5 Guys You MUST AVOID to Find Love Successfully

In today's podcast, we're going to be talking about the 5 guys that you must avoid. Please, dear God, avoid these men in order to successfully find love. Because if there's anything that we do with our clients, we do help them get out there and find love. But we don't want you to only look for love. We want you to start spotting the men that you will grow to hate. Welcome to the Love Strategies Podcast, where we help successful women attract high-value men, date with a strategy, and improve their relationships. Now, whether you're single or dating or in a new relationship, we're here to help you dive into the male mind and provide raw insights found nowhere else, backed by science, psychology, and our own personal experiences. Your hosts today are myself, Adam Lodolce, professional dating coach and founder of Love Strategies, and Dr. Gary Lewandowski, a relationship scientist, professor, and our head relationship coach here at Love Strategies. Please share with a friend and enjoy. Okay, like there are some guys out there. If you can learn how to remove the types of men from your life that you will, I promise you, you will wake up 5 years later from the date that you marry this man and think to yourself, what did I do? Why? Why did I do it? So Gary, is that what we're solving for in this podcast? Am I being too dramatic here?

No, I think there's a— there's definitely a little addition by subtraction. It's like, let's avoid some of the big mistakes to find the good stuff, because Here's the thing. When you think about what kind of guy do you want to end up with, you want to end up with somebody who's handsome, tall, financially stable, easy to talk to, masculine. He can fix things around the house. Like, great. Join the club. It's a very, very large club of women who are looking for that guy because it's easy to know what we want. But something my mom said to me when I was a teenager, she said, Gary, being mature is knowing what you don't want. And like, that was annoying to hear at the time. I forget even what it was about, but it was like, it's such good advice because so many of our clients come to us and say, you know what, I got a broken picker. And it's so easy to have a broken picker if all of your— all the only criteria you're using to pick on is all the good stuff, because it's easy to want handsome, tall, financially stable. That's, that's easy. So today what we're going to do is we're going to pull a little Big Brother kind of move and say like, hey, look out for these kind of guys. Like, you want to avoid these guys because as much as they seem appealing at first, you will grow to hate this guy just in, in time. So we're here to give you a little heads up.

Addition through subtraction is such an important concept in all areas of life. I remember about 6 years ago, I was doing a lot of CrossFit. I no longer am into CrossFit, but at the time I was like I was going like 6 times a week, but I wasn't losing weight. And I was getting so frustrated because I was in good shape, but I wasn't in what I would consider to be like shredded, ripped level shape. And I remember I was talking to this guy, forget exactly who it was, but I was telling him like, I keep just upping the amount I'm working out. And he's like, well, what are you eating? I'm like, oh, I don't want to talk about that. He's like, dude, work out less. And just eat less junk food. And I'm like, wait, what? That's not me. That's not me doing more stuff. He's like, you don't need to do more. You actually need to do less of the bad stuff. And honestly, it changed my life, right? Because we're always, as humans, we always feel like, especially like super Type A, intense, like alpha type people, which we tend to attract around here, those types of clients. And we, I feel like here at Love Strategies, are all tend to be that type of person. We all want to just add more to our plate. And in many ways, it's life and creating a healthy, good, simple life where you thrive is actually about the removal of the bad things more than the addition of the good things. So take that in.

So important. And so this pie— here's the big idea, and I came up with this name for it, and I'm super like, I think this nails it. It's what I'm calling the Michelangelo dating strategy, which is essentially to find the best relationship, you need to avoid dating the worst partners. And so what I'm about to say is going to sound a little unromantic, but it's totally true. If you try to seek out and find the ideal guy, that's not the most important thing. In fact, that's not the best strategy. Your best strategy is actually— it's much more important to avoid the terrible guys who are going to ruin your life and break your heart because most people are kind, amazing, decent human beings. Now you're thinking, well, I haven't dated any of those. Okay, well, that's what we're going to work on. But if we can avoid all the time suckers, the people who just ruin your spirit, we get rid of those guys. Everybody that's left is pretty darn good. And so this is the Michelangelo dating strategy because Michelangelo had this perspective on sculpting, which is he didn't sculpt a statue, he didn't create the figure. It was that there was this block of marble and his job wasn't to create a statue. It was to remove all the pieces that weren't the statue, that weren't the figure hidden inside. And so that's what we're gonna do with your dating life is rather than say, go look for handsome, amazing guys, like, duh, okay, great, that's not helpful. Instead of worrying about that, like, let's remove all of the extra annoying guys, the barnacles of life who are just sucking your time and your energy. Get rid of all them. Now all of a sudden you're gonna be free and open to attract these amazing guys that you're really looking for. The really nerdy way to say this, if— and I just have to add this in— is like, we're going to try to help you avoid asymmetric downside, like the disasters. We can help you avoid the disasters. We're going to help you find what you're really looking for.

