Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

Betrayed Partner: It Is NOT Your Fault!

8 Nov 2025 · 1 min

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A short YouTube video by Nick Stumbo arguing that betrayed partners should not be blamed or pathologized for a partner's infidelity. The speaker rejects common misconceptions that the betrayed person is "broken," "codependent," or otherwise responsible for their partner's decision to cheat; the content focuses on correcting that insulting, flawed message and offering a more compassionate perspective.

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And that is that one of the misconceptions that we've run into over many decades is that there's some. Something fundamentally broken or pathologized about the betrayed, that somehow, you know, they've let themselves go. They were codependent. They. There was something in their way of showing up in the world that caused a spouse or partner to turn to this material, which is just inherently an insulting message, but it's deeply flawed.