7 Secret Signs He's Extremely Attracted to You

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Later, on another date, he calls back to some of that stuff that you shared. He references things that you mentioned. He shows that he's invested and he's paying attention. Because when you really care about anything, you ask good questions and you care about the answer, and that information kind of gets baked in. You don't forget about it, and then you use it. In the future, if he's showing that ability, he's not doing it by accident. Like, it's showing that he's really attractive.

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It's the classic, does he like me? But, like, does he like me like me? Like, really actually like me? Is he just interested? Is he just kind of passing the time? Or is he extremely attracted? And let's be honest, early on the dating process, you're dating a couple people. You're talking to a couple people. He probably is too. And the other thing our clients are wondering is like, of all the people he might be talking to now, am I his favorite? Am I the one he really likes? Or am I the one that's just kind of he's spending time with and just trying to figure out, like, does he really, does he like, does he like me? Like me?

Yeah, absolutely. And the thing is, our clients are extremely busy. I mean, I just got off a session with one of our really high end clients. I mean, the one thing she talks about is how time to her is so precious. She doesn't want to waste time. And the big thing is, I think less than just wasting time, they don't want. Our clients don't want to waste their emotional energy investing a guy who isn't really invested in them. Like, I think people, when they say they don't want to waste time, they're mostly like, I don't want to get hurt. That's what I always read it as, right?

Yeah, you don't want to fall for somebody who's not interested in you. Right. You don't want to put yourself out there only to get your heart trampled on. Right. And so it, like, that's really what it boils down to. At any age, at any time when it comes to relationships, you don't want to get rejected. And so the easiest way to figure out if a guy likes you is you could just come right out and ask him, like, kind sir, do you fancy me? Like, do you like me?

Please don't do that.

Hello.

Hello. Please do you like me? With some, some tea?

Would you fancy a spa tea with me?

Oh, my God. I did that to a girl. Her name is Fallon. In middle school. And that was my first degree of heartbreak was going. Actually, I think what I said to her as a starting point was, you have nice nails. And then so I started with a compliment. So I had a little bit of game. It's a middle school game.

That's a middle school game. Yes. Strong middle school game.

Yeah. I think I was like, so do you like, like me? And she's just like, yeah, you're okay.

Yeah.

Well, that didn't go the way that I wanted. And then I needed 10 years of therapy to get past it. No, I'm just kidding.

But yeah. And so, you know, you can't just come right out and ask. The other thing is the guys aren't just going to come right out and tell you either. He's not going to say, I'm so extremely attracted to you. And fun fact, if he does, that's a bad sign anyway. Right. That's a very love bomby thing to say early on. And so it makes it really hard and confusing because the thing you want to figure out, he's not going to tell you, you can't ask him. So you really do, in this case, kind of have to read between the lines a little bit, look for those subtle signs. And you know, this is fundamentally what makes dating so confusing and frustrating.

Definitely. So let's jump into a first general principle because we want to start with principles before we get into the signs. And this is very, very important when we are getting out there, when we're starting to talk to new people, we're starting to go on some dates trying to figure out, are they kind of relationship material, are they my equal, are they on my level? And we want to look at his video versus his audio. So there's an old saying, you know, actions speak much louder than words. And it's very true. And we talk a lot about the difference between audio versus video. Audio are the words that he's saying, chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp, chirp. Oh, you're so. I'm so attracted to oh my God versus his actions. What is he really doing to show you? And it has to come from inside. Like, what is he really wanting to do? Is he the type of guy who goes out of his way when you're sick to bring you chicken soup and drop it off at your door even though he knows he's not going to see you? Now that's a good video. Words are just like, oh, honey, I hope you feel much better, yada, yada, yada, you know, and just trying to sweet talk you every single step of the way. So we want to always be looking for the video matching the audio or really just the video in general.

Right? Because every guy, especially guys who are trying to be a little bit shady, manipulative, they're really good at words. Like, words are their thing. And so it's really hard to go entirely on words. But people who are genuine and authentic, their video tells you everything you need to know, right? It's the behavior that really shows through. And so one of the things to realize about behavior when you're focusing on behavior, a little sort of psychological insight is if a guy really cares what you think, his behavior is going to be a little different than normal, right? So he might be, you know, a little shy. Even though in other Contexts, he's really confident. You know, a smooth guy might feel a little awkward or off balance. And this is why, you know, sometimes those first date behaviors aren't as revealing as you think they are.

