Short transcript of a YouTube segment (Tip #2) discussing why one-time efforts (“one-off”) are insufficient for lasting change. Speakers contrast isolated goals (e.g., going to bed early for a single meeting) with commitments that build recurring patterns and habits, and emphasize connecting specific actions to larger life changes (e.g., relationship-building) rather than treating them as standalone tasks.
So the second tip for making a better commitment to change is to avoid the one off. Trevor. What do we mean by that?
So here's just an example of a commitment to change. So I've got a big meeting on Thursday, so I'm going to commit to going to bed early or on time on Wednesday. And I think that that's just like a one time thing. And that's not. Maybe that is something that's going to help you on Thursday or maybe is going to help you with that meeting. But, but is that going to bring about actual change and health for you that week? And that's not something that's creating a pattern. That's just making sure you don't forget one thing. And understanding the commitment to change is not just how can I accomplish the one thing I want to get done, it's how do I establish those patterns in my life that will continue on Instead of saying, I'm going to do this one thing, look after group, maybe you leave group and you do that one thing and then the rest of the week you have nothing you're focused on. There's no change you're really working toward. Really what it does is it sets you up to start creating habits and patterns in your life rather than just accomplishing the one thing you want.
Yeah, and we're going to talk about this a little more in the episode, but it's kind of separating out a commitment to change from just a goal or something you hope to accomplish. Like you were saying that we really want to connect it to what's the change I'm trying to bring about in my life and why. And so I think there are occasions where you might have a very specific one time activity, but it'll be connected to a much larger change. Like if the change, the larger change is that I'm trying to develop stronger relationships like with friends, then maybe your goal is about getting together with friends on a certain night of the week. But because it's connected to that bigger goal of relationships and growth, it makes a lot more sense than just, oh, I'm trying to clean the garage this weekend. Well, we all make little goals like that. It's good to have accountability, but we really want to make sure it's connected to the greater changes that we're working on as a whole.
Yeah, absolutely.
