5 signs a guy doesn't like you (NEXT!)

This is it, ladies. This might be the final video I ever create about the signs that a guy doesn't like you. Because I'm getting really tired of all of you who are wasting all of that incredible, beautiful energy that you have within you on these duds who don't deserve your time. So my goal today is to just give you these signs once and for all. A man isn't into you. Because I'm. I'm like your big brother out there. I'm watching out for all of you. I feel like I have like a hundred million sisters out there who are getting out there and dating. I am your brother who's watching out for every single one of you. And I want you to recognize the value that you give in a relationship, the value you give to guys. And stop wasting time on these emotional energy vampires who are sucking up all of your energy. And at the end of this video, I'm going to give you a very powerful technique that will allow you to break this habit once and for all. So. So let's start with sign number five. That a guy just doesn't like you. The biggest sign of them all is that you are trying to get a guy to like you. If a guy isn't pursuing you, this isn't just like a flashing light invitation to try harder. This is quite the opposite. If you feel like you have to go online and figure out how do I get a man to like me, Then guess what, that is the biggest sign of them all for you to actually create space and create distance. Now I get it. You're probably like me. You're super competitive and you don't like it when a guy doesn't like you. Especially that tall, handsome, successful guy that you have wanted to be with, but he's just not quite into it. I get it. You want to manifest him into your life. But the only way to do it is to not follow your instinct is to do the exact opposite. Your instinct, because your instinct. If you're a type A Alpha woman out there who's trying to find love, your instinct is probably to try and bring him back in. Do whatever it is you can. But that is the wrong instinct. Do the opposite. Create the space. Focus your energy elsewhere. And if this guy is fighting for you, then great, we can explore him. But if he's not, say that magical four letter word which is next and move on to the next. Please. Whatever you do, don't fall into that chaser mode where you start pursuing the guy and trying to get him to like you. Number Four is that he says the following words. I'm not looking for a relationship right now. If a man goes out of his way to say these words to a woman, then let me tell you something. This is fact. There's no denying this fact. He doesn't want a relationship with you. Take it for what it is. He doesn't want a relationship with you. And that might have nothing to do with you as a person. It just means that that is a fact that you need to please listen to. Now, I know this can be incredibly confusing because a guy will this, but then all of his actions will show that maybe he is open to a relationship. But I want you to recognize this, and this is coming straight from a guy's mouth. He might like you enough to kind of get his sexual needs met, but he doesn't quite like you enough to have a relationship with you. Now, I understand this sounds really, really harsh, and I'm intentionally doing that so that you don't waste the next five years with this guy trying to get him to want a relationship with you, trying to get him to like you. And it's not happening. The best thing that you can do is recognize it. It might be painful in the short term, but over the next three to five years, you will be so much better off by just setting your focus elsewhere. I just spoke with a client last week who just started working with us, and she has been in a casual situationship with a guy for five years. And guess what? This man for the past five years has been saying he is not looking for a relationship. 5. And guess what? For the entire five years, she was doing everything she could to get him to want a relationship. And then she came on A Mastermind with me, and she was talking about how this man was very toxic, how this man was using her for five years. And everyone was chiming in, being like, yeah, he's the worst. He's the worst. And I said, nope, hold on one second. Let's take a hard look at the reality of this situation. He was telling you everything you needed to know for five years. I'm not going to let you pass the blame onto him. It's time for you to take ownership of this situation and recognize that you didn't listen to his words. You continued investing in the relationship, and now you're frustrated that it didn't work out. I'll admit she didn't like this at first, but by the end of the session, she had recognized that she is in total control of her love life. She makes all of the decisions she's created, the outcome of of her current situation. And now that she's recognized that, guess what? She has all of the power in her love life to make a change. Never play victim to your love life. You are the common denominator. And once you recognize that, guess what? It's all up to you to create the love life that you truly deserve. The third sign that he's just not that into you is that he's not trying to close the gap in the relationship. You