Where Are All the Good Men?

By saying there's no good guys out there, you're absolving yourself of all responsibility for being unable to find a good partner. The reality is, though, that there are good guys out there. You're making excuses, which, you know, that's part of what we're here to help you do, is avoid making those excuses to make sure you're looking in the right places.

Welcome to the Love Strategies podcast, where we help successful women attract high value men, date with a strategy, and improve their relationships. Now, whether you're single or dating or in a new relationship, we're here to help you dive into the male mind and provide raw insights found nowhere else, backed by science, psychology, and our own personal experiences. Your hosts today are myself, Adam Lodolce, professional dating coach and founder of love strategies, and Dr. Gary Lewandowski, relationship scientist, professor, and our head relationship coach here at Love Strategies. Please share with a friend and enjoy. Gary, where are all the good men? Both you and I have heard this story so many times, over and over again, where clients will start working with us. And the very first question they have is, where are these guys? Where? They don't exist anywhere. And this is a very typical question, especially for those who were married for 20, 30 years and then they're divorced and find themselves trying to get out there, trying to find love, and they're really struggling. And they download the apps, they try to make it happen, they try to meet these guys, but it turns out that these men are. Are not at all who they say they are. I mean, either they end up being 5:2 when they say that they're 6:1, or they're 50 pounds heavier than they show in their pictures. Or maybe when they show up on a first date, dear God, their breath smells like dragon. Just, just breathing all over you. It's just all of the worst types of guys. And the worst part of all of this is when you first start getting out there and this is your experience, you start to develop this horrible mindset that is the scarcity mindset. Gary. That's a lot of what we hear about, isn't it?

Yeah. And then the scarcity thing is you just get it in your head that these guys don't exist. And so that might sound like a harmless mindset, but it's. It's a real problem because it really encourages you to start tolerating worse and worse behavior. Because if you really don't think there's that many guys out there, then all of a sudden you're going to. In this, like, mindset of Being willing to settle. Right. And so, you know, this whole mindset is wrong.

Right.

We can just start off by saying it's wrong. Unless you, like, you live in. In a shack in the middle of the woods in Alaska. There are guys out there. It's just a matter of knowing where to look. And that's what we're going to help people do today is, is know where to find those guys.

Yeah. I mean, having a scarcity mindset and dating is kind of like working at McDonald's, flipping burgers and being like, there are no better jobs out there. Like, and I'm sure there's a lot of people who work at McDonald's, but this is the best job I can get. This is it. This is all I could do. And it's. You just want to be like, no, I promise you, we can do better. We just need to put in a little bit of effort, intentionality, into getting you a better job. So if you're finding that all of the guys you're dating are like a disgusting hamburger from McDonald's and it makes you feel like crap two hours later, then listen to this podcast, because we're going to be getting into exactly where to meet these guys.

Yeah, that's right. I mean, ditch your unhappy meal. Come. Come learn where to get a better meal. Right.

Hey, Gary, you know where's a good place to meet good men? You know where, Where In Connecticut this weekend. Because you and I are going to be hanging out in Connecticut this upcoming weekend. By the time this podcast drops with this, this will probably have passed. But Gary and I have a special date for a couple nights.

You excited for a man A little mandate.

Little.

Little meeting of the man minds.

Little meeting of the man minds. We're going to do a little bit of content planning for all of you beautiful ladies. So we're getting a little offside. I'm pretty excited. We're both married, so that's not a thing. But there are good guys everywhere you go. And just as another side tangent, I'm going to just tease this a little bit. I'm going to give you a place where not to meet guys right off the bat. And then at the end, I'm going to give you a place where you definitely can meet guys. And it's actually a place I'm going after this podcast. So let me tell you where not to meet men. If you're listening to this, it is at a Taylor Swift concert. I just went to a Taylor Swift concert, and it was like 60,000 screaming teenage girls in Gillette Stadium here in Boston, Massachusetts, in the pouring down rain. You know what's the best part of going to one of these concerts is you can go into the men's restroom and you have the whole place yourself. It's amazing. No good men there. All right, so don't go T. Swift. Do you agree with that?

Yeah, yeah. So men's rooms at Gillette Stadium. Not good.

Not good.

Okay, good. This is the kind of insight you just can't get on other podcasts. That's good.

You can't. You can't. All right, so that was a side tangent.

