Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

Did I REALLY Process My Trauma? #puredesirepodcast #podcast

20 Jan 2024

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A short personal reflection (monologue) by Nick Stumbo about ongoing trauma recovery. The speaker reports attending counseling ~20 years ago and continuing recovery work, but still encountering unexpected triggers from "old wounds." They emphasize self-awareness (catching themselves when triggered) and using coping resources — "safe people," personal tools, and what the speaker calls a "faster scale" — to gain perspective and respond constructively rather than reactively.

I mean, I was in counseling 20 years ago and did a lot of recovery work and have done work since then. But I know that there are still times when something comes up, something that is an old, old wound that I think that I've process, processed. But when it comes up in a significant way, in a way that where I even catch myself and think, wow, I didn't even know that was there anymore then, it just reminds me that I need to still be doing work. The great thing about that, though, is that I have tools. You know, now I have tools so that when something triggers me and I'm, you know, responding to that trauma in a way that is not beneficial to me or the people around me, that then I can use my things. I have my safe people, I have the tools. I have the faster scale. I have these other things to really get a bird's eye view of what's going on and so I can respond appropriately.