Why Dating Your Type is Keeping Your Single

It is possible that your type is keeping you single. And today Dr. Gary and I are going to make an argument about why dating your type might be actually sabotaging your love life. Because you probably met a lot of guys in your life, maybe you've been dating for a while and you feel like you know what you like and what you don't like, and there are certain guys you just click with. That might all be true. But at the end of the day, this could actually be a real problem in your love life because it's not optimizing for the right thing. Welcome to the Love Strategies podcast where we help successful women attract high value men, date with a strategy and improve their relationships. Now, whether you're single or dating or in a new relationship, we're here to help you dive into the male mind and provide raw insights found nowhere else, backed by science, psychology, and our own personal experiences. Your hosts today are myself, Adam Lodolce, professional dating coach and founder of love strategies, and Dr. Gary Lewandowski, a relationship scientist, professor, and our head relationship coach here at Love Strategies. Please share with a friend and enjoy. What do you think, Gary? This is going to be a big topic for us.

This is one that has come up so much recently, I feel where it's like, but he's not my type. But he's not my type. Okay, well, maybe your types is the problem. And I get it. It's like we want, we, we pursue our type because it feels easier, it feels familiar. But let's be honest, like, if this type of yours was good for you, you probably would have found it already. Like this, this would have worked already. And so, you know, there's that classic definition of insanity is doing the same thing over and over and over again, hoping for some kind of different result. And let's, let's rewrite the script. I think it's time to get away from the type a little bit. We're going to talk about how it's messing you up and some alternatives to do it a little bit better.

Yeah, we'll talk about. I mean, what I've seen in my experience is that sometimes dating your type is, it can actually direct you to the exact wrong guy for you over the next 20, 30 years and really can make it harder to find the right types of guys because there are plenty of great guys around you that you're probably looking right past. Now this is an interesting one because when, Gary, I don't know if you felt the same when you started coaching women, but as a guy, I really didn't have a type of the type of woman I would go after. Like I was, I don't know, maybe I'm just a lover, but like I was very open to many different types and found it so interesting when I switched from men to women where women were very locked in to their type. Like they could dis, you could ask almost any woman, like, what's your type? And like, oh, how much time you got? Like, let's get into it. But I just didn't find that as true with men. I'm curious on your, your perspective on that.

Yeah, I, I, I would agree. I didn't, when I was dating, I didn't have a type. I actually was very exploration, experimental about it where it's like, I'm going to try this kind of person, see how that goes and then try this. And it was trying different things to figure out what it was really important to me. But I agree that women, it doesn't seem to be like, I think it comes from like a sense of comfort. And I think the weird thing about type is a lot of what women consider to be, quote, unquote, their type has been locked in for quite some time. And it started very early, which I find mind blowing because when that type for them got established, it was when they had the least amount of experience with dating. It's when they knew the least about themselves. And so in many ways the time of your life when your type, so to speak, gets locked in might be the worst possible time to have a type locked in.

Right. And I don't know if I'm, I'm jumping ahead here, but what I will say to give all of you some hope is that changing your type can be actually a very quick process. Like we've worked with clients where they've been locked into their type. They might be in their 60s, even 70s, had the same type for their entire life. And after a couple months of really being held accountable and creating a love vision, which is one part of our step process to finding love, suddenly within a couple months they're like, oh my God, like I wish I knew this sooner. And now I've opened my world up to many, many different types that I would have never considered in my 60 year old, let's say 50 years of dating up to that point, you know, they just wouldn't have considered it. So the good news is this is something that you can change today. You just have to decide to make a change and sit with the discomfort at first that will come with it. Over the first Couple months. It might be a little bit weird at first, but then before you know it, your type really can change. And then suddenly your new type is just your type. It's great.

