Panel-style YouTube discussion about self care framed as an investment rather than selfishness. Speakers address common barriers (lack of time, guilt, family responsibilities), recommend reframing self care as an investment in relationships and safety, emphasize boundaries as part of self care, and offer practical timing strategies (e.g., early-morning workouts, solo activities) to avoid burdening others.
So Kelly, for a lot of people self care is really challenging. Just how do I find the time, how do I find the space? Maybe they're a young mom or a busy working parent or they just have tons of responsibilities like I don't have time. So how do we overcome that feeling that self care is too much work, too hard to do and that we maybe feel selfish doing it because it feels like well, I should be helping other people and now I'm taking time for mihat. How do we navigate the challenges that come with self care?
I really think if we look at self care as an investment, that kind of changes the game. And again, I did a little pre work on that word, an investment. This is really cool. An act of devoting time, effort or energy to, to a particular undertaking, behavior or undertaking or behavior with the expectation of a worthwhile result. So it's like remember what you're working for. What are you, what are you trying to accomplish by having the self care in your life and reminding yourself that you're just investing in yourself, you're investing in creating for you and entire environment. You know, I think about, I've had a couple of women but how do I stand firm in my safety action plan and in that. So like how do I practically stand in that when maybe I have feelings of guilt that my husband's sleeping in the other room or he's still gaslighting me through this or just making life miserable? Like how do I stand in this boundary? Because I think boundaries are part of self care 100%. So like how do I stand in that? And again, keeping that perspective of this is an investment in your marriage, it's an investment in your husband's recovery, it's an investment in you feeling safe. Safe. So it's like it's kind of just shifting that perspective and reminding yourself what the goal is, what are you working towards? So I think that that comes in a lot of ways. Even in creating a stress, a less stressful holiday. I don't know if we can have a stress free holiday, but a less stressful holiday. Reminding yourself that you're creating these boundaries. You're, you're having this time of self care because you're investing in a desired outcome.
Yeah, I know for me I struggle with the timing of self care cause like you know my wife, she has like work that she does but primarily she's a stay at home mom. And so when I get home the thought of me doing self care is kind of like I feel like I'm putting her out. And so for me, what I found helpful for me is finding times of the day where I'm not putting her out, where that self care can happen. And so instead of me taking 30 minutes after I get home from work when she's prepping dinner and all the boys are doing their thing for me to work out, I do it at like 5:30 in the morning. And I know that sounds like an ungodly time of the day. It's not. It's glorious. But at 5:30, no one in my house is awake. And so I'm not sacrificing that time. And the same thing. I mean, everyone on the show probably remembers me saying that, like, going to movies by myself is just a great form of self care for me. And so I usually wait before the boys have gone down. So again, I'm not putting my wife out. But I also think.