Yeah, that's so true. I mean, if you can take the most successful guy on the planet who can speak in front of 3,000 people, but if he goes on a first date with a girl that he really likes, oh, my God, is he going to clam up? It's just. I went through that. I mean, for me personally, I was like, I was speaking across the country. I probably spoke to over 100,000 people over a year, period, like, all about dating and relationships and how to be social. But let me tell you, when I went on my first date with Jess, I was not that guy. I was nervous. I was like, I was at a loss of words. I said a number of things. I wish I could put my foot in my mouth and just be like, adam, why'd you say that? And I'm like, dude, you're supposed to be the guy who knows this stuff. And, oh, my God, was I not so really, really helpful? Kind of caveat, Gary. I love that. Yeah.

And just, you know, you look out for just, like, little subtle things like fidgeting, being a little nervous, and sometimes women. And it's. I'm pointing this out because sometime women perceive that as like, oh, gosh, this guy, like, he's not confident. He doesn't know what he's doing. But it's like, this can be a very good sign if this typically confident, all, you know, capable guy is just a little bit off on a first date, because it means guys overthink things, too. And I think sometimes women don't realize that, but, like, guys get in their head and he's thinking all the time, does she like me? Am I saying the right thing? Oh, gosh, you shouldn't have just said that. Right. And it's like, it makes him just a little bit on edge.

I feel like I have just a unique perspective on this, having coached both men and women. And the one unique perspective I can really bring to the table is that both men and women, they both think that the other sex has it all figured out. Like, guys are like, oh, my God, women know exactly how to date. They know, you know, what is that they want? What is it they don't want? They're really confident on dates. Yada, yada, yada. I'm a disaster. Then I went over, started working with women, and they were like, guys got it all Figured out. Guys know what they're doing. I'm a complete disaster. And I'm like, no one has it figured out. Everyone is a wreck when it comes to a first date. That is normal and that is okay.

Yeah. Everyone's a beautiful disaster. Right. And just, it's just part of it is recognizing that and really. And just being okay with it. Like, why the heck not?

Yeah, exactly. So we're going to. Let's go into the seven signs that you can really look for that indicate extreme attraction. Gary, you want to kick us off with the first?

Sure. So I think number one, right, you're out on your first meetup or your first date. I think a way to tell that a guy's really into you extreme attraction is he puts his phone away. Like his phone is just not part of your conversation. It's not even face down on the table. It's a way away. And not only is his phone away, but he's making really good eye contact. He's not scanning the room, looking past you, looking over you, fumbling at things down. He's actually intently looking into your eyes. He's locked in. It's almost like he's mesmerized. And not like a creepy, like awkward stare kind of way, but just like, I don't know, like, I think guys, when they're extremely attracted, they look at a woman in a way that looks like they've. They're seeing something for the first time. It's like this mesmerized captive. It's like, oh my gosh, where have you been? My whole, like, like there's just a certain way to look.

Yeah. And it doesn't have to be about your physical beauty necessarily. It could be after you say something insightful or you have like a really deep connection point. You have something really great in common. And he just looks at you with like this mesmerized curiosity where he's thinking, where in the world? What planet did you come from? I want to go to that planet. Because you are incredible.

Yeah. Just absolutely transfixed. And I think, you know, it's about eye contact. But I also think this is a time where like appropriate non creepy touching, like, you know, when like you're really involved in a conversation, you are talking, you're enthralled, you're just, you're like, you lightly touch. I don't know, it's just everything just kind of. He's fully, 100%, completely present. And that's really a key sign of extreme attraction.

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Right, yeah, no, it's really funny. If you start taking non technology versions of technological behavior, you start realizing just how ridiculous certain things are. Like you know, in the middle of a conversation. Let me read this other thing while you're talking because this might be more important than whatever you're saying is essentially what that is.