Yeah, it, it can evolve, right? And I think that's a really good way to set the stage for this in the sense that unlike some other things in relationships, this is one that can easily change. It just takes a little bit of thought. And I think it is something that for those of us who have struggled with dating at different times, the type might be one of the reasons. And so I think here are four reasons, right? Here are four ways that your type is keeping you single. And so number one is your type isn't doing what you think it's doing. And so what I phrase this as, it's a cage, not a compass. So often people think, well, I'm using my type as almost my North Star to find that person that I know. I really click with, that we really vibe together. But really all a type is, is a subconscious comfort zone. It's familiar, but what's familiar to you isn't always functional. A lot of times I see it in our clients all the time is their type. It really comes down to it's toxic familiarity. It's something that they're familiar with. It's something they're accustomed to. It's a problem they know how to deal with and potentially solve. And so they keep gravitating towards this familiar type of problem. It's the guy who's emotionally distant. It's the guy who has attachment issues where it's like, no, no, I know what that's like. I know what it's like to date a quiet guy. I know what it's like to date a guy who's a little inconsistent. I know how to solve those problems. And so that becomes their type. But dysfunction can feel comfortable. But that doesn't mean that it's ideal. It doesn't mean that that's really what you want. And so much of this gets wrapped up in this romanticized fixer up fantasy where it's like, I'm gonna take a guy. I'm special. I'm the one that's gonna unlock this guy's magic. No one else has done it before. This is a tough project, but I'm up to it. I'm up to it. I'm going to do it.

I love this idea about toxic familiarity because I think an easy, tangential way of thinking about it is with food. Think about food that you feel very familiar with. And it's like your comfort food. I mean, for me, it's like a big bowl of pasta with, like, extra meatballs. I think of what I ate growing up. There's nothing that just makes me feel more at home and familiar than just eating a ton of pasta. And I think of my mom, who's like, you know, italian dinner. She's like, I'll go through my second place. She's like, you should have your third. You should have your third. And I'm like, okay, mom, I'll go have my third. What's that?

Eat, Adam. Eat, eat.

But if I kept doing that, now, trust me, Ozempic would be on the top of my priorities list of, you know, medication to take at the beginning or end of the day. And so I think of very similarly with food. Like, when you think of your diet, a lot of the food that's really healthy for you, it might not necessarily taste good at first or even familiar, but once you start eating it regularly, suddenly that becomes your new familiar because you feel better around it. You feel energized around it, and you recognize that, like, now if I eat a bowl of pasta, I can't do it. I can't eat gluten anyways. But, like, if I did, oh, my God, like, I'd be destroyed for a week. You know, I don't know if that hits. But that analogy, for whatever reason, Gary, for me, is always, like, it. It feels so relatable to dating. For what?

I. I agree. I. I think, too, it's. It comes down to habits, right? In many ways, your type is a habit, and then often a bad habit. And so how do you kick a bad habit? You start replacing it with incompatible behaviors. You start replacing it by doing other things purposely. And we're going to get to some of this. It's like purposely seeking, you know, instead of eating that big bowl of pasta with meatballs, have a salad. And at first it's gonna be like, this is not the same. And, no, it's not. But if you keep eating salad, you will become more used to eating salad, right? It's like, I don't know about you. Over the last. Since actually the pandemic, I have eaten so healthy since the pandemic, for whatever reason, that now when I eat something that's, like, sweet, I'm like, oh, it just feels so sweet because I just don't eat sweets anymore, right? And it's like the same thing with, like, the pasta. It's like my comfort food. I thought you were going to talk trash about Mac and cheese, which we were going to have to fight. But, like, Mac and cheese is, like, the bomb. And it's like, I used to eat, like, Kraft. I was even in, like, Kraft Mac and Cheese. Like, the horrible box Mac and cheese. But if I ate that now, I think my whole insides would just reject the whole process. Like, I think it would just be bad news all around. And I think that's kind of what it's like when you. You change and move away from your bad habit type.

Well, and. And even to. Not to, like, beat a dead horse here, but, like, when you're eating that Mac and cheese, it feels so good. Just like when you're dating your type, like, you go on a first date with your type, you're like, oh, my God, the dopamine and the excitement, the chemistry. But then the next couple of days, you're kind of left similarly with, like, that big, gross, full belly. What did I do? Why did I do that? So much shame.

Your pros. Mac and cheese Shame.

Yeah. Like here in Boston, we do the lobster Mac and cheese. Oh, my God. Like, that just is, like, speaking to my soul. But afterwards, I, like, look myself in the mirror. I'm like, what did you do, you disgusting bastard? Like, why did you do that? Like, it really is the same thing with dating. Like, I've experienced that with, like, going out with certain women where you're like, you're so drawn to them, but afterwards you're just like, why? I know she's terrible for me. I know, I know in, like, my. The back of my lizard brain, like, oh, my God, why am I doing this? She's so wrong for me. Going back 25 years, before I knew all this stuff, like, I just was, quote, unquote, following my heart. But I wasn't bringing any strategy with me.

Right.

And that's what we try to do around here by changing your type and by thinking through what's it going to look like not in the next five minutes, but in the next five years, in the next 50 years. That's the framing you want to always have when you're trying to find your person.

Yeah. That's like changing any habit, and particularly this is why I think the food example resonates, is like, you can learn to love things that are good for you. You really can. It's like, you know, the idea of drinking water when I was a kid sounded like a punishment. It was like, you know, you're getting water. It's like, oh, gosh, water. Oh, my gosh. Now there's nothing better. There's nothing better than water, like clean filtered, like high, like I just showing my age. But it's like nothing better than a good water.

Dude. We are totally showing our age, Mark. All right, let's move on to the second one.

Gary. Speaking of age. And so the next thing is like why dating your type is keeping you single is it puts you into bad combinations. And so I know a guy here in New Jersey, friend of a friend, he's 59, and he says here in New Jersey there are no women to date. And if you're skeptical, you should be because New Jersey is quite populated.

There are saying that to the wrong guy. Right. You're not gonna take that one. I love when people say stuff like that to me. I'm like, you're lady, you're talking or guy, you're talking to the wrong guy over here. Because I got a lot of rebuttals for you.

Well, even I even jokingly said I'm like here in New Jersey, New York metropolitan area. Like you're saying there's no women. And, and here's what it came down. So as I, as I pressed just a little bit in a curious way, said, well, you know, what are you looking for? He said, you know, I was going to do a bad Jersey accent, but I'm not going to do that. So his type, in his words, family oriented woman without kids, between 58 and 5 10, athletic, not too skinny or overweight, quote unquote, Italian looking. His words, successful, with lots of free time to travel. Okay. And I get it, like, I don't know how that lands with all of you because it sounds kind of reasonable. Each one of those things in and of themselves is not a completely unreasonable thing to want. But the real issue is the combination. It's a bet those are bad combinations. There's such bad combinations that the person he's describing is a unicorn. In the sense that you want someone that's family oriented. Right. He's 59, so he's, you know, he wants to be family oriented but doesn't have kids. What? Like, think about how, how many of those people are out there. You want somebody that's Italian looking, but also 58 and 5 10. Those don't often go together. Right. I mean that's, that's a little tall for an Italian woman. It just, it happens.

You're talking to Italian right now. Be careful, be careful.

It happens. It's just not as common. And so, you know, super successful. Okay, cool. Lots of free time to travel Again, a tough combination because a lot of times people are successful because they spend a lot of time at work. And so I would say I said to him, I was like, you know, it might be a tough ask, but. And I said it just kind of like that. And he's like, what do you mean? I just know what I like. You can't fake chemistry, Gary. I'm like, okay. And he's like, I'm not going to settle. And then I said, well, that's fine, but you might end up single forever.

Right.

It's, it's fun. What he's asking for sounds fun. It's just fictitious in the sense that the chances of that person existing aren't that great. And I would also just add a lot of the qualities that he's looking for aren't critical to long term relationship success and fulfillment. And so, you know, his type is very counterproductive in that way, is that one, it doesn't exist, and two, a lot of those qualities, like one being 5, 8 versus and 5, 10, that doesn't make your relationship more successful. An athletic look doesn't make your relationship more successful or more fulfilling. Right. And I think that's part of what's going on here with types and why it's not helpful.

Too funny. I love that story and I've heard it sadly too many times. And I agree with everything you said. And the thing I just want to really double click on is the idea of family oriented but doesn't have kids. Because there's so many scenarios like that that I've seen our clients fall into when they first start working with us, such as, I want to date a doctor who has a lot of free time to travel, you know, or I want to be with the CEO who has a lot of nurturing and emotional availability. Not to say all CEOs don't have that. But typically these things are contradictory. Because if I'll go to the doctor, one, because I think it's better if you are a doctor. You do not have time. So they were like directly contradictory with one another. And that is the unicorn part of this, this scenario that we're painting here. Like, if we have this, you can't really have that. And so it's really important to look at your type. If you're just setting yourself up for a direct failure, you'll always be disappointed no matter what. Either you're with a guy who's got a lot of free time and can travel anywhere, but he might not be a doctor, or you get a doctor who just doesn't have a lot of free time.

Yeah.

You know, you got to make a choice.

