Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

This is What Healthy Sexuality Looks Like

2 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this reflective monologue, Nick Stumbo argues that a Christian understanding of sexuality should mirror the way we approach food: rather than abstaining completely, we should make healthier choices that honor our identity as sexual beings created in God's image. He emphasizes that being sexual extends beyond the physical act of intercourse, allowing single individuals to experience a vibrant sexuality through longing, desire, and connection that do not violate biblical principles. Stumbo critiques a "just stay away" model of sexual abstinence, proposing instead a framework of consuming what is wholesome and life‑affirming, thereby fostering spiritual and relational health rather than leading to destruction.

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connection with our processes of food and sex is that we are meant to, in some degree, to consume. Like, you don't quit eating to get healthy in your food, you make better choices. And I think there's a parallel there. And that doesn't mean that we have to have sex, because being a sexual being is far more than the physical act of having sex, because otherwise single people would somehow like cease to exist. Uh, but you can be a single person and fully alive in your sexuality in other ways that are not violating the word of God. And so I think that's something we do miss in our faith, that we feel like, well, with food, yeah, you need healthier habits. With sex, it's just abs, just don't go there, don't think about it, versus embracing like, I have been made in God's image by God as a sexual being. What does it mean to in a healthy way acknowledge my longings, my desires, my need for connection that don't have to include physical sex to experience that. So it's less of a just keep it away model and more of how do I consume what's healthy and good for me and leads to more life rather than leading towards destruction.