7 Subtle Things Men Do to Test Women

Ladies, whether you know it or not, these guys out there, they are testing you. They are seeing whether or not you are relationship material. And in today's video, we're going to be talking about some of these seven very subtle things that men are doing out there to really test to see whether or not they should continue seeing you or whether or not they're just going to put you in that kind of casual fling type of category. And here's the thing about these tests. It is not like a teacher giving a student a test and then there's like a pass or fail instead, kind of like a toddler testing their parents to see what it is that they can get away with. For example, I was just hanging out with my buddy who has four children. Oh my God, God bless his soul. And they're all under the age of nine. And we were cooking dinner together. We're at his house and, you know, the wives were just hanging out, talking. The boys were on cooking duty. And two of his kids, one of them was 3 years old, kept going up to the oven and was about to touch it and we said, don't do that, you're going to get your fingers burned. You don't want to do that. But the kid, the toddler, just kept getting just close enough to the oven to see whether or not we would respond. And weirdly enough, when a guy is testing you in dating, it's kind of like that toddler who's just testing you to see what it is that you can get away with. And more importantly, just like a toddler, they don't really know that they're doing it. They just are doing it anyways. Like, these guys out there aren't talking to their buddies before a first date with you being like, oh, I'm going to, I'm test this woman tonight to see whether or not she's relationship material. No, they are just doing these things to see how it is that you might respond. They're doing it in the moment. And this is their way of kind of subtly knowing she going to be right for me. And so much of this is based on my experience of having been a dating coach for hundreds of men in the past. And the types of guys I was coaching were the good guys, but they were really looking for a wife. They were looking for a long term, healthy, committed relationship. So they would be going out there and testing women to see whether or not they were right for them. So I'm going to walk you through these seven tests and they are in the order of how they'll show up in your dating life. So the first couple of tests will show up early on the dating process. The next few tests will show up later on in a relationship. But I have a caveat. This is very important. It is not about passing these tests, okay? This is not about you just trying to pass his test and play by his rules. Heck no. I'm revealing this to you so that you know when these tests are happening and then you can stay true to your authentic self. The last thing I want you to do is try and mold yourself to this guy and his rules. The first test is the casual first date test. This is when a guy on a first date takes out a woman and sees whether or not he can sleep with her on the first date. Now, not all guys do this, and not all guys who do this are necessarily bad guys, but some guys will do this. They'll push the envelope just a little bit to see if you're the type of woman who will just meet a guy for the first time on a very first meetup from an online dating site and go home with them. And this can weirdly be the make or break moment for a lot of guys to determine whether or not it's just going to be a casual short term fling or potentially a long term relationship. Some of these guys will try to get you into bed, but sadly they will judge you if you end up sleeping with them. I know, I know, it's awful, it's terrible. I get it. And I have known some guys in my life who literally did this, but I can't do anything about that. All I can do is tell you that this test exists. So how do we move forward? It's very simple. If you're following what we call the seven little love steps and you're getting out there and attracting a high caliber guy, then it's very important for us to move very slow through the dating process. We're not going out with some guy that we just met who's basically a stranger trying to get us into bed. Hell no. Instead, the more he tries to sleep with you, especially on a first date, the more we are going to slow it down. And if he really crosses the boundary and it's clear that he's only interested in sex, then we're going to say that magical four letter word repeat after me next and move on to the next. The second test is what I call the last minute texting test. This is when a guy will text you last minute to see whether or not you'll go out with them. I'm sure you've experienced this. It's a Friday night. You already got your comfs on, you're watching tv, you got a little bit of Netflix going, maybe you got some of that ramen noodle soup ready to go. And then you get that text from that guy that you've been pretty excited about seeing, but nothing has yet come up for you guys to go out yet. And he texts you what you do, and you're thinking to yourself, do I take off my comps? Do I go put on my makeup? Do I get ready and do I go out with this guy? Because this might be my only opportunity to actually meet this dude. But don't do it. It's a trap. It is a trap because this guy is testing you to see whether or not you will drop everything you got going, that delicious ramen dumpling soup, if you'll just drop all that to go out with them. And we're not playing that game. And so we're not going to do that. If a guy text you last minutes, he's going to have to wait to see you and plan ahead. But the