I love that you just use that example because it reminds me of something a client said last week. She was. She's dating a guy who's. He's a doctor. He's a doctor. He's a surgeon. And. Which she loves. She loves that he's a surgeon, but she's really disappointed in the fact because she also wants somebody who is spontaneous and carefree. You like, it's like, wait a second. I mean, not to be stereotypical, but surgeon and spontaneous and carefree, it. It's hard to fit those two things into the same person. And so this is where sometimes you have to choose. She's like, no, no. I always pictured myself with a doctor, but I also like to be spontaneous and carefree and be adventurous. It's like, I get it, I get it. But it's like, you know, ladies, you just heard me describe what this guy is looking for. What advice would you give to him? And it's probably the same exact advice that applies to you, which is like, guy your type is what's making this so hard. You need to be a little bit more flexible on some of these requirements.

It's funny, as we're talking, I. I was thinking back to when I was dating, and I remember one thing. You know, I'm really into a lot of adventure sports and, you know, kite surfing, snowboarding, all this stuff. CrossFit at the time, just, like, really into active sports. And I was really, really focused for a short period of time on, like, finding someone who is really into all that stuff. And I remember I had a buddy at CrossFit who recently got engaged, and his wife or his fiance wanted to come to CrossFit. And I remember meeting her and thinking to myself, she's really cool, but she's such a guy guy's guy to me. Like, we like. And I don't mean that all women who are into adventure sports or CrossFit are. Are like, guys, but she just happened to be like a real buddy, buddy type guy. Like, I could picture myself having beers with her at. At the bar and hanging out, like, doing all this cool stuff. And I recognized that at that moment, I was looking for something that, like, wasn't necessary in a really. In a romantic relationship. And I could just have that with my guy friends, and that's perfectly okay. And then my romantic relationship, I'm looking for actually something much different. Now, if you get that, it's a bonus. And I Certainly could have. My wife is not into any of those things and that's fine. She likes to sit at the beach and have a cocktail while I go kite surfing. And that works great for us. But like, it just. For whatever reason, that one moment struck me where I'm like, I didn't even see a spark between them. They just, they were like buddies with each other, you know, and, and again, it's fine if it works for them. I think it's great. But for whatever reason, it just sparked this idea that you don't need to have everything in your partner like you. You will have different people in your life fulfilling different needs. Perhaps your romantic partner might fill one part of need for you. Then you're going to have friends that fulfill a different need and might be different than what you're getting your romantic partner. Then you might have family that fulfills another need and it kind of sets you free from having to find this perfect unicorn. Right. And I just, I remember that very specific moment of being like, oh, yeah, I don't have to have that ridiculous, ridiculous standard of being with a woman who kite surfs, which by the way is like 10 women in the state stats. Like, it's just not a thing. It's, it's a very heavily dominated male sport, you know? Yeah.

It's like something I always talk about, which is, you know, the importance of having a diversified human connection portfolio. Right. It's like you just, you wanna, you don't need one person to do it all. Like, you can have the people you go kite surfing with, the people you go hang out and have a beer with, the people that you have an intellectual conversation with. And these don't all have to be the exact same people. We can have different people in our lives that fulfill different roles. And I think that really helps because with our type, it kind of gets us too locked into focusing on one thing and which gives us a form of relationship tunnel vision. Focus in many ways is good. And you know, to be successful in a lot of ways, you want to be focused, but when you're focusing too much on just your type, you're going to miss out on other potential. Really fantastic guys, right? There's a famous psychological study, research about this idea of inattentional blindness. And so in this super famous video clip, there's a bunch of people passing a ball around. And everyone's told when they're watching this video, count the number of catches the people make while passing the ball around. And so it's a little blurry. It's a little. And so you have to really concentrate to count the number of catches. Like it's a little bit difficult as these people are having this game of catch. A guy in a gorilla suit walks through, stops in the middle, beats his chest and is like, hey everybody. And then strolls on out. Right now, the people who are counting the catches, you ask them, you know, how many catches did you had? And they say like 37, whatever it is, say, oh, you know, how many gorillas did you see? And they look at you with this befuddled, confused, like what, what kind of question is that? And they're like, oh no, no, there was a gorilla that came through. And they don't see it right now. If you know to look for it, you cannot miss it. But if you're not looking for this very obvious thing, you never see it. And it's the exact same thing with your type. If you are so focused, laser focused on like finding your type, you're not going to see all of the other people who are out there for you.