I love that, Gary. I think that's really nice. What's left is divine. What's left is beautiful. The Michelangelo strategy. As you were talking about this, I was thinking back to a client that had started with us maybe a year ago, and this happened a couple weeks into us working together. She came on a mastermind with me, and she was telling me about how the past 3 years have been so brutal dating. And she's gone on like 50 first dates. She's talking to like 15 guys. They're all sucking her emotional energy dry. She's talking to one guy who appears to be narcissistic, maybe even sociopathic. And I just— I let her go on for about 5 minutes just venting because I know she needed that vent. I totally get that. Sometimes we just need to vent. And then I just look at her and I just say, cut them all. Cut them all. Delete, delete, delete. Removal. Clean slate. We need a new marble block to just start building our our new Michelangelo statue. We do. And sometimes that happens in different areas of our life where we just need a clean slate, we just need to start from scratch. And that's kind of where like the big brother energy comes in. I feel like Gary and I, that's what a lot of our clients will say. We're kind of like the big brothers watching out for you, and we'll just tell you to you straight. And that's what we're going to do in this podcast. And, uh, I would love in return, if you get something from this podcast, please do you mind just leaving us a review? Maybe share it with a friend. Let us know what's going on. We'd love to hear from all our little love sisters out there who are listening to this pod, who are getting value. We really do care about every single one of you getting the results that you want in your love life, and that would really help us out a lot. And I gotta say, Gary and I like text about these reviews, and we're so excited when we get a good one. Gary, don't— is that true? Like, whenever we get a really fun one, we're just like, yeah, let's go!

Well, that whole— I like you bringing up the Big Brother thing because that's one of the reviews said that. I was like, oh my gosh, like, I feel like that is like the most authentic nice comment. It's like, these guys feel like— I was like, yeah, I, I love that. I, I love that whole idea.

Love it. All right, so let's get into these 5 guys that we want to avoid like the plague. Gary, start us off, buddy.

All right, number 1, the chatty, fun, superficial guy. Now this sounds pretty good on some level, right? Like, you know, Adam and I were talking before this podcast. We're both kind of chatty fun guys, right?

But speak for yourself, buddy.

You, you're the chattiest fun guy I know. Um, and so this sounds pretty good. Like, he's super fun, he's entertaining, he keeps the conversation going, he's got lots of stories. Like, and those stories, like, they're super interesting—places he's traveled, things he's done. The stories make him seem fun and interesting and like, all that sounds great, but is it ideal? And so here's the problem with the chatty, fun, superficial guy. He dazzles you with all the shiny objects of all this fun, interesting stuff, but it doesn't actually tell you very much about him. There's virtually no substance. There's no emotions. There's very little real self-disclosure. There's no real depth. He's always redirecting. Or saying he'd rather not talk about it if you ask him anything. Now pause just for a second. Ask yourself, why is he doing that? Like, why would a guy keep redirecting away from anything of substance? The answer to that question— it doesn't matter what the answer is, there's no good answer, right? And so a lot of times he's going to redirect by asking you a lot of questions, which that feels amazing because it's like not every guy necessarily that's interested in you You've certainly been on dates where that hasn't been the case. So he's not reciprocating. Now you want to reciprocate. You're doing what you should do on a date is trying to learn about him. So you ask him, you know, what was your childhood like? You know, what about your past relationships? Like, what's been going on? And he just kind of keeps redirecting, says there's not much to say. I don't want to bore you with those details. Let's— oh, that's a boring topic. Let's talk about something else. And it's all— he's charming. He's super good at it. And he like redirects you with some other super cool story, like, oh, let's not talk about my childhood. But you know what? There was this one time. Cool, but it's like, it's not really getting where you want to go, which is emotional connection.

