Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

You Might NEED The Thing You're Afraid Of

16 Jul 2026 · 1 min

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In this brief spoken segment, the presenter explains that emotional "binds" arise because the very thing needed for healing—connection—is also the source of fear. The speaker highlights that partners must navigate this paradox, and suggests that seeking therapy, joining supportive groups, and being witnessed by compassionate people can dramatically reduce shame and facilitate healing.

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Binds are created because the very thing we need to heal is the thing we're afraid of. In order to heal this wound, I actually need connection. Connection is also the thing I am afraid of. And so there's a bind there that partners have to navigate. And I think if they can, if they can go to therapy, get some kind of, um, support and help be in a group, it does Amazing amounts. When you are witnessed by other compassionate people, it really starts to mitigate the shame.