BARBARA TIJERINA | 7 TIPS de Lenguaje NO VERBAL

I am an architect and clinical psychologist and I do something called healing architecture, which is designing to heal. And today I find myself in a. I already have a team, but I still do all the client analysis and diagnosis. And my question for you is, can I really train someone who has this hypersensitivity to be able to project what I need? Or does it take a special person to achieve it? No, I believe that we can train everyone. Our brains have the chip to detect it. Has it ever happened to you that they say, oh, I'm super committed to this, Something doesn't add up? Something doesn't add up. It's the voice, it's the hands. Your brain is wired to detect that. But when you study it and when you see that there are people behind it who have realized that when you are confident, you open up. When you are afraid. How about the photos when they act like that? Don't act like that. Yes, it can be trained. Yes. And the good thing is that they follow many studies. I was at Harvard a month ago. And they are increasingly trying to implement non verbal communication at all ages.

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Perfect. So let's go over here. Who's already here in this area? I'm your fan. Hey, look, I'm Jairmo Malgar. I'm from Guatemala and I work at AV InBeb in corporate affairs. You're talking.

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You talked a little bit about the fact that there's no specific position that can say he's lying, he's telling the truth. But rather, normally, communication across languages has evolved so that it doesn't mean that if you cross your arms, it's because you're negative. If you cross your legs, it's negative. But it depends on the situation. You can expand a little bit more because right now we have the perception that a person who has their feet or arms crossed is negative. But it could be something else that we're not perceiving.

That's right, yes. We have to be very open about this. Hey, you can't say he touched his nose. They're lying to me. No, but it does have a. I mean, it has a real relationship. When we get stressed, we produce adrenaline, it produces catecholamines, and it makes our face itch. I mean, the itching is real, but it could be due to the stress of asking someone. If you say, hey, as soon as they tell you I want to talk to you, we start scratching. So. And also the crossed arms that you mentioned, it could be because you're cold, you could be comfortable, but in Sports coaches forbid their team from listening to instructions like that. Because if your body creates a mentality, so you have to be careful with that. Hi, Barbara. I'm Maria Perez Calver. Uh, I have a question. I mean, at the moment when you become an expert in your body language and how you can give the message you're looking for, are you always using it or do you leave your meeting and it turns off? I mean, that's hard for me. Where does your personality and the spontaneity of the person fit in? In my book, it's called the power of nonverbal Harness your authenticity. Slin was also talking about it earlier. I mean, when I'm advising someone, there's no one right way. It's a tailor made way to feel authentic. There's one politician out there. Oh, my God. Who is advised to dress like Angela Merkel. And then he just does that and speaks. Good morning. Here's a tip for you. In the state of Oaxaca, we perceive everything that's fake. You don't have to be an expert to pick up on what's fake. And once you learn certain tricks, you use them to your advantage. If you saw Oso before I went in, she was jumping up and down, charging up with energy. I think everyone has to find their own way to use nonverbal language to their advantage. I'm telling you, every time I'm around her, I get scared. And then she sends me messages. Oh, so you moving your leg too much, Oso? You're moving your fingers too much. Check it out. I'm watching you.

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My name is Gustavo. I have. How do I say it? A raw materials store. And I wanted to ask about how I can project that kind of confidence like the Mumbais had in the video there. How can I project it? How can you project it? Hey, no, I don't see you. Where is he?

There he is. He's the one in orange.

I'm like, ah, there you are. I see you. How can you project it? Look, the first thing is to work with your mind. It's not just about striking a pose. And I'm very confident. And here you bring it. It's about believing in yourself. It's about knowing what you do well. It's about thinking that you're going to do it better and that shows.

Thank you.

Paula. You were here. You are going to ask who.

But let's see, someone else already has the microphone here. Oh, hello. How are you, Barbara? Hey. Rodolfo Grimaldi. I work in entertainment and I'd like to ask you in relation to what you told us about how you can kill your own brand, and in relation to the team that stole the meat, what exercise could you do, let's say. Or would you recommend for our team of two? But then how do you do it? Or what exercise could you recommend so that when the three of us enter, we are synchronized like in the video?

Look, the first thing is that it may seem silly, but it is so important to train yourself in how to walk so that you don't enter like the ones on the Big Bang Theory. You saw them? Sometimes we enter like this in our shoulders here. Since we are looking at our cell phones all day, we already have this kind of small posture. That's how we come to offer you this product. Oh. Start taking expansive postures. Train yourself to walk, to breathe, so that you speak more calmly and don't stop observing your client. We give our gaze to those we consider valuable. And sometimes we only see those we think are going to pay. And we don't connect with others.

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My name is Cynthia. My name is Cynya. I have a carpentry workshop and I have a motor problem because I have Parkinson's disease. And my problem is how do I improve my body language so that, er, suddenly I arrive. I mean, and I'm very honest, I say, hey, you know what? I have Parkinson's disease. Suddenly I can have involuntary movements. What do you advise me to do there? Oh, I think your courage is very valuable. Don't hide it. No, I don't hide it. That's why present it as it is. I have this condition and these are my movements. People who love and accept you. I think you create a bond of trust. When someone recognizes, this is who I am, this is what I have. I mean, you do recommend that I do it with my client? Because there are times when I say, ah, I recommend honesty. Okay. We like to see real people, not perfect people.

Thank you. Thank you.

There's just one more thing I want to add. I have an interview with Everisto Babbe. He's a great entrepreneur and he stutters and he talks about his stuttering and has already turned it into a superpower and a tribute. And so the first thing he says is that he almost makes his own joke, saying that he stutters. And from there the elephant in the room disappears. Exactly. The elephant in the room disappears. It's just that when you try to hide something, it becomes much worse than when you're open. And frankly, I even wanted to sit down and talk to you after you opened the channel.

Thank you.

And let's go with one last thing.

Hello. Good morning. My name is Mariana Castaneda. I'm the founder of Meal del Alma, which is an intergenerational platform in P. Del Bienistar. Okay, My question is simple. Do you have any daily rituals to prepare yourself and believe that you are the best at this? I am on the team here at Oso. I do meditation and that is really bad for me. Damn it. But the truth is that the first thing I do, I do go for walks a lot. And that is my meditation and how to walk and how to position my shoulders. And I think of Gisele Bonchon. Well, you put in the effort. You can't do everything but in how to walk and how to lift your chin. And if I do it a lot, I go for walks and pay for tennis. But I want to beat Oso and I fell.

Well. Applause. Barbara Tijerina.

Thank you. Thank you.

Come here to take a picture.

I never come out well.

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Thank you.

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