Yeah, it's like become normalized to look at your phone. But if it was a magazine, that would be absolutely bonkers. So you know, it's pretty rare. I like laugh out loud when I read a book, but I definitely was at that point. The second sign that he's extremely attracted to you is that you get what we call the deluxe dates. And let's be real real here. If you're just in the early phases of going out with this guy, it's only been a couple dates. He might be going exploring other women at the same time, he might be going on dates with other women and as should you be. But with that said, if he is taking you out on dates, he wants to be spending time with you alone. And he wants it to be really good and really memorable. And the thing is, he doesn't want to do the exact same thing that he does with everyone. And the, the fact that the date he takes you on is a deluxe date really shows a lot. So what exactly is a deluxe date? I would say a few things. One would be prime real estate time, baby. Which is like a Saturday night, a Friday night. If he's taking you out on a Tuesday at 5 o' clock for happy hour after work. Ah, come on. You know, where we put our time is where we're investing our energy. And it's a pretty clear, you know, lack of investment that's obviously barring like certain life circumstances where maybe he's got kids on the weekends. You get the point. Generally speaking though, if you're not getting that prime real estate, that's a, that's a not a great sign. If you are getting the primal state, that's a good one. The other one is just big blocks in his calendar. Dedicate. If he's dedicating more time towards you and wanting to spend more time, that's obviously an incredible sign that he's interested. That is a deluxe date. You know, maybe it's an activity that you do before the date. Maybe you go to like a comedy show, then you go out for dinner. All of these just shows like, hey, I want to actually make this extra special. I want to do something with you. I want to spend that extra time. I want to get to know you. And yeah, I just think in general it's just like those extra special things that you can do. Maybe it might be a little bit more creative, might be a little bit more expensive. Maybe it's a concert or event. If he doesn't have a lot of money and you're interested with him, he can still get creative. A great date might just be a picnic at the park with your favorite, like boxed wine and like cheese. Even if it's not, it's like Cabot's cheese. It doesn't have to be the fancy cheese. Being thoughtful, all of these things I would put under a deluxe date. I don't know, Gary, am I missing any? What do you think?

No, I think that's good. I think it's anytime a guy's putting in a little extra planning, right, he's putting a little extra emotional. Time, energy, thought effort, anything that signifies that he has more invested I think is really important. I think the one other kind of deluxe state is anything where he's specifically making an effort to spend Time to get to know you. Like a highly intimate something where it's one on one, where it's really just about talking and getting to know you. You know, I think, you know, we talk about this in the program, that one of the old standby dates is going to the movies, and it's really one of the worst dates ever, because you get to spend time sitting next to somebody, but you don't get any information about them. That's not. That's the opposite of a deluxe date. Right. A deluxe state would be. Let's just, you know, let's go for a long walk right around a lake and. And really spend time getting to know each other. Right. Invest.

Who goes to the movie theater anymore, really? You know, like, if he. I agree, that is a very boring date, but if he is the type of guy who's taking you to the movie theater, like, come on, dude. There's so many better experiences to go on than going to a movie these days, right?

Yeah. I mean, someone's taking you a movie. That's an arbitrary date. It's a token date. It's not a deluxe date.

That's not deluxe date.

All right, so the third sign, I think, that shows that a guy's extremely attracted to you is he's curious. So he asks you a lot of questions, and he asked. He really wants to dig into your past and who you are as a person and your likes and your dislikes. He really is trying to get to know you, and he remembers what you say. Right. So every once in a while, you know, guys kind of are on onto this idea, like, oh, we have to ask a lot of questions. We have to get. That's good, right? But they're not always so good at actually following through with the listening part. But a guy who. Excuse me.

Yeah, Excuse me. I wasn't paying attention.

Sorry. You never listen to me anymore.

I'm sorry, Gary. You're just so boring. I'm just kidding.

No deluxe dates for you, pal. No. Want to go to the movies? You want to go to the movies alone? Okay, So I think the key is he's asking good questions, but then later in the conversation, or even better, later in a text or later on another date, he calls back to some of that stuff that you shared. He references things that you mentioned. He shows that he's invested and he's paying attention. Because when you really care about anything, you ask good questions and you care about the answer, and that information kind of gets baked in. You don't forget about it. And then you use it in the future. If he's showing that ability, he's not doing it by accident. Like, it's showing that he's really attractive.