Yeah, I feel like one of the easier tests to know if you can go deeper with someone— and that's what I consider to be the problem with the chatty fun guys, that he just doesn't go deep on anything— is to just ask him why about anything. You know, if he's talking about he loves to go skiing and he loves to do this and some crazy story when he went up to Canada and skied whatever, you know, he's talking, you know, why is skiing so important to you? What does that bring out for you? You know, why is such a powerful emotional question. Even just asking someone if they're talking a lot about their work, like, why did you choose to get into that? What drew you to that? It's an easy way to just go deeper with any person. And if they're not able to really self-reflect or understand, and you can do that in so many different areas of a conversation, But if they're not able to go much deeper, then you're going to find that this relationship is only going to last 2 to 3 months. There's nothing more to— there's nothing more to get into. There's no— there's no iceberg under the ocean. It's just a floating piece of ice. That's it. There's nothing under there, you know. And, um, the unfortunate thing is these people, these types of guys, can be incredibly distracting in your love life because, um, these guys in the first couple of months are incredibly exciting, they're incredibly fun, but they're not really going to be great partners for you in the long term. They're not. Yeah.

And here's, here's the other thing. This chatty fun guy, he's got a twin. It's the fun amazing date guy. Fun amazing date guy is virtually the same thing. You want to go on date. Like, you hear from this guy and he's like, hey, you, are you free? It's like, yes, I'm free. Because you know it's going to be fun, you know it's going to be amazing. But again, you're going to do a lot of really super fun things, but You're not really learning much about the person. And like Adam said, this is still mystery. Like, these relationships last about 3 months because what you think is going to happen is we do a bunch of fun stuff and eventually I'm going to see what's underneath the iceberg. But you're not. There is nothing there because he's either not able to share or not willing to share. Both are bad. And so like, we want to get out ahead of that stuff and avoiding this and not falling for this trap is super important.

Yeah, the perpetual flirt can get annoying after a while. If it's just like, it's fun to flirt at first, that's what builds the spark, that's what builds the connection at first. But if you're finding that by date 10, that's, that's all he's got, then that's all he's got. That's all there is. No one's at home. Hello, is anyone home? Is anyone there? No. There's nothing else there.

Don't do it. Oh, but Adam, that guy is so easy to date. He's so easy to date. He makes everything— he approaches you, he's— he leads the conversation, and he says funny things, and he touches, and it's like, oh, it's amazing. Look out. Easy to date, hard to love. Yeah, yeah, right. Hard. I love that. Easy to date, hard to love. Here's another guy. Easy to date, hard to love. The mysterious, quiet, but evasive guy. He's quiet. It's not that he's shy. He's like, it's, he's just not giving much. He doesn't have a lot to offer. Here's the benefit though. Sometimes these guys, it's easy to date this guy because he's not saying anything dumb. Guys, we're men. We've been known to say some dumb things. Guys on dates, um, say dumb things. And so if he's being quiet, he asks you a lot of questions. He just kind of lets you fill the room with conversation, like, that can be appealing. The other thing that's appealing about this quiet guy is when he doesn't say much, he's leaving a lot of blank space, and it's letting you fill in the blanks, what we call fibbing, with overly positive, hopeful thoughts. You're now dating based on hope instead of reality, and so you risk giving him a lot more credit than he deserves. He's not giving you anything, so you're just imagining all the positive versions of this because Things are going pretty well. The other thing about the quiet guy, he's a little mysterious. It can feel like a little bit of a challenge. It's like, oh, this guy, I gotta break this guy out of his shell. Can I— like, no one else has been able to break this guy, but I can. Can I be the one to crack the emotional safe? I've got this. And it's like you start like convincing yourself like it's like this special connection because maybe he will only share it with you. And the thing is, and this is, this is another one that's not going to last more than a couple months. You can only really be in a fulfilling relationship with someone who can communicate. Imagine the next 5 months, 5 years, 10, God forbid, 10 years with someone who's quiet, shut down, and mysterious all the time, right? Your partner, your relationship partner is going to be the person you're going to have literally thousands of conversations with. Can you imagine having thousands of conversations with mysterious, quiet, evasive guy? Uh, no, no, absolutely not.

And I think a very important caveat to this point is that we're not saying just because someone's shy or introverted that they're— we're not saying that that person's wrong for you. I, I happen to think I'm— I've worked with literally hundreds of men who are incredibly introverted, who are incredibly shy on a first date. I used to coach men on how to flirt. How to build connections and all that stuff. And these are wonderful, wonderful guys. Here's the difference: on the first date, they might be a little bit shy and quiet and introverted, but once they get to know you, they're gonna open up, okay? And so the caveat to all of this is don't judge him too hard on the first date if he's quiet or a little shy or a little mysterious. But if you're on the third to fifth date and this guy's still not opening up and it's like pulling teeth to get this guy to say anything, to communicate, to share— good luck. The good news is you're probably not going to be that attracted to him anyways if that's the case. But, you know, I've, I've seen it. There's some guys who are— can be really tall, handsome, interesting, sometimes financially successful, who will kind of pull you in even though, once again, they got nothing to say. There's nothing going on. It's no one at home. Once again, I think—

whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I, I think your point about the first date versus second date is, is really important because these— the introverted guy who's a little quiet, these are great guys. Like, they will be great at conversation. It's going to take a little longer to warm up. So that first date, a little quiet, give him the second date, see how he is. He's gonna be a lot better on that second date, then you, you probably are going to need at least a third to be sure as a tiebreaker to see like which was it, which version of am I going to get, the first one or the second one. But those are good, great long-term partners. Now another guy, another guy you need to avoid like the plague is the emotionally broken guy. And now you're thinking, well, of course, who in the world would want that? Well, actually, uh, plenty of people. Because this guy, he doesn't say, hi, nice to meet you. I'm Ed, the emotionally broken guy. He shows you a version of himself that's a little precarious. He's a little wounded and you're kind. He's lost. You're someone that is good at having a plan. He's lacking. You are someone who has a lot to offer. His brokenness gives you a chance to focus on something other than himself. His problems help make you feel more confident, more capable, and in charge, right? He, by his lack, by his issues, by him feeling a little downtrodden, gives you a chance to really step up. And some of this is procrastination on your part, right? There's a saying that productivity is procrastination, right, where You know, you're just being productive so you can put off something else. Well, project partners are also procrastination. Taking on these project partners, it's kind, it's caring, yes. But why? Why are you choosing this path? This is the much harder path. What are you postponing? What are you trying to— what do you really need to focus on that you're avoiding and putting off by taking on a project partner?

Look out. Look out. Because the feminine energy is naturally very nurturing, very caring. And wants to support people. And sometimes a man will come into your life who needs the support, and you'll be drawn to him like a moth to a flame. And it's gonna feel good at first. Oh my God, is it gonna feel good to finally be needed by someone, to care, and to finally have someone to fix? Oh, that sounds great. But where's that going to lead you? I want you to all think about that. Where's that going to lead you in the next 3 to 5 years? Dating is an inherently selfish process. Relationships are not. But when you're still dating and exploring potential partners, I want all of you to be focused on yourself and what is going to set you up for success in the long term. And that means that if a man comes into your life who is emotionally broken, he's going through some stuff, he has some mental health challenges that he hasn't yet even started to work on. He's lonely. He needs you to be there for him every step of the way because his life is chaos. It's important for you to say no to those guys, to protect yourself through the process, because it's, again, it's going to be incredibly alluring to you. As being in your feminine, especially as you work this process, can be very, very, very tempting. Don't do it. Don't do it.

Well, I know what you just said is gonna— about you need to be a little selfish in dating— is going to land with some people like, oh gosh, I don't want to do that. Well, guess what? He's doing it for sure, right? Guys are out there focused on what they're— what they need, and it— that's okay. Like, we can all focus on what we need because Hopefully what you need and what he needs are aligned. Like, those things should match up and you can provide those things for each other, and that's fine. I mean, that, that's how partnerships of all sorts work.

Definitely. At first, and when again I say this, in before you are exclusive, it's selfish, right? Once you're in an exclusive committed relationship, now it's 1 1 3. You're focusing all of your energy on that person. They're focusing all of their energy on you. Therefore, 1 1 3, which is a fantastic thing. But until that period where— until that moment where you say, hey, we're just going to focus on each other and be exclusive, you have got to be a little ruthless. You got to be a little bit selfish, and you got to say no when these guys come into your life. Gary, it's kind of like when I've been getting a lot of these ads on YouTube, just to totally switch topics. Where they're like asking for, uh, $20 a month for like the puppies that like really need your help and support. Oh, and do you ever get those? I have not.

But is this like the Sarah McLachlan Arms of an Angel thing playing in the background? Yes, yes.

And it's— it takes every bit of my might not to spend $20 every time I see one of those ads. And I don't know if this is going to land the plane at all. I actually sound like a terrible person by not doing that, but not—

no one— damn puppies, your money, Adam.

No one does. But, but there's those puppies out there. I don't know what to do. But that's the thing, is it's going to elicit the same response to everyone when they did it. God, it sounds so terrible right now, but everyone who's listening, I'm sorry, no one gives all of their money to the puppies because, uh, oh God, Gary, help me, help me, Gary.

No, I'm not, I'm not. You sound like Cruella to Adam, the hater.

