A parent's decade-long insight: stop projecting your definition of success onto your kids. Instead, create a safe space with boundaries and teach them to ask themselves deep questions so they can find their own path, not the one that makes you happy.
The biggest change or lesson that I've learned over parenting for the last 10 years is letting go of being attached to an outcome for our kids. You know, a lot of times we project the things that we believe have made us successful or the things that we want for our life onto our children, and we try and steer them in a certain direction that we think is going to make them happy. And we do that because we think that's going to make us happy. But the fact is you have to let go. And what I really try to think about now is just creating a container and putting bumpers in for my kids and teaching them how to ask really good questions and really curious questions so that they can find their own inner wisdom and find out what's best for them. And trying to keep me completely out of that. If there's anything that I try and do for my kids, it's to teach them how to think for themselves. And unlock their own inner wisdom and tap into their own inner knowing in order to make those decisions for themselves. And if I've taught them that skillset, that's the single greatest gift that I can give my children.