Yeah. I mean, what is attraction? It's an emotional response. And memories typically are strengthened by an emotional response. So if he is engaged and he's feeling something towards you, especially as you're talking about something, and he's like, wow, that was pretty impactful for me. I feel really connected to you. He'll remember it. Whereas if the conversation is not connecting, he's really not that into it, or you're not that into it, he's just not going to remember. I mean, I. I personally, you know, as I get older, it's even worse for me if someone's saying something that I'm not emotionally connected to or really that interested in. Like, I can't even remember it. It's crazy. Like, I don't remember what happened yesterday. If the conversation happens and it was such, like, a ridiculous thing to say out loud. And some people might hate me for it, but, like, I just can't do it. Like, I can't go to a dinner party with my wife and talk to some guy in the corner if he's talking about being an accountant.

I just imagine you had a dinner party talking to an accountant. He starts talking about accounting, and you whip out a magazine. You're like, hey.

I'm telling you, like, my brain. I don't know if anyone else experiences this, but, like, my brain just automatically starts to go. It's the monkey brain just goes into a complete. I'll be thinking about, like, kite surfing and, like, Hawaii. I'll be in a different planet. As this guy's telling me about debits and credits with, like, accounting. It just. It just doesn't work for me. And I feel like I used to be better at it, but now my dad does this too. So I feel like I know where I'm heading. When I'm 85. My dad's 85. Sometimes he'll just be talking and his brain is. You could tell. He's like, dad, you're not paying attention at all. But anyways, side note, point is, if he's doing that to you, he's not that attracted to you. So. Oh, my gosh.

Apologies, by the way, to any accountants listening. It's fascinating work.

I feel like we don't get any accountants anymore because I just. I shit all over them, like, all the time. It's just. It's the one profession. And sorry to my accountant, Doug you're the man. But. And he would agree, like, it's just a very boring profession, I'm sorry to tell you. So no policy. That was my non apology to accountants. All right, let's moving on from this before I get canceled by the Accountant Society, the CPA association of America. Number four is that he really puts you first. You know, he's the type of person, like, he comes to you or he's willing to make the longer drive. And this is especially true if you're going on a meetup, you know, or a first date or a second date with a guy. Like, I want this guy driving to you. We have clients all the time who are like, yeah, you know, I'm talking to this guy. And he is outside of what we generally recommend, which is within 30 minutes to 60 minutes max of your geography. They'll be like, yeah, he is outside of that. And I'll say, well, it sounds like you're going to do it and see this guy. So if you are, this dude better be making that investment to come to you. And if he's not, like, you are not getting your beautiful behind in a car and driving to this guy, I'm sorry to tell you it's not happening for a while. I want this guy to be making that investment in you. And if he does come to you and he's willing to make that investment, okay, well, that definitely shows a pretty major amount of interest that he is attracted to you. And he also is willing to adjust his schedule. He's willing to be more flexible, like dates and times that suit you even more than it might suit him. Let's say you have family obligations on the weekends, and you can only make plans for a Thursday evening. And you know, that doesn't really work well for him, but he's willing to do that. Or he'll just go to places that might be more fun for you than it might be for him. You know, if he's the type of guy who only wants to take you to the sporty dive bar because that's what he likes. He likes to play Kenobi every single. Nothing against people who play Kino. It's actually really fun to play. Is Kino everywhere, by the way, or is that just a Massachusetts thing?

It's. It's several places. It's not in New Jersey, as far as I know.

Okay, so Kino is that little thing that you can gamble on at bars. It's really fun in Massachusetts. But my point is, if he's only taking to those places, whereas you're more of the type of woman who likes to go to nice concerts or plays or class, see classical music. You know, if he's really attracted to you, he's willing to go to those places because you enjoy it and he wants to make you happy and he wants to see you happy. I think that that's really important.

