Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

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25 Apr 2023

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YouTube podcast clip (uploaded by Nick Stumbo) featuring Daniel Gross explaining the AVR empathy formula — Acknowledge, Validate, Reassure — as a method for men to respond to emotional situations, especially in the context of addiction recovery. The AVR sequence encourages naming the primary feeling, validating it, and humbly reassuring actions toward recovery; Gross argues this approach reduces defensiveness.

And AVR is an empathy formula that teaches men to acknowledge the issue, the challenge, or the problem, validate the primary feeling. Because they'll want to say, I know you felt sad, lonely, and angry, but I want them to pick the one that's the primary one, and then reassure, humbly and with humility, reassure her of the things that you're doing to get on the right track, to be on the right track, to be a recovered addict. And when you combine A for acknowledge, V for validate feelings, and then R for reassurance, it brings down the defensiveness.