A single-speaker YouTube talk (Nick Stumbo) arguing that recovery functions as a form of discipleship and a sustainable, practical way to live. The speaker emphasizes daily self-check-ins, using recovery tools as part of a life rhythm, and applying those practices to marriage—particularly learning how to repair small relational harms and practice forgiveness after both large betrayals and everyday offenses.
The idea is like, recovery is discipleship. When I was in recovery, I learned to check in with myself every day, and that's just a better way to live. We learn to check in with each other every day and that's just a better way to be married. But we've also learned in this kind of big forgiveness event what repair should look like for day to day things. A lot of times we'll talk to couples like, hopefully everything you're learning in recovery is just going in your tool belt and you're using it because like you said, you're going to make a mistake, you're going to violate the love and trust of the relationship. Hopefully not as significantly as maybe was done in the betrayal, but there are going to be these, these smaller things. And we were amazed at how many couples, they just didn't know how to repair small things, right? Little things where there was unforgiveness, right? Even just. Even if they were able to let go of the big betrayal, they would maybe hold on to other things. The things you're doing in your recovery journey just become part of the rhythm of your life.
