Nick Stumbo delivers a spoken monologue (podcast/sermon tone) describing how shame and condemnation trap people in a self-built "cage" of compulsive behavior (specifically pornography/addiction). He argues that without a safe process and someone to bring the key and guide a person out, they remain stuck and will return to familiar destructive habits.
When men and women, they feel that shame and condemnation from the warning in the purity sermon, but they don't know what to do. We've created a cage of our own making. We've reached through. We built it block by block and bar by bar. We reached through the door, we locked the cage and threw away the key. Nobody keeps the key. And without a safe place and a safe process to really understand why do I do what, what I do when I say that I don't want to do it anymore and hate myself for doing it again? And if you can't walk me through that, then I will stay inside my little cage wearing a hole in the center of the floor, getting deeper and deeper. And I needed somebody to come in, bring the key with them, unlock the door and show me how to walk out. Because left to my own devices, I would run back into what was familiar.
