105: The Perks & Pitfalls of Being an Enneagram 2 with my son Joey H. (Enneagram 2W1)

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Welcome to the Becoming Bulletproof podcast. I am your host, Tracy o'. Malley. I'm a mom to millennials, an author, Enneagram expert and multi million dollar entrepreneur, and master performance and business coach. I've gone from rock bottom to building a bulletproof business and life. If you're looking for the unfiltered transparent truth and even an extra kick in the ass, you will discover that here. Each week I'll be bringing you success stories of high level entrepreneurs as we discover how they became bulletproof and created their empire. You'll learn the story behind the glory along with Enneagram inspired truths so you can ignite your own purpose, profits and build your legacy. It's time for you to become bulletproof. Buckle up. Let's go.

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Hello and welcome to a very special episode of the Becoming Bulletproof podcast I promised you in December. As I round out season one of this podcast, I was going to bring you all the people that are closest to me. And I think with 2020, the way it's gone, we have new appreciation, new perspective about those closest to us. And I knew for myself when I was deciding to change up the podcast in 2021 to strictly be life coaching and Enneagram that I wanted to round out my interviews with people that I love the most and honestly, the ones that pour so much into me. And today's episode is very, very special to me because it is with my son who, Gosh, you're almost 23 now. That's crazy. That's crazy. But it was because of him and his sister that I really started to dive deep into the Enneagram close to a decade ago. You know, the way that I communicate is naturally very intense. That is my greatest strength and also the biggest thorn in my side. And where I saw it come to play out in not so great ways was with my kids. And I knew if I didn't make a change and learn how to communicate with them in a way that they could receive what was in my heart, this ship was going to turn a direction that I certainly didn't want. You guys have heard me say, if you don't repair it, