Transcript excerpt from a YouTube conversation about healing after betrayal, focusing on whether friends and family were supportive during recovery. Speakers describe mixed reactions—some relatives were affirming while parents (especially the mother) remained angry at the partner—offer practical coping strategies (gratitude practice, leaning on supportive people), and give encouragement for those lacking outside support.
Were your friends and family supportive during your recovery and healing process? And then also, do you have any words of encouragement for those who might not have support outside of their Pure desire group?
Yeah, we did have a lot of friends and family that were super supportive. But, like, I did kind of mention earlier, I think the hardest one to deal with was my parents. I think they just, like, were really mad at Nick for hurting their daughter and couldn't really get past that, and they couldn't. What was hard was they didn't think about it in, like, for me or for Nick, but, like, kind of turned it more back on themselves and were, like, upset. I don't like a person, like, it was a personal attack on men, and I'm like, this isn't about you. This is about me. So that. That was really hard because I just expected parents, like, what would I do if my kids, like, came to me? But maybe it's because I have all this healthy healing, like, knowledge. But, like, I wouldn't. I would want to be there for them, like, and offer grace and forgiveness and love and all the things, because they're, you know, from them. I think my dad is more so. But, like, not just not to have their words of, like, hey, we're praying for you. Or, you know, we've been married now longer without addiction than we have with addiction. But I still feel like my mom is so angry at Nick, and so that's really hard. I don't know if that answered the question, but other people, like my mom's sisters, they're like, oh, we're so proud of you. You're doing such a great ministry. And so I think just, like, you're gonna get. You're gonna have people in your life, family, friends who are gonna affirm you, and you're gonna have family and friends that are not gonna understand, or they're gonna be upset, or maybe they're dealing with their own thing. And so it, like, is a trigger or something for them. But just to, like, I've been trying really hard to do, like, just take all the positive things and try to really speak those out. And, like, those are truth. Like, that's what's true. And the negative ones just be like, okay, Lord, this is yours. Like, take that one. And then I've really liked in the new book that I did with my last group, those, like, daily gratitude.
Yeah.
Things just to keep in mind, like, what am I grateful for? Because we can't control others.
Shouldn'T, basically, because we can't. You know, people are either going to support you or they're not, you know, but you still have to just own your story and get healthy. And sometimes that does come at a cost. So I think that's a realistic expectation, because we do have betrayed spouses that don't get the support that they need or want from their. Either their side or their husband's side. And that's just a reality. So if you can kind of have that healthy dose of reality, not to put, you know, scare you, but, like, some people are not gonna support you guys and what you're doing, and that's. That's okay. Like, there's still. You still have a lot of good things going on. Yeah.