My point is, if you were really into your feminine and this guy comes into your life, it's gonna be like seeing one of those commercials of these poor puppies that really need your help, and you're gonna realize you can't service all the puppies of the world. You gotta let them go.

It goes back to that age-old metaphor about, you know, when you're in the plane, you got to put your mask on first.

Thank you. Better.

Thank you. Or you can't pour from an empty cup. Adam, you can't pour from an empty cup.

Oh my God, that's gonna be the last time I use that example. I'm sweating over here.

I'm like, I'm dying laughing.

Uh, I hate puppies. No, I love puppies, everybody. The point was, I love puppies. Anyways, with that said, let me give you all something that I think you can use a lot, just to save myself here in this moment. For those of you who want to avoid the red flags when you're getting out there, these guys who are just gonna be sucking up all of your emotional energy. There's a number of red flags to watch out for, and your greatest protector that's gonna help you through this process is understanding these red flags and be able to say that magical 4-letter word, which is next, and moving on to the next. And so we have a very special training. It's an interactive virtual training that's gonna walk you through the 7 Little Love Steps. And it's really cool. It actually customizes based on your unique situation. It's kind of like choose your own adventure training. You're gonna really like this a lot. So head on over to thelovesteps.com. It's going to walk you through this step by step. It's going to teach you the 7 Little Love Steps. It's something we've been teaching for the past decade to help successful single women get out there and attract love. Go through that process, and if at the end you'd like to, you can book a complimentary love strategy session that is going to be your greatest protector throughout the dating process. And I love puppies.

All right, so In terms of the guys you must avoid, this is number 4. It could be number 1. This might be the most important one because this guy is super common. This is the boyfriend experience guy. He's great in many ways. Things are going well in your relationship. You're on date 4 or 5. Things just seem ideal. Like, this is fantastic. But it's been going on kind of long enough where you're like wondering, where's this going? Like, what is this? And so you have the conversation, you start dropping hints, and you start getting into it a little bit, and he says something along the lines of, what we have is great, I'm just really not looking for commitment, I just kind of want to stay where we're at and just kind of keep things casual. And it's like, okay, like, but things have been going really well, so you just kind of think to yourself, like, that's not really true, he doesn't really mean that, he just hasn't met the right person, he hasn't been in this relationship long enough. And that's the trap. That's why you want to avoid this guy, because That's not true. When a guy tells you he's not looking for commitment and he's not interested or ready or any of those kind of words about commitment, you need to believe him because there's no good reason for him to say this. There's actually really great incentives for him to lie and be like, yeah, I'm totally into commitment, right? But so when he tells you he's not interested in commitment, believe him, because I am of the opinion that 99.98% of guys out there do not want to think of themselves as bad guys. So if he's not interested in long term, he wants to get out in front of it and say to you like, yeah, I'm not interested in anything long term. So then that way, when it comes to pass that he's really not interested in long term, he can basically say like, but I told you this, I was clear, I was honest, I was open. And a lot of times these guys will say these kinds of things and you'll say like, oh, you know, where do you kind of see ourselves and what are you really looking for? He's like, oh, I'm not really looking to be tied down, really looking for anything. And he'll say, well, how about you? And in that moment, part of you is going to want to say, yeah, yeah, me either, me either, we're on the same page. Don't do that. Don't do that.

Don't do it. Don't do it. It's a trap. It's a trap. And when a guy goes out of his way and says this, if you respond by saying, yeah, you know, I'm— I kind of want to keep it casual too, we'll see where this whole thing goes. If you keep dating that guy and disregard your own desire for a relationship, you can't blame him later. And he knows that's the key. Yep. It's a— and it's true. At that moment forward, if you keep seeing him, ladies, It's on you. This is like big brother talking to his sister here. It's on you at that point because he told you where he stands, what he wants, what the deal is, what is the dilly. You can't come back 3 months later and be like surprised if he's texting with other women. You can't be surprised if he breaks up with you suddenly and then is getting engaged 2 months later to a woman he was dating at the same time as you. Don't be surprised. He told you. Well, I've been forewarned.