So this whole thing about not being able to find guys, it is one of the most common complaints, questions, issues that, that women bring to us. But a lot of this whole podcast topic came from this one particular woman. I don't know if you remember this. It was about a month ago on one of our masterminds. She said, and she said, where I live, there aren't any guys. Like, none. And I've been trying and trying forever, but have found nothing. So now I'm going to start looking long distance. Do you remember this one?

Yes, I do. Yeah.

Do you remember? You want to do a little fact checking on that? So she said she'd been looking forever. Do you remember exactly how long she had been looking?

It was like a month. Literally a month. I think. I think she was, like, single for a month. She's. Maybe it was like, as her. She was speaking as if she was searching her whole life. Oh, my God.

Thousands of men, dread and misery for a solid 3.2 weeks. Like, it was. That was it. Right. The other thing was she said she's basically in this toxic wasteland of no guys. Do you remember where. Do you remember? Another fact checker point. Do you remember where she was?

Austin, Texas.

Austin, Texas, one of the coolest, hippest.

Places you could probably be to meet.

People, to meet guys. Especially, like, it's like a mini Silicon Valley. Like, there's dudes everywhere. Right. No shortage of guys. So we point this out not to like, poke fun at her and her. Her situation, but to just to point out, like, this idea that there are no guys. It's more about perception than reality. The problem is your perception does guide so much of your behavior, moving, Moving forward that it's something we do have to unpack. And that's what we're going to help you do in this podcast, is shift that perception, then engage some behaviors that's going to help you actually find where all those good men.

Yeah. And I should say that if you legitimately live in a town of population 300, we have had clients in that situation. Well, maybe there is something we need to actually work through. There may not actually be good. Although Robin, one of our coaches, pretty sure she, she found love in her town. I'm pretty sure it's like population, I.

Don'T know, a thousand, it's very desert of Oregon. There's nobody there.

But barring that situation, luckily 99.9% of people listening to this don't live in that small of a town. If you live in a town with more than 5,000 people in it and certainly wants to get into the 20 to 50,000 people and certainly beyond, this is absolutely for you because I assure you, with a little bit of shifts, we can absolutely get you meeting the right type of high value men that you deserve. Yeah.

And so, you know, kind of going back to this idea that perception is everything, you know, one of the strategies we implement all the time is just the shifting of mindset. And so when you have the wrong mindset when it comes to finding guys, you're basically engaging in a bunch of self sabotage. And so the primary way that you're doing that is through confirmation bias. You know what, what's confirmation bias, Adam?

Confirmation bias is. Thank you, Dr. Professor for putting me on the spot. I'm not one of your students. All right. But luckily I know the answer to this one because I did well in Psych 101. Confirmation bias is when we have a pre existing belief system or notion. And for example, there are no good men in my city. And if we have that pre existing belief, then everywhere we go we're going to be looking for evidence that supports that existing belief. So when I go out at night, if I'm like, there are no good men out here, I'm only going to see the guys who are drunk and sloppy and unattractive and not really, you know, or the guys who are being creepy or whatever. And I'm not going to see maybe the other men that might exist who are the good guys. They might not, they don't need to be the most attractive guys in the world, but there are good guys there that exist and we're just going to overlook those men because we have this very well known psychological bias which is confirmation bias. And these biases are very, very real, especially with online dating as well. I think that there's a lot there where I've actually done this with my clients. They'll say that there are no good guys. Don't exist on the apps. I will. This is when I used to coach clients in person. I would take their phone and be like, great, we're going to swipe together.

You ready?

And they'd be like, well, no, no, don't make me do it. Like, no, we're doing this. We're doing this. It's gonna do this for half an hour. It's gonna be really fun, and I'm gonna swipe for you. And I would just be like, yep, yep. No, no. Yep, yep, yep. Like, oh, you know what? You're right. A second opinion. And it was really because they were sabotaging themselves. They were coming from a place of fear where they didn't actually, on the deepest internal level, actually want to put themselves out there again. So they were using this idea of no good men out there, there are no good guys in my area, as a. As a protection mechanism to stop them from actually putting themselves in a situation that they could get hurt, is what I believed.

