Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

Why Do I Keep Doing This?

10 Oct 2024

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Short talk by a clinician/speaker (Nick Stumbo) addressing men who ask, “Why do I keep doing this?” The speaker notes clients often already have tools for behavior containment but lack understanding of the underlying reasons (the “Y”), especially when actions conflict with Christian identity and family values. The goal is to help men discover why they repeat behaviors so they can work on that underlying cause and sustain long-term recovery after leaving treatment.

This is like the number one thing that guys say that they want to work on when they come to see us. I want to know why I do what I do. I've gotten a lot of tools around the what I need to do to help stop or kind of the behavior containment pieces or maybe they're connected with some resources, maybe they're not but they're still wondering why do I keep doing this especially as a Christian. This is not part of my identity. This is not part of my values. It's not what I want. This is not what I want for my kids. We may not be able to guarantee that you'll never act out again but we'll help you find why it is we're doing what we're doing. I think that can be very powerful for me men to get a hold of that Y and get some work around that Y and then be able to carry that into their long term recovery once they leave.