So, yeah, just the other night, actually on a mastermind. We always do this thing on a mastermind where, you know, we. We talk about different topics. And one of the things we do is we share the wins that the women had that week. And one of the. Our clients was telling us how she had just gone on this date to a lilac festival. I don't know it. I don't know what that is. But I can guarantee you that wasn't his choice. No, that wasn't his first choice of something. He's like, you know, what I want to do is go to a lilac festival and bring you. It's more like he was. That's a perfect example of him putting her first, thinking about what she wants, what she's. She was lit up, like, delighted by the fact that she got to go to this thing. And it's like, that's a guy putting somebody else first. The one other kind of caveat I would add to the driving thing is when we say him coming to you, it doesn't mean to your front door. It doesn't mean necessarily to pick you up. It could just be your, you know, your towns are half an hour apart. He comes to your town, you meet him there in your town.

Yes, good, good caveat there. That's really important.

And so another one, number five here for you know what indicates extreme attraction? When you look guys, you know who likes to be right? Men, you know, well, everybody, but especially men. And so if a guy's really attracted to you, he's going to be more willing to admit that he's wrong. Right. It's a status. It's being right is about status and power and things like that. And so there are guys who are just not going to be willing to admit when they're wrong. And so if a guy's willing to show that bit of humility, what we call it in nerd speak or psychology is intellectual humility. It's an ability to show that, you know, there's different ways of looking at things. It shows a little bit of vulnerability on his. On his behalf. And a guy's not going to be willing to show vulnerability to someone he doesn't really like.

Yeah. Well, Gary, that's how you know that I'm extremely attracted to you is because before this podcast begin, I made a mistake, and I told you I was wrong.

Do you.

Do you forgive me? I am attracted to you, Garrett, because I. I'm. I'm trying to get on Gary's good side right now because he's a little mad at me for a little mishap mistake going into this podcast. It's completely on my bad.

So you've never been hotter. You've never been hotter. Apology Adam is the hottest. Adam.

No, you're the hot one. I'm attracted to you. You can't flip this on to me. No, no, no. This is what happens when two straight guys talk about dating for too long on a podcast. Things get weird after a while. But, hey, that's what we're here for. It's a show. It's a show for all you ladies.

I can be vulnerable. It's fine.

Number six. Moving on. All right, you get the scoop. And that is, he's going to tell you things that he doesn't tell other people. Like, he might look in your eyes and say, hey, I want to tell you something. Honestly, I haven't talked about this in, like, five years, but I just really want to share this with you. And he shares something deep and vulnerable, and with that, like, here's the thing. Like, with that style, there is a greater chance that he is being manipulative. So instead, we want to really look for times that he shares things and then afterwards says, wow, I didn't. I don't typically share that. Like, I don't typically do that. And what this shows is that he feels really safe around you as well as he just has that really strong emotional attraction. Like, the cornerstone of any healthy connection is trust. And if he feels like he can really open up with you and share with you something that he doesn't tell a lot of people. Clearly doesn't tell a lot of people because it's something that maybe he's not proud of or something as, you know, he's nervous to talk about. Wow, that shows a lot about his investment and how much he cares about you.

Yeah. And I do think, you know, that first example where he says, you know, I don't normally tell people this, and then he tells you something that can be completely genuine and authentic. It absolutely can be. I do, though, think that caveat you shared with that, though, is important, is that that is also a way that the manipulative guys can be manipulative. So, you know, that one's a little bit more. It's like, take that with a grain of salt, so to speak. The other one, it's like they share things, and you. Like, sometimes that's like the most authentic way of sharing and being who you are is you just start talking like, oh, my gosh, Wow. I don't really talk. This money. I don't. You know, it's like people catch themselves being atypical, and that suggests just a general sense of safety and security, which, again, is only something guys are going to be willing to do if they have extreme attraction.

Yeah, Yeah. I just think, like, date guys have fears about opening up just as women do, you know, maybe not to the same extent. And there have been many times, and I think this is really hard for a lot of women to internalize. Right. Is that men, when we are dating, sometimes we will open up and be vulnerable the way that a woman wants, and they won't like it, and they won't like what they hear, and they won't like that side of them. And guess what happens to that guy? He doesn't want to do that again. He creates just the hard shell that you might have when you're dating. And so a lot of what we try to do on the show is really try and bridge that gap between men and women and realize that we're not that far. We're not as far apart as you might think. And guys have things about them that they are nervous to share, just like you do. And when a guy is finally able to share something like that with you and you accept it, and you accept him and you receive him, that's where, like, the genuine connection really comes from. And so I think just having that level of empathy throughout dating really may shift the way it is that you might think when a guy opens up with you.

