Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

The 2 Most Powerful Tools for Hard Conversations

9 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this short monologue, the speaker argues that Jesus’ most effective communication methods—storytelling and asking questions—are the two most powerful tools for navigating difficult conversations today. He emphasizes that personal testimony (stories) can counter deceptive narratives, and that the Bible is filled with questions (about 3,000 across the Gospels, Acts, and Paul’s letters), demonstrating a model for probing dialogue. The speaker illustrates how asking targeted, reflective questions can confront issues like pornography, prompting self‑examination and moral reflection. The overall message is that anyone can employ these two techniques—sharing authentic stories and posing thoughtful questions—to engage others compassionately and effectively in hard conversations.

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But listen, Jesus communicated primarily in two ways. Number one, he told stories. So you have shared your story. It's our testimony, you said, that counters the lies of Satan. We remember stories, we relate to stories, we love stories. That is a powerful thing to do, is to just share a story. The other thing Jesus did is he asked questions. In the Gospels and Acts, we have recorded 340 questions. In the letters of Paul, 262 questions. There are 3,000 questions in the Bible. So even if you're not an apologist, you know, somebody's looking at porn, you can just ask some questions. Do you ever feel guilty looking at this? Do you ever wish you didn't look at this? If, if your parents or others you respect found out, would you care? Would that bother you at all? What would you think if you found out you're scrolling through some site and you found that your sister was in this? Would that make you think differently? Like, wait a minute, other people are looking at my sister this way? Uh, how about your daughter this way? Do you think our society would be better or worse if people stopped looking at porn entirely? Just ask questions. Everybody can do that. Everybody can do that. So, so share stories and ask questions.