When he tells you, instead of saying, oh yeah, me too, I'm not looking for anything serious, tell him honestly what you're looking for. I'm looking for commitment and a future lifelong partner. Say, be honest. You, he's being honest, you be honest too. Now you're thinking, but Gary, and I've had clients say this to me, but Gary, that's going to scare him away. And you want to say, good, good, he doesn't want what you want. You don't want him if he doesn't want what you want, and you're not going to convince him. You're not going to be the one to magically flip the switch. It's none of that stuff. And like Adam said, it's a trap. It's specifically a dopamine trap. Dopamine is not about getting pleasure. It's about the chase. It's about the challenge of possibly obtaining something amazing. And so these guys, these boyfriend experience guys who are saying they don't want commitment, then you try to start convincing yourself maybe it's possible, you're creating a dopamine trap for yourself because you think, if only I just do blank, it's going to work out. If only this, if only that, I can get there. And you're gambling with your happiness is just honestly what you're doing. And so we want to avoid that guy completely.

Yeah. Do you want the boyfriend experience, which isn't even a boyfriend, it's just the experience of having a boyfriend, or do you want a real man and a husband? That's the decision you need to make now. And once you make that decision, stand by it. Yeah, for sure.

All right, last one. The last guy you must avoid— calling this guy the Transformer. He's the guy who doesn't actually really like you. And again, you're like, well, why would I be interested in somebody who doesn't like me? Well, it started a little while ago, like a long while ago. It started on the playground when you were young, right? When you were young, playground even just like in class, like the boys who would chase you around and torment you, the boys that would tease you. You'd come home and say to some adult like, oh, Jimmy was doing blank, blank, blank, and he's so annoying. And then your well-meaning adult would basically say, oh, well, listen, you know why he's doing that, right? You're like, because he's a jerk. And like, no, no, no, he's not a jerk. It's because he likes you. Oh gosh, this is like the one parenting adult well-meaning advice thing I would wish I could banish from the earth. This is the dumbest thing you could ever tell somebody. It's like, this person's mean to you because they like you. And like, you're young when people tell you this stuff, so this like leaves a mark. It's like, oh, people who like me will first treat me terribly. That's a sign. Like, no, it's, it's not. You want to date people who like you. Write that down in ink somewhere. Like, that is just like the most basic obvious truth that sometimes we don't treat as basic and obvious. And it's like, if this guy doesn't really like you, why is he sticking around? And sometimes these guys won't really like you, and it's because they're gonna try to transform you. He's gonna— he's like, oh, guys take on project partners too, you know, right? He's like, I'm going to transform this woman into the person I really want. Yeah, she's got a great career, but I don't really want that. I'm gonna convince her that that's not what she wants, and I'm gonna convince her of this and convince her of that. It's That's obviously not what you want, and this guy is somebody you've got to avoid.

Yeah, if he's trying to change something fundamental about your being or your character, watch out. Same thing on the other side of things, because we all know that if someone doesn't want to change, then they're not going to change. Like, for, for example, let's say you happen to be on the shyer, quieter side. You're just not the type of person who wants to go out every weekend and go to big parties and mingle with people and have small talk. Let's just say that's the example. And you're with a guy who is the ultimate on that front. That's all he wants to do on the weekends is spend time with other people, and all he's trying to do is constantly turn you into an outgoing, extroverted person who loves to be around people. That's a big problem. It's not a problem if he wants to go off and do those things and you're kind of like the more quiet type, and maybe you go sometimes, maybe other nights you just kind of stay in, and you're on the same page and he accepts you for who you are. That's okay, that can work. But if he's constantly trying to turn you into someone that you are not, and more importantly, someone who you do not want to be, watch out, because he's a transformer. He's just going around trying to transform people into their you know, into whatever it is, molded sculpture that he's really looking for. And I promise you, you're going to wake up 3 years from now wondering who you even are at this point, because he's going to chip away at you. And that's where you lose your sense of identity, and we don't want that for you. And so if any of these have rung true for you, these types of guys, you've been experiencing these types of guys, maybe it's time for a new strategy. And that's what we're here to do. What I would really encourage everyone listening to this right now to do is head on over to loveapply.com. You can kind of skip the line and jump on a complimentary Love Strategy session. That's where someone on my team is going to speak with you one-on-one over Zoom, get to know your story, get to learn about you, where it is that you've struggled, why you're attracting these types of guys, understand where it is that you want to go in your love life, the type of man relationship that will make you feel seen, heard, understood. And then we're going to map out a strategy for you. If you want to take that strategy and go try and do that on your own, you're welcome to do that. Or if you decide you want to work with us with coaching, with our executive love coaching program, we call it Love Accelerator, we'd love to welcome you with open arms. Again, that's loveapply.com. We'll leave a link in the description. Gary, thank you so much, man. This was really fun. This is an enjoyable one. I appreciate you. Save the puppies, Adam. Save the puppies. Save the puppies. All right, speak soon. Later, buddy.