That's a very funny video. And you can see on YouTube if you just search like throwing, throwing ball and gorilla it really now if you know to look for it, you're going to see the gorilla for sure. But I could definitely see how someone could fall for that. And I remember not too far. Pretty recently a client was talking about how commitment is dead nowadays and like how men just don't want commitment. And so I challenged her and I challenge for anyone listening who might be falling victim to that mindset to do the same is to just spend a day looking for examples of healthy relationships everywhere you go. Just really intentionally look for a man who is holding the door for a woman who is embracing his wife or his girlfriend who is kissing in public. Just really spend a day like and it has to be like a Saturday or Sunday or it can't be like a Monday going into work here. All right, let's like really give this a real shot. And she came back and was like, oh my God, you're so right. Because I was just looking for every example online because I'm online dating. She, she was online dating at the time and before working with us, wasn't very successful at it. Now she's much more successful within actually dating an incredible guy. But she was only seeing evidence that supported her pre existing belief that men don't want commitment. And she wasn't seeing the gorillas out there, which are in this case a really healthy relationships that exist out there. They're Great guys.

I see what you did there. Well done.

Well done. You like that callback? You like that callback? There are great gorillas, handsome, sexy, beautiful gorillas who want to be with you and cuddle you every single night. I promise you they're out there and it just, it's a nice exercise because then you really do look at that couple who are in their 70s or 80s holding hands and it makes you realize, you know what, it exists out there. It's possible for me, you know, just.

Got to know what to look for.

Absolutely. And so I do want to give everyone a resource who's listening in on this. If you find that you are constantly attracting the wrong type of guy and maybe ignoring some of those red flags when you do see those guys, Dr. Gary and I put together this very simple nine question assessment that we call your attraction archetype. And once you understand your attraction archetype, suddenly you can kind of reconfigure your belief system around men and who it is that you should be spending your time with and who it is you should avoid like the plague. So it's a free assessment. You can just go to attraction type.com and once you take that assessment, we have a video explaining there's, there's basically four different attraction archetypes. Once you understand yours, you can have kind of a step by step strategy to get out there and attract love. So again, that's attraction type.com. make sure you take that assessment because you're going to learn a lot about yourself that'll help you out in your love life.

Yeah. And so the fourth thing here that is keeping you single while seeking your type is this idea that when you're looking for your type, you're looking for false signals because chemistry is not the same thing as compatibility because typically these my type qualities and characteristics, they're shallow. It's things that are superficial, easy to notice quickly. It's height, it's money, tattoos, jawlines, fancy watches, fancy shoes, fancy cars. It's signals of success, it's a job title, it's how a guy dresses. It's things that are easy to notice from across the room where it's like, oh, that guy looks like my type, I'm going to go talk to him. And so these superficial things become very dopamine centered and so dopamine, very exciting, tied to pleasure. But it's also specifically tied to the sense of desire, seeking out something, pursuing something, yearning for something. And so this my type idea of seeking superficial qualities when you want to pursue these Things, it makes it, you have to have superficial qualities because those things are easy to notice and easy to lock onto. And then you can fire up the pursuit. Here's the thing though, all of these superficial qualities, they're unreliable indicators. These actually don't tell us much, if anything about the quality of the long term relationship that would actually result. They're what I would call shallow metrics. Right? They're easy to see, but they actually don't have much substance. And so they're going to lead to false positives where, oh, look at this guy, he looks successful, this looks amazing. It's going to be a great. But then you only find out later, he's self centered, works all the time, ambitious, but not really into warmth and connection. And so we want to be really careful about what we're prioritizing and what really goes into my types. Because if someone said to me, you know what, I do have a type, I have a type. But my type is a guy who makes me feel safe and comfortable in his presence, who makes me feel seen, heard and understood. It's somebody I can just be myself around. That's my type. I'd be like, great, have a type, have a type, have a type. But no one's type is like that. It's just, it's just not. And so that's what makes it problematic.

And look, Gary and I aren't above this. We all have dopamine receptors and we're all chasing dopamine because we're humans and we're animals and that's what we do. But I think the difference here, that I had to learn the hard way, certainly I don't want to speak on Gary's behalf, but I've certainly seen it with many of our clients is learning when we are chasing dopamine and when we are chasing something that is long term fulfilling for us and recognizing that when we're just constantly chasing that dopamine, it can lead us to down a very dark path. You know, in the extreme case outside of dating, chasing dopamine, what will that get you into? Drug addiction, alcohol addiction, food addiction, iPhone addiction, which most people have. And so we need to be very aware of when we're just like constantly seeking those hits, those over and over again hits. And I think it's just something that for whatever reason in society we, we definitely don't support it when it comes to drugs and alcohol and, and phone usage in general. But with love, there's this idea to just like go for it. You're feeling it oh, he's great. You had a really fun time on that date. Oh, he must be perfect for you, right? We, like, give in and it's just wrong. It's just wrong. And I get it. So, so much of what we're doing is with our clients. It's like, hey, that could be okay. But, like, let's take a step back and let's let the other part of our brain also have a say in this person.