see, at the beginning of every new relationship, there's always a gap. And it might be an emotional gap, it might be a physical gap, it might be the amount of time you spend together, but there's always a gap at the earliest stages when you're just getting to know someone. And if a man is not fighting to close that gap, or in fact he's creating more of the gap as much as possible, then guess what? He's not really ready for a relationship with you right now. If there's anything that our clients get from working with us when we start coaching them, it's that they say, well, wow, I now have three guys who are chasing me right now who are pursuing me, and they're all trying to close the gap. They're trying to get more of my attention, they're trying to get more of my focus. They're trying to get more of my emotional intimacy. They want more of me, rather than the opposite where I'm trying to get more. And it's just a very subtle but profound shift where all of these guys are just trying to slowly close that gap. If it's not happening, then guess what? Go find a guy who is trying to close the gap. The second sign that he's just not that into you is that there's a lack of integration with your lives. Once you start dating someone for two months, three months and beyond, typically what happens is your lives become a little bit more integrated with one another, and the integration continues forward for the lifetime of the relationship, for the rest of your lives together. In fact, my wife and I, our lives are still, even 11 years later, still being more and more integrated. And if you've been with a guy who. Who doesn't want to show you his world, he doesn't want to introduce you to his friends, he doesn't want to take you to work events, he doesn't want to integrate you into his life, slowly but surely, then guess what? He's not really interested in anything serious with you. In my experience, healthy relationships are where two People live independent lives that become integrated with one another. Integration doesn't mean that you're losing sight of yourself, your identity, or your interests, or even your friends. It just means that the relationship is completely interwoven between you and him. And the number one sign that a man is just not in it. He's not in it for you, he's not in it for the long haul, is that you are constantly confused by his behavior. If a man's actions or words are constantly leaving you feeling like, I don't get it, or I need to chase him or I need to bring him back in, then it's important for you to take a hard look at that feeling. Consistency feels secure. It feels like you're at home with a person. It doesn't leave you constantly wondering, what is this? What are we going to be? Where are we going? And I believe a man's role in a relationship is to communicate that, to lead the relationship, to guide a woman and to be sure that she's on the same page with him. A man who's not interested in you or a man who's not stepping to his masculine will constantly leave you feeling confused. Regardless, you don't want that guy. Now, at the beginning of the video, I told you about a very powerful way to ensure you never repeat this pattern with dating these types of guys ever again. And the way to do that is to reach what I call the Enlightenment period. And that is that when a man is not clearly interested in you or clearly attracted to you, then that in itself becomes unattractive to you. For example, if you go out on a couple of dates with a guy, everything seems really good, but then suddenly he just kind of disappears. Or it's been two weeks and he's been pretty non communicative, then guess what? Rather than being like, how do I re engage him? How do I get him to like me? Instead, when you're at the Enlightenment period, you start thinking to yourself, ugh, why would I even give this man any more of my time? He's kind of not hot anymore. This is such an important distinction that literally sets you free in your love life. Because I remember this for myself, like in my early 20s, if a woman wasn't that interested in me, Like, I took that as a pure invitation to try so hard to win her over. I mean, I even think back to own dating life in my early 20s. If a woman wasn't that interested in me or she was just kind of being standoffish or flaky, I remember that was like the ultimate invitation for me to just try harder. And it felt like I was constantly beating my head against the wall, spending 90% of my energy on the, let's say, 10% of women who had no interest in me. And what a waste of time. Like what a waste of time. What a waste of energy. And when I hit this kind of enlightenment period, suddenly I flipped the script and I said, those 10% of women who have absolutely no interest in me, they're done. Next, goodbye. I'm not even attracted to them anymore. Why would I be attracted to someone who's not into me? And suddenly my entire schedule, all my emotional energies completely opened up and I started focusing all of my energy just on the women who are clearly engaged. So I challenge you all, starting today, reach that enlightenment period. If a man isn't clearly into you, he is dead to you. Let me know what you think in the comments. Speak to you all very soon.