Yeah. And, you know, we actually. There's another psychological term that relates very much to that known as self handicapping. It's where you actually put obstacles in front of you intentionally to prevent you from achieving what you want to achieve. And it's. It's actually this weird form of avoidance and self protection where it's like by saying there's no good guys out there, you're absolving yourself of all responsibility for being unable to find a good partner. The reality is, though, that there are good guys out there. You're making excuses, which, you know, that's part of what we're here to help you do is avoid making those excuses to make sure you're looking in the right places. The other thing is, as you said with confirmation bias, it's like whatever you look for, you're going to find. So if you can shift your mindset to thinking of about abundance, there are plenty of good guys. Now you're going to start noticing all of the good qualities that these guys have, because people that you meet, the guys that you meet are going to be a mixture of good and bad qualities, every single one of them. The bad ones, the good ones. The person you end up with eventually for the rest of your life is going to have a mixture of good and bad qualities. And so it's just a matter of kind of like the filter you're using and what you're looking for. For.

Hey there, ladies. As you can see, we're just getting this podcast off the ground. And since we don't run any ads, I only have one quick favor to ask in return. Can you just take a quick second right now, pause this episode and just leave us a review Wherever it is that you're listening to. The podcast really help us out a lot and it really does spread the love and I think the world needs a little bit more of that. So I appreciate you. Now, let's get back to the show. You know what? You know, it's one of my favorite moments in the Masterminds and this has been happening and like, so we, for those who are just chiming in, we have this program called Love Accelerator. It's, you know, we, we have a ton of clients and they're getting results, getting out there, attracting love. So it's our premier love coaching program. Anyways, that was not a plug. That's just letting you know for context. So we do these group sessions and they'll come on and ask scary and I questions and so on and so forth. We do quite a bit of this throughout the week and we coach them and guide them and, and help them in their love life. And this happens a lot where a woman will be in her maybe 40s, maybe 50s, and be like, oh, no good men. Online dating is the worst. It doesn't work. And then the next question that someone comes up, like, another woman will come on and she's like 71 and it's like, oh my God, this is the most fun thing in the world. There are so many great guys out there. I'm loving every minute of this. And it's like you can hear it in her voice. Just like, she's just like, she's looking for the good guys, she's looking for the opportunity. She's like, everywhere I go, it just seems like I was at the grocery store and some guy came up to me and it was just wonderful. You know, he's not the most handsome man in the world, but I was so happy. And then I met another guy and oh my God, he was handsome. I don't know what accent I'm using, but you know what I'm saying? And it kind of just, it kind of shuts up the first person because like all day long we could be saying all this stuff, but the juxtaposition of the younger woman being like, oh, there's nothing out there. Like, I'm in my 40s, I can't make it happen. I don't know why I'm making her like smoker voice, but she'll be like that. And then the 67 year old woman is like, it's amazing. It's just, it's just so fun to watch. And it's all about mindset.

It always makes me think of something. I don't know, what about your grandma? But my grandma used to always have this saying where you get more flies with honey than vinegar. Yeah. I never really understand, understood why she was like hunting for flies or what. That never really made a lot of sense to me. But it's like this just general idea that like put out good energy, like be pleasant, be positive. And you're going to attract more thing like positivity to you, I think, than if you're just like, have a bad attitude.

Yeah. And on that note, I know personally, when I was dating a lot in my late 20s, before I met Jessica, there's some women that you go out with where they're going on the date with the assumption that you're a bad guy and you have to like, prove yourself to be good. Whereas there are other women who go on the date where it's not that they're being naive, but they're just going to with a good attitude and they're like, I'm going to give this guy a chance and see where it goes. And hopefully it's good. And you know that like, it's all about just that core frame of mind that they come with with dating and that woman who sits across from you. The way they ask questions, the way that they're interacting with you, the way that answer, you know, the way that they're talking about dating and meeting people, it's just so negative. And then you go with a woman who's sweet as honey and your grandma, she's, she's got some wisdom, man.

Well, it's like, you know, that, you know, like that negative, pessimistic attitude. If you want something to repel men, be negative and pessimistic. Right. And if you want to attract more guys, you want to like find those guys that are out there, you just have to be approachable, like smile, be pleasant, like have a good attitude, be curious, be interested in other people. I mean, that's just a good tip. Outside of dating and just in general in life, just be interested in other people and you know you're going to attract people to you that way. You know, the one other part of this, you know, we're talking about mindset and one other piece of the mindset that I think is really important is just this idea of time and you have to be a little patient. You know, I think this is like one of those areas where, you know, there's this myth of love at first sight. And I think that's ruined us in terms of our expectations and unrealistic expectations about how fast it is that we can find people. And it's just. It's made us impatient. And, you know, you and I know from seeing women go through these, the little love steps and just going through the process, that it takes a little bit of time, right? I mean, they're sort of like, learning what to do, practicing what to do, but very quickly, like, once people start getting into it, week by week, day by day, the quality of the guy increases, right? And they just get better. And it's like any skill, right? It takes a little bit to develop. What's really funny about this is this is something like we've seen a lot, right? And in preparing for this podcast, like, we do a lot of research, a lot of notes, and you said, hey, is there any research on this? And I was like, I know.