I just had a client Tuesday, last Tuesday, said, Gary, I found him, like, okay, awesome. Tell me more. Okay. She's like, he's amazing. I'm obsessed. I'm like, oh, that's not, that's not ideal. Right?

Gary, These are moments that, like, the clients just want to celebrate with us. And I get that. And I do the same thing. We're such buzz kills, right?

I know. And it's like, it's so. Because everything in our entire life have glorified this idea of this dopamine rush of like, obsession and love and finding your person and all that stuff. And it's like, obsession is not the feeling that you should have with the person you're going to have this long term relationship with. Because what happens with any. Think about in your life right now, any obsession you've had with anything, what happens. It fizzles. It fizzles over time. And that's. It's a precarious emotion. Right. It's not the sensation we're really after.

It's a precarious. I would throw a little nuance in there. I wouldn't say that just because there is obsession, there's a problem. But if that's the only focus and that's the only signal, then that's a massive problem, you know? And then. I know I don't know how you feel about that, but like, if we are feeling that dopamine rush to me. Yeah, like, that's nice. That's like a cherry on top type of thing if it's there. But if it's not there, that's okay. And it can absolutely grow. And if it is there, there has to be a lot more underneath that cherry for it to be there. The right type of dessert for you. You know what I'm saying? Like, I thought analogies today. What am I hungry?

You sound like you might be hungry. But I think, I think the obsession piece. I agree with everything you said. I think the obsession thing is a bad indicator when it's happening on the first date.

Yeah.

Like when you're early on, you don't know that person well enough. It kind of goes back to what I was saying before about your type is if your type is about being seen, heard, and understood, great. But obsession is almost never after date five, it's like, now I'm obsessed with him. It. It's almost always early on where. And you're again basing on these my type, superficial kinds of qualities. And so, you know, I. I think all of that actually reveals the way to break this pattern. And the way to break this pattern is relying. Realizing that relying on your type, all it's really doing for you is allowing you to miss golden opportunities because you're just not seeing the full range of men that are out there. Because when you're relying on your type, really, that's based in a sense of scarcity, impatience, and familiarity. Scarcity in the sense that there's not that many guys I got to lock on to the one that I know is going to work. And it's impatience. Because it's like, if I'm going with the guys I've always gone with before, I know how this works. I can make it happen quicker. And what we know is if you try to make this happen quick, you're going to make mistakes, you're going to cut corners, you're going to end up with someone who's not ideal for you. And again, it goes back to familiarity. It's like just because it's familiar, it doesn't mean it's good. Because if it would have, if your type worked for you, it would have worked by now. We just have to keep that in mind because there are other kinds of guys out there, and if you don't give them a chance, you're never going to know if they're for you.

I totally agree. And so what we want to do for you is something special. We want to help you reset your algorithm. Because you have a certain algorithm, you have a certain type, you have a certain pattern, a certain way of dating that may or may not have led you into the arms of the wrong man. And something that we offer here for a select few number of people is what we call a Love Strategy session. And on this session, you have to apply for the session. And if you're accepted, it is a free consultation where someone on my team who's trained by myself will dive into your unique patterns and your type and understand where it is that you have been in the past and where it is that you really want to go. And by having this conversation, we're going to build for you a strategy that can guide you on this path and see whether or not working with us and holding you accountable to that strategy makes sense for you. And so what I would really encourage all of you to do right now is just go to loveapply.com you go through a short application process, give us some information about yourself. We'll take a look over if we think is the right fit. We'll take that information, prepare for the session, and then hit the ground running, because I want to help you reset your algorithm. I want to make sure that you don't fall victim to the same patterns over and over and over again. And at the end of the day, so much of what we do is just about accountability so that we don't go down that road with the wrong man and the wrong relationship. So, again, I would head on over to loveapply.com apply for that session, and we'll speak to you soon. Gary, this is a great one, man. I appreciate you.

Yeah. Adam, I feel like you need to go have a spaghetti and meatball lunch.

Done. And then look myself in the mirror and be like, shame.

All right, man.

Have a good one. Thanks, buddy.