most important way to ensure you don't fall victim to this trap is to just always be busy, have a very full social calendar so that a guy could never even try to text you last minute because you're not sitting at home drinking ramen noodle soup and sipping it out of the bowl. You're actually going out and meeting other guys at the same time. That's what we do here with the seven little love steps. And by the way, if you want to learn all the seven little love steps, just go to thelovesteps.com I have a free training there that's going to walk you through our entire step by step process that we have used to help tens of thousands of women just like you attract the love that they truly deserve. The third test is what I call the teasing test. This is when a guy teases you kind of like a middle schooler, like you're on the playground and he's just poking fun of you and seeing whether or not you'll respond. And look, this isn't the worst thing in the world, so long as it's done with some class. Like some of flirtation is actually kind of lightly teasing and poking fun of someone. But it's not done in like a hurtful or mean way. It's done in a fun and playful way. For example, let's say I met a woman from, I don't know, Chicago and she tells me she's from Chicago. And I look at her dead in the eye and I'm like, oh, God, no, please don't tell me you're a deep dish pizza lover now. I could probably do better in that moment. I get it. I just thought of that at the top of my mind. But that is an example of kind of a playful, flirtatious tease. I'm kind of poking fun of her. And by the way, deep dish pizza is kind of disgusting. But if a guy is doing this, he's testing you to see if you can hang. He's testing you to see if you can banter. Because there are some people out there who can't take a joke. They take dating so seriously that it's like an interview process. And anything, anything goes outside of the standard operating procedure of the date. They kind of freak out. And guys who are fun and playful, who like to tease and poke fun and talk a little bit of sometimes they're not gonna mesh well with that type of person. And so if a guy teases you softly and lightly, tease him back, have a little bit of fun with it or laugh about it. If he's teasing you inappropriately, of course we're gonna say that magical four letter word, which is next, and move on to the next. But don't take it personally. He's not trying to hurt your feelings, he's just teasing you. Kind of like that middle schooler at the playgr. Fourth test is the first fight test. Now, as things start to progress, you're going to have some type of an argument with this guy. You're going to have conflict. And how that conflict goes tells you and tells him a lot about how the relationship will proceed. Did he go off the rails? Was it complete emotional volatility? Or were you able to reason through the challenge and actually grow the relationship from the fight? I've seen far too many relationships end based on one conflict that happens in the relationship. And sometimes it's deserved and sometimes they should have just worked through it a little bit harder. The fifth test is the hang with the boys test. This is when you finally meet some of his close buddies and see whether or not you can hang with the boys. Now, for all of you beautiful ladies out there who didn't have brothers, this can be a very eye opening moment when you're just hanging out with him and his friends. Because guys communicate very differently with each other than how you ladies communicate with your friends. Now, earlier we were talking about the teasing test, how a guy might tease you A little bit. But when guys hang out with each other, oh my God, do we make fun of each other? And I remember the first time that I introduced my wife to some of my buddies. It was actually during a Patriots super bowl event in 2015. Seahawks versus the Patriots. One of the greatest comebacks of all time. And that's a side note, but I remember when my wife was hanging out with my buddies, she was just like one of the guys. She was able to bust balls with some of these guys, hang out, just mesh with the group. And honestly, she was kind of poking fun of me throughout the time because that's how my buddies were doing. She was poking fun of me because of course I was trying to go to bed early. That's what I usually try to do. And it was all good. It was like she was just one of the guys. And I'm telling you, it was that night when I'm like, I think I'm going to marry this woman. Moving on to number six, which is the trust test. This is when a guy shares something very deep and very vulnerable with you to see whether or not he can really trust you with his feelings and his emotions. Because sadly a lot of women will say they want a guy to be vulnerable and to open up with them, but when the guy actually does that, they will tear him down and judge him for being a little weak. It's so important when a guy finally starts opening up to you and sharing something that is not so perfect, something going on in his life, something that he's insecure about, for you to kind of encourage him to open up and try and listen because that's where the deepest level connections really exist. And the final test is the test where he introduces you to the family. If he's serious about long lasting commitment with you, it's very likely he wants to see how it is that you will interact with his family. So I'd love to hear from you in the comments below. Have you ever tested a guy with any of these tests I mentioned in the video? Leave that comment right there below. 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