Yeah, no, 100%. And, you know, I. It's all about understanding, and it's all about perspective taking and trying to really understand where everybody's coming from. And I think the better you are at understanding where guys are coming from, the more successful you're going to be at dating, for sure. So. All right, the last one. Number seven. Number seven. Reason why that indicates a guy's highly emotional, highly attracted to you. I got to admit, I kind of hate this one. I put it in here, but I kind of hate it, but I put it. I had to put it in because it's all. As much as I kind of hate it, it's. It's also pretty true. Which is the number Seven sign is he's a little jealous, right? And so he wants to know if you're seeing other people. He wants to know what other guys are in the mix. He wants to kind of know where he is in your priority list. He's a little protective. He's a little mindful of the competition out there. Because if he's a little mindful, and here's, here's the thing that's good about it. The research shows jealousy is an emotion that we have when we feel that we could potentially lose something we care about. So if a guy is able to be a little jealous, it is a sign that you, you're something he cares about. And so that competition where he's at in the priority list, he's worried about losing something of value to him. And so that's where a little bit of jealousy is a sign of emotional attraction. And I have to really emphasize here, really, really, really, really emphasize little jealous, right? He can only be a little bit jealous because excessive jealousy is a sign of insecurity and all kinds of jealousy is not a sign of love, right? But a little jealous is okay.

A healthy little dose of jealousy, you know, not so bad if he, if you're just, you've gone out with this guy five times, let's just say, let's, let's create an example. Say you've gone out with a guy five times and then you're going out with your girlfriends on a Saturday night and he's not invited and he asks you, who are you going with? Because you can tell he's kind of curious. He wants to know if there's going to be other guys there. That would be, I would say, a healthy amount of jealousy. You know, he's curious, he wants to know, but he's not like unnecessarily pushing it and things like that. An unhealthy dose of jealousy would be, you are not going out without me. I need to know exactly where you are, share your location, and I'm showing up if it's past 11 o'.

Clock.

Clearly an unhealthy dose. Now, obviously it's a spectrum, but I think taking this to heart and realizing when a guy is just being like protective and doesn't want to lose you, versus being a controlling, manipulative narcissist who only cares about himself, there's a pretty big difference there. So.

Yeah. And like so many things when it comes to dating, relationships, life and psychology, it's all about nuance, right? It's what is actually going. Because you look at the other side, where you're with a guy who doesn't care at all who else you're seeing or who else you're going out with, you're going to hate that too, right? And so, you know, there is that. You really have. And that's what I like about what we do, is, like, it's all about seeing things from multiple perspectives. Because when you see things from multiple perspectives, you're going to understand them better, and it's going to put you in a better position to be more successful.

Amen. And I think I just want to end this with a cautionary tale to all of you who are getting out there and dating and constantly wondering, does he like me? Does he not like me? Well, at the end of the day, always assume he's interested in you. Right? Just sometimes you can't know. We can do these signs all day long. I've been doing it for years. Gary's been doing it for years. We try and decode the male mind, yada, yada, yada, but it really depends on the situation, what's going on. The only thing that we can control is you and your mindset. And so I call it the AAA effect. If he's asking you out, he likes you, he's into you. Act as if. And you'll know if he's not that interested in you because he's going to stop pursuing you. And so there's something very unhealthy about just constantly. No, like, it's good to listen to podcasts like this and, like, learn new information, all that, but to constantly be wondering day in, day out, be talking to your hairstylist, your mother, your best friends, your dating coach, everyone about, does this guy like me? Oh, my God. Easiest way to insanity is by constantly asking yourself this question. So you now have more information than 99.9% of people on the planet right now just by listening to this. Go, get out there, go attract the guy, and if he's not that into you, say, nick, move on and find a man who is extremely attracted to you. Thank you, Gary. That was fun.

Thanks, Adam.

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