Nick StumboExecutive Director driving healing from sexual brokenness

You Need To Pursue Your OWN Healing

8 May 2026 · 1 min

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In this segment of Nick Stumbo’s motivational talk, he emphasizes that the primary purpose of improving one’s health should be personal well‑being, not merely to please a spouse or keep a marriage intact. He acknowledges that external motivations—such as wanting to make a partner happy—can be a useful starting point, but stresses that over time individuals inevitably recognize that health is fundamentally for themselves. Stumbo argues that personal health benefits all future relationships, whether romantic, platonic, or familial, and that even if a current partner is absent, the work on one’s health remains valuable. The overarching message is that self‑directed healing is essential for long‑term fulfillment and relational success.

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The point of this is that you get healthy. Wasn't just to make the marriage work or to make them happy. And some of us start there. And I say, whatever motivates you to start working towards your health, it's okay, even if it was for them. But ultimately, sooner or later, we all come to the place of realizing, oh, this is really for me. And my health is what I'm gonna bring to the marriage. Or even if I'm not married anymore, statistically, I'll probably get married again. Or even if I'm not married, I'm gonna have relationships, friendships, I'm gonna be in a family, and it's about my health. And so just because the other person isn't there, it might change the process, but it doesn't mean it's invaluable for you to do your work because your work will benefit you. And in the long run, that's what we're after.