I.

Not that I know of. And it's like, I know a lot about the relationship science stuff, but, like, this particular question I've never asked or thought. I was like, I don't think so. But I did some digging, and a couple hours later, I. I have found there.

So that's why you're our chief love Love scientist now.

Yeah, I. I spent some, you know.

I mean, the science of the.

The show, put on my mining helmet, had my light, and I just went into the art. But so essentially, the longer you spend dating somebody, the better the outcome of your relationship, right? So there's one particular study from this economic inquiry. People, when they dated one to two years, they were 20% less likely to divorce compared to people that dated less than a year. So it's like spending longer dating led to better relationship outcomes. It was even better if you dated for three years, right? It was up to like 39% before marriage. Dated before. Before marriage, right? And so that's just saying, like, lengthen it out. Don't be so quick. And it was. I mean, there's two other studies, you know, but it's basically when you went too quickly, right? You were impatient. You're like, let's just find a guy. Let's get it going. Let's, let's. And just like, jump, jump, jump, jump. Those led to less stable marriages, right? And we're talking about divorce. We're talking about quality. And so there is something to be said for. For being patient. The only way I know to speed it up in a smart way is to don't. Don't go it alone. Make sure you have support. Make sure you gather the knowledge. Learn as much as you possibly can about relationships and go in with it with a strategy so you know what you're doing.

And just meet a ton of people. Go out and meet. You want to speed it up. Yeah, that's the way to speed it up. Go and meet a lot of people. And like, we. We see this all the time. Like, our. Our program's six months, right? We work with women for six months, and that's a realistic amount of time to be focusing on this area life to expect a very strong result. And frankly, if it had happened much faster than that, where you meet someone, where you're in a loving, committed, healthy relationship, I'd say that that's too fast.

Too fast.

Like, we slow people down all the time. But with that said, the. The greatest tool that you have is your willingness to go out and meet new people, even in social settings that are not ideal, to go out in places where it might be a little outside your comfort zone. You might not be comfortable going through a philanthropy to a philanthropy event, or your church has a singles event this upcoming weekend, but you've never been to a singles event. So I don't know. I'm not going to do that. Like, your willingness to actually just go out there and go full throttle, like, pedal to the metal, baby, and just get out there, meet lots and lots of people and put yourselves in yourself in situations where you know you're going to meet some awkward guys, they're not going to be perfect. That is your. That's your superpower. And just on this quick rant, there are some people who join and work with us or, or want help in this area of their life, and they feel as if, if they get the answer to this question, like, where do I meet men? Like, they feel like there's an answer to this question. This one special place in, like, Narnia, where these tall, handsome men who make $350,000 a year and just not to be like, whatever, it's not just about money. But, you know, I'm saying, like, they're great in bed, they're intellectually stimulating, they're so charming. Oh, and they're so ready for a relationship. There's this one place that I'm going to like this. This place exists. Well, I'm here to tell you, it doesn't. Like, and that's the thing is we get people into our program and we're like, hey, quick note. That place doesn't exist. So we need to work on our mindset and we need to actually take the real steps to meet people in a lot of different places, high value places, so that we have an opportunity to meet those types of guys. But there's not just one place that you suddenly go and it just solves all of your dating issues.

It'd be like if you heard guys asking, like, where's the one place for all the supermodels who are really smart, good moms, like, and et cetera, et cetera, like, where do they all hang out? Like, where's that one spot? And it's just, it's. It's wishful thinking. Right. You know, and to your point about being social, there was a quote I came across from a very well established, well known relationship expert that this guy says, you can only be as picky as you are social.

Are you quoting me?

Yeah. It was from Adam La Dolce.

