Men Secretly Fear These 5 Things About Older Women

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There are five things that men secretly fear about older women. And once you understand these fears, I'm going to give you a solution moving forward that'll have the most age appropriate men begging for your affection. Because at the end of the day, it's not about a woman's age, beauty, or status. Men actually fear something else about dating older women that perhaps you've never thought about. The reality is it's a woman's life experience that can actually trigger this immense amount of fear compared to dating a much younger woman. But once you understand these fears, you can actually be put in the power.

Seat of your love life.

My name is Adam lodolce, and over a decade ago, before I used to coach women like yourself on how to find love, I actually used to be a love coach for men. And I remember I once had a conversation with one guy. He was in his 50s, he was divorced, and had a just a consistent pattern of dating women in their late 20s. And you could probably guess what would happen in these relationships. Clearly, none of these relationships would last. So I asked him point blank, why don't you date women closer to your age, dude? And I guess I assumed that he would just say, you know, I'm just really attracted to younger women. But that's not what he said. Instead, he said something that's always stuck with me. He said, adam, younger women are just easier to impress. But women my age, man, they see right through me. And that kind of scares the hell out of me. Which inspired me to create this video because I think it'll actually be very inspirational for a lot of you older women out there who are looking for love. So let me jump into those biggest fears men have about dating older women. The first fear is the fear of irrelevance. Guys have a fear of wondering, what is his role in this relationship? Like, what if I'm not actually needed? What if she realizes she's better off without me? If a woman is older, more established, and more comfortable with her life, these are the types of ideas that might be running through a guy's mind. The next fear is the fear of vulnerability. Some guys will look at a woman in their 20s and recognize that maybe they don't have to be that emotionally vulnerable with a woman who's a little bit younger because maybe that's not what she's looking for, but a woman who's more mature, who's more emotionally stable and looking for an emotional connection. These guys realize that if they date an older woman, they have some level of emotional exposure. And a recent study just showed that 50% of men struggle to express their feelings verbally because they fear appearing weak. So they have this intense fear that if they date a woman who is age appropriate for them, then perhaps they're going to have to actually show up emotionally. And I think on the deepest level, these guys have a real fear that if they date a woman who is more emotionally mature and expects them to be emotionally available, I think they have a fear that she's going to see a part of them that they're really trying to hide. The next fear is the fear of being a deal breaker. This is the internal anxiety that a guy might feel that if the woman he's with knows the full truth, his flaws, his past, his emotional baggage, or even just his current life circumstances, like she's just going to walk away. This guy is not just afraid of being disliked by a woman or being rejected. He's afraid of being disqualified from a very high level woman. So again, he might go towards a woman who's younger in age who will just be more accepting of his flaws. He'll choose these surface level relationships where he can play a part rather than being seen fully. The next fear is the fear of being compared to her past rather than being a part of her future. Let's say, for example, a woman goes on a date and just casually mentions that her ex husband, oh yeah, he was a corporate attorney, he was very driven. But don't you worry, you know, he was emotionally unavailable. She might not realize what she's doing, but she is creating a comparison in this guy's head, in her date's head. This guy's thinking like, do I even live up to that? Am I on this guy's level? This guy who's on the date with that woman, he might be worrying that he's just a placeholder, not a partner. The last fear is the fear of true intimacy. Men will sleep with younger women, but they'll get intimate with older women. There's a big difference. And when a man is with a woman who is emotionally established, who's emotionally in tune with herself and wanting a real partnership. It's going to require a deeper level of intimacy. It's going to require the man to step up. So now that you understand these fears that men might have, now let's talk about the solution moving forward. If you're a woman in her 40s, 50s, 60s, or beyond, well, the solution that we work with our clients on, it's not about pretending to be younger or, or being, you know, girly or anything like that. Instead, it's about embodying youthful energy with your mature experience. And that combination of youthful energy with your maturity is absolutely magnetic to the right man. The best part is youthful energy. It's not about age, it's about attitude. Youthful energy means staying curious instead of being cynical. It means leading with playfulness instead of pressure. It means offering acceptance instead of constant evaluation and nitpicking. And mature youthfulness is the most magnetic approach of them all because it says that, you know, you live life, you have a lot of experiences, you have a lot of wisdom to share, but you're also not afraid to have a little bit of fun every single step of the way. That is what successful mature guys are magnetically drawn to. So I'll leave you with this idea. Finding love later in life can be the absolute best time to attract love. You know who you are, you're comfortable with who you are, and you're not going to take any BS from guys who aren't stepping up to your level. Just don't forget to bring some of that youthful, playful energy every single step of the way. And I promise you, the right man will come into your life. Be curious on your thoughts on this video. Leave a comment right there below. Have you seen any other fears that men have about dating older women? I'm here to walk with you every single step of the way. Thanks for watching.

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