Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

Advice For Sharing Your Story During Dating

2 Sept 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment, Nick Stumbo advises daters to bring up each partner’s exposure to pornography during the early stages of a relationship—specifically around dates three to five. He argues that because pornography is pervasive, avoiding the topic can lead to misunderstandings later. He suggests asking open‑ended questions such as “When were you first exposed to porn?” and “How does it show up in your life now?” without demanding a full narrative. The goal is to start a measured dialogue early, countering fear, complacency, or the false assumption that everyone is struggling with the same issues.

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I don't want any boyfriend or girlfriend or fiancé to be dump trucked. And so part of that blog is saying, hey, in date 3 to 5, at least beginning the conversation of when were you exposed to porn? How have you navigated this? How is this, you know, actively showing up in your life? Is there struggle or not? I'm not saying that you have to share everything or tell a cohesive narrative, but to at least begin the conversation because it is so prevalent, right? We would be foolish not to have this conversation early on, but out of fear or complacency or even just the expectation that everybody's struggling,