I was like, who are you quoting right now? On my. On our podcast. And then I'm like, you can only be a socialist or picky. I say that all the time, but it's true. You can only be. That's funny. Good tea up there. You really can only be as picky as you are social. I'm saying that all the time. So many clients of ours that there are no good guys out there and like, well, what's your. We have this thing called a social score. And a social score is essentially. I won't go into all the details of it, but it's essentially. How many new guys have you met in the past month, generally speaking. And it's. It's my tool, my tool belt. To actually be like, well, you're actually doing anything, and this will happen all the time. They're like, well, I don't want to go with this guy because of this. I don't want to go with this guy because, I don't know, he's wearing like baggy jeans in this online dating profile, like, how many men you met in the past 30 days? Zero. Go meet them. If you said 20, great. If you said five even, I'd be like, okay, fine, but you can only be as picky as you are social. Put that up on the memes. It won't go viral because no one actually likes that advice, but at least you. You ladies are still listening to us, so hopefully you'll take it to heart.

Yeah, I mean, you want to diversify your social portfolio, right? You know, give it. Give yourself as many different chances as possible.

Right.

So speaking of that, like, so let's talk strategy, let's talk about what people should actually do. And so the question is, where are they? And so where are all the good guys? I think is actually the wrong question. Right? The right question is where can I find a guy that's best for me? And so start with yourself first. Start with asking yourself like, what do I like? What are the qualities I like? What are the things I like to do? Guys that like that same stuff, where are they? Well, they're in the exact same place, right. If you are outdoorsy and you like spending time in nature and you like going hiking and you go to hiking clubs, the guys who are there by nature all like the same things you like. So it's a pre selected, pre sorted list. They're by definition higher quality than some random guy you're going to meet at the supermarket. Right. It's just, it's already baked into the system. And as you're thinking about like not only who you are currently, think about who you want to be. Like if for example, you want to become more social and become more extroverted, think about joining a local Toastmasters. Like they're the public speaking group, right? Lots of guys go to Toastmaster group.

I joined a Toastmasters group and I think I was single at the time and I think I was trying to meet women. I was also a professional, I was becoming a professional speaker. I never done it before. Going to a Toastmasters group is, or it doesn't have to be Toastmasters. Doing a, some type of comedy thing, like an improv comedy class is another great way of working on that skill. The nice thing is you are meeting other people, but you're also learning this skill of being outside your social comfort zone and it's only going to help you in all other situations. So get better at public speaking and you'll get better at dating, period.

Yeah, and it's like one of those activities like again focus more on what is that you want to do. Like find things that you find inherently interesting because then even if for some reason there are no guys there, you're still going to get benefit from it and that's just going to raise your mate value going forward. So it's a win win really in, in, in a couple ways, right?

Well they, they have this saying like in the business world, like never start a business that you don't fundamentally enjoy because if you don't fundamentally enjoy it, you're not going to move, you're not going to stick with it. And I think the same thing is with meeting people. Find something that you actually enjoy doing, because if you don't actually enjoy it, then you're not going to keep doing it. So the people who are like, oh, I'm going to join a running club, even though I've never run in my life, I don't want to run, but I really want to be with a guy who's super fit, Good luck. You are not going to stick with it. And this is coming from a guy who does not like running. So I get it. Whereas on the other hand, like, for me, I'm really into, like, extreme sports. So when I go on, like, ski trips where it's like more social and single people. Yeah, I'll do that every weekend because even if I don't meet a woman, fantastic. That's going to be an amazing place to potentially just connect with people. And so if it's not fun, if this process isn't fun, you're doing it wrong, really, if it's not fun. I had a neighbor, and this actually kind of goes counter to this point, but it's just a funny story that I've told. I had a neighbor growing up and she always wanted to meet a doctor. So she decided to have lunch every single day at the local hospital in the cafeteria. And I guess it works for her. I mean, that's not fun to me. But she, the guy she married, who's my neighbor, was a doctor. And she like, literally was just going there and hitting on doctors all day. Like, I don't know. So she kind of worked into her schedule and just kind of made it happen. But, you know, find your thing. Find your way of, of kind of doing something that you can do consistently that lights you up a little bit. I don't know about eating in a hospital, but, you know, hey, if that was her thing, by all means.

But the great thing about that story is, like, she knew what she wanted, she knew who she was. And like, she just, she act she from that foundation. It allows you to take action in a more purposeful and intentional way. And I think that kind of thing is great. Like, you know, if you're a local business owner, check out the Rotary Club. Lots of guys at the Rotary Club, right? If you're into politics, any of the local politics groups, I mean, there's going to be guys there. Country clubs, any kind of social club in your area. Like, those are. Those are great places to meet guys. And of course, there's also online. I mean, the guys are on the online Apps. And so, you know, we kind of started this off by saying, like, hey, you're ready to get out there. You're online, you're not meeting any of the guys. I think Adam's story about sitting with somebody and doing the swiping for her, that's a big piece of it. The other thing that our clients really like is, you know, we help them with what they're posting online, like the pictures, how they're describing themselves. And some of it is, if you're struggling, take a hard look at the pictures you're posting, how you're describing yourself. Because there are ways to describe yourself in a way that's going to attract a higher quality guy. Guy.

