A short monologue by Nick Stumbo reflecting on how he was taught to view sexual desire as sinful rather than as part of God’s design. He describes internalizing shame about hormones and sexual feeling—even within marriage—and references Sheila Ray Gregoire’s book and perspective that frames sex as "dirty, bad and evil, so save it for the one you love."
I was never taught that at its root, all of that desire and the stuff happening in my brain and the, you know, the hormones and the dopamine, like, that God had created that and that it was his design. And those things I was feeling was how he had made me. And so rather than seeing it as part of God's goodness, I always saw it as part of my sinfulness. You kind of still feel like there's this unhealthy sinfulness even in marriage, sexuality, and you don't know how to really give yourself permission to be fully alive. How God made you within marriage. And I think it was Sheila Ray Gregoire that has said it in her book that sex is dirty, bad and evil, so save it for the one you love. Yeah.
