gotten to know the guy and you've built that real connection. You built a little bit of a friendship. So as I was thinking about this, I remembered this moment that happened about 10 years ago, okay, long before I met Jessica. And I went to this event and I met a woman there, and I was absolutely just blown away. I mean, she was charismatic, she was beautiful. We had a lot in common, and I was really, really excited to get to know her further. So I asked her out, I got her phone number and she was open to that. And I took her out maybe two or three nights later. And I remember when we sat down, the date went for maybe about 10, 15 minutes, and it was awesome. Like I was really into it. And she looks at me and she pauses and she says, look, can we skip all of this whole thing and go back to your place? I like to look for sexual compatibility before really getting to know someone. My jaw dropped to the floor. I'm not type of guy that this happens to. Okay. This is an unusual situation for me. And I remember just being completely thrown off my balance here. I didn't know what to do. It was like one of those moments that, like a man has always. We always desire this. Like in the movies, we want this to happen. But the moment that this actually happened to me, it kind of killed the vibe. It was kind of like there was tension between the two of us. I was enjoying getting to know her, getting to know each other, and. And then she just kind of cut the tension immediately. Needless to say, honestly, it didn't go any further from that point, and it just kind of killed the whole conversation at that point. Honestly, I really wasn't that into it. She no longer was really that into it. And yeah, it just didn't work out. So at the end of the day, building an emotional connection with someone before it gets physically intimate is not only a great way to keep guys pursuing you, but it's also just a healthy way to date. And if you want some more weird stories like that into my past, my past dating life, then please give this video a like, don't forget to subscribe because I got a lot more coming for you very soon. The next way to turn a guy on an emotional level is to change your voice tonality to a little bit more soft and sensual. Now, if you're like many of my clients, you struggle to attract that kind of masculine man that you're looking for, that dominant, take charge guy, then it's possible you may need to learn how to step a little bit into your feminine. Because ultimately, masculine men who lean into their masculine tend to be more attracted to women who lean into their feminine. And ultimately, one of the quickest ways to lean into your feminine is listening to your voice tonality and being aware of your voice tonality. Even think of the way that I'm speaking right now. Imagine if I was talking like this, or there are many other ways I could be speaking that would be certainly less masculine. And one of the things I certainly worked on when I started dating myself is being aware of my voice tonality when I was meeting women. And same goes for you. If you're meeting a guy learning to be a little bit softer and a little bit more Sensual as you're conversing with guys, it's going to build that kind of emotional connection. And the thing that I think a lot of people lose sight of when you're dating and going out and meeting new people, we lose sight of this one idea that is that the words that you actually say that come out of your mouth, it matters way less than the way that you say it. All right, imagine if I was just talking right now, and my body language, my voice tonality was very flat. Imagine if I said the words you say matter way less than how you say it, versus the words you say matter way less than how you say it. So notice it's your voice tonality as well as your delivery. And these are all things that you can work on and actually change pretty instantaneously. And here's the thing. Many of our clients, they are that alpha female type that just like they walk into the boardroom and they absolutely run shit. And they struggle with this idea of stepping into their feminine because they subconsciously or consciously believe that feminine energy is weak energy. And I'm here to tell you that through the dating process, feminine energy is actually the most powerful energy in the process. You're the one who leans back and you decide who's right for you. And just this small shift of changing your voice tonality can be extremely powerful to build that connection with that masculine man that you're looking for. Another strategy that you can use to build that emotional connection, turn a guy on emotionally, is to ask a guy for advice. I had a client the other day, and she is one of those super alpha females that I was just talking about, and she's a chief software engineer at one of the top Silicon Valley companies. Of course, I'm not going to say which one. And she had a guy that she was talking to, but she could feel he was kind of slipping away. And she felt like she was falling into her old patterns of being that kind of like, take charge masculine type when it came to dating. And based on her actions up to that point, the way she described them, I got the feeling as well that she went into that alpha mode. Have you ever gone to that alpha mode? Leave a comment below. So what I told her to do is at this point, just go ask him for some advice. And she says, what are you talking about? Ask him for advice? What type of. I don't need any advice from him. So I asked her, well, okay, do you want to feel wanted by this guy? I asked her, do you want to feel wanted by him? She Said, yeah, I do want to feel wanted by him. Of course I do. And I said, great, well, he needs to feel needed by you. And it's not that men are intimidated by successful women. I mean, of course some men are intimidated by successful women, but most guys just need to feel needed in a connection. And one of the easiest ways to engage someone emotionally is just to ask them for some advice. It could be life advice. It could be even professional advice, although I probably wouldn't recommend that in many cases. I had a client the other day who was talking to a guy, and she was asking for advice on where she should move. Like, what's a good neighborhood? Hey, I just want to run something by you. Have a quick question. What do you think is the best neighborhood in town for me to move? I'm just. I'm kind of exploring different areas. And when you ask a guy for advice, you're going to see instantaneously his chest is going to go up and he's going to feel needed. He's going to lean into the conversation, and he's going to want to guide you throughout that process. And it's an easy way to appeal to his kind of like, hunter, masculine side that just needs to feel needed by a woman. And the final way to connect with a guy on an emotional level is to just get out of the house and try something new together. Newness creates naughtiness. When you and your guy go on a new experience together, and it could be something as basic as just traveling to a new local city or even just walking around town as if you are just a person traveling in your city. When you have a new experience with a person and it's a fun experience or it's an exciting experience, when you have that experience, a lot of people will associate that experience and that good feeling they get during that experience with the person they're experiencing it with. If you go on an experience with him, maybe it's exciting, maybe it's a bike ride, maybe it's a walk throughout your city. If you want to take it to the extreme, let's say you go skydiving together. That's in the total extreme. When you go on some experience together and it's new and it's exciting, he's going to now associate that with you. And this is a powerful way of just reconnecting on a deep emotional level. And I call these emotional experiences. And our clients, once they go on maybe two or three dates with a guy, I highly recommend them actually organizing an emotional experience with their guy. It could be rock climbing. I had a client the other day who went rock climbing at a rock climbing gym with her guy. She'd never done it before. He'd never done it before. It created that adrenaline rush when they got to the top of the rocks together and they had straight so much fun. And it just deepened that bond. Notice doing things like this are going to build that emotional connection and that emotional intimacy before it even gets physically intimate. And notice how much more that will create that bond. And I typically recommend that when our clients get to what I call little love step number four, where we're going on dates and meeting lots of guys, and that's little love step number four out of our seven little love steps. And if you want to learn all seven little love steps, you can watch the training. It's fully interactive. You're going to really enjoy it. We'll leave it in the description, or you can just go to lovestrategies.com and now, finally, as promised at the beginning of the video, there is one thing that a lot of women will do to turn a guy on, whether it's emotionally or physically, but I do not recommend you do it because, in fact, this can actually ruin your life if you do this. Do not, and I repeat, do not ever send a guy a picture that you wouldn't want posted publicly on social media. I don't care if it's a little bit overtly sexual or if it's fully nude or if it doesn't have your face in it, whatever. If you wouldn't want it seen by your entire world, don't send it to a guy. Can't tell you how many horror stories I've heard over the years of women sending guys kind of scandalous pictures. And then they got out. And once a picture like that gets out, it can't un. Get out. Thank you so much for watching. I'll speak to you next week. Bye. Bye.