Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

Lust Vs. Sexuality

23 Jun 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment, the speaker challenges the common Christian cultural view that equates all sexual desire with sin. He frames lust as a participatory bodily response rather than an inherently bad impulse, urging listeners to approach arousal with curiosity instead of immediate condemnation. By encouraging people to ask, “What’s happening?” rather than shutting down the feeling, he warns that trying to ‘kill the flesh’ can be harmful. The speaker emphasizes that having a body that reacts to the world is normal and that such responses are not intrinsically sinful.

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Lust is something we participate in. It's something that we go with, right? And I think in the Christian culture, we've tended to like mush all that together and just say, well, sexuality's just bad. And so anything that moves in me is bad. And I would say, you need to be curious about your arousal. Ugh, what's happening? I'm feeling sexual feelings. But not to just right away shut it down and say, oh my gosh, 'Oh, that was— I must be having lust and impurity, and I've got to shut it down.' It just— I, I think that can contribute again to, you know, we, we end up shutting down the body to try to kill off the flesh. Yep, correct. Uh, and, and we need to leave room for actually you have a body, and it's okay that it responds to the world. Um, that's, that's not inherently sinful.