Yeah, yeah. Make it easy for guys to, to message you. Like, I mean, all right, actually, before we get into online dating, like, there are really two core ways obviously to meet people. It's offline and online offline. Everything we discuss, such as ROTOR clubs, Toastmasters, philanthropy, events, church, all of those things, those take a little bit of time. Those are not like, you just go to an event and suddenly you're going to meet like 10 single men. So. But the good news on the offline is that you tend to get higher quality matches because it's offline and you're kind of be more selective about who you're meeting. Online is kind of the opposite. You're dealing with a lot more kind of riff raff, honestly, just like everything out there. But it is kind of like jet fuel to your love life. There's a lot of options and you can just. You just have to be willing to, to broaden your horizons and sort through a lot of different types of men. And you might chat with like 20 different guys to get to two or three guys you meet in real life. And even those two or three guys you're not going to be like, head over heels in love with before you go and meet them. So you have to be willing to go on lots of what we call meetups in order to get down to the guy that you really want. So notice all of this requires intentional effort and making this a part of your life. And for those of you who are, this is turning you off, good luck. Keep doing the same thing you're doing over and over again. Expect a different result. We put in a lot of effort in other areas of our lives. Why not into our love life? You know, if you want the same thing, if you want to just keep. You know, a lot of people don't. They don't want to get a Coach, we hear this a lot because they, they don't want to put the time into their love life. And what our love strategists always say is, well, like how much time are you currently spending thinking about dating, talking about it with your friends, wasting it on the wrong guys. They'll be like a lot years, like 20, 30 hours a week. Years of my life. Great. How about we just take some of that time and actually apply it to using real strategies and going to this place, being more proactive and making it happen the right way. And that tends to work, you know that, that helps get people over the hump. They're like, you know what, that's it. I'm joining this thing.

Yeah. I mean, you can save a lot of time by just doing things the right way. Yeah, right. And so, you know, a lot of what we talked about today is, you know, just this. Changing your mindset, shifting your perception about how many guys are really out there. Stop the self sabotage. Focus on yourself, know what you want, know where those, where guys that have those similar interests are and just make sure you're optimizing for the right qualities. Right. Optimize your online profile, optimize how you're approaching your social life. Like you said, you know, increase that social score, be approachable, have a good attitude and you know, the, the right guys are going to find you.

Yeah. Amen. And so with that said, just because I don't want to leave you all hanging, we actually do. We very rarely do call outs on this podcast, but I think it's worth it at this point. If you go to love strategies.com we have a free training on the front end of the website, like that main homepage. And it's going to walk you through what I call my social starfish strategy of getting out there and meeting men. It's five core areas that we suggest you focus on. To meet guys goes a little more detail, but we really wanted to keep this podcast very focused on truly what matters, which is the mindset and reconfiguring your thinking on this front. So hopefully that was really helpful for you. And with that said. Oh, Gary, I have to give my bonus.

Yeah, good.

I was going to make sure I'm talking over you or do you. Okay, perfect. Here is the place where I'm hoping to go. Right now I need to check the wind, but the best place to meet men, high value men who are in shape, have money, are adventurous and fun. Gary, what do you think it is?

It's going to be a backgammon club.

To check the wind. It's going to be a kite surfing. Where guys are kite surfing. Come on. Are you messing with me right now?

Yes.

Okay.

All right.

I'm like, do you even. Do you even know me?

I feel like, you know, I know where you're going.

I'm like, jesus. So, yeah, if you live anywhere near an ocean or anything like that and guys are kite surfing or wind surfing or. I don't know about surfing. Those guys. Yeah, probably not for you. Kite surfing, though. These guys are in, like, their 50s, 60s. I see them with their shirts off. Jesus. These are the guys who want to be with. All right, that. That's. That's how I'm going to end this podcast. So what do you think, Gary?

Kite surfing all the way, man.

Anything you want to add?

No, that's. That. That. That's a perfect place to end. Thank you.

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