Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

Create An Environment Where People Feel Safe Sharing Their Story #podcast #puredesirepodcast

12 Sept 2023

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Excerpt from a podcast/video in which Nick Stumbo discusses how church healing groups often fail at fostering genuine healing because they lack proper accountability and safe environments. He emphasizes that accountability must be offered (given) and not imposed, warns against leaders dominating groups, and notes that trust-building takes time—some men may take months before disclosing fully.

The church has not always done a good job with healing groups. And at the very core of the healing group is accountability. But one of the core phrases of accountability is it is given and not taken. But I see a lot of small groups that are healing groups where advice is given when it's not asked for, where leaders say, well, I only have a congregation of six guys, but I get to preach. They feel like now they get to be the person in control. And so a part of this is we have to create an environment where people feel safe to start disclosing their story. For some guys, they'll do it right up front at the beginning of group. For some men, it may be four months in before they get truly transparent in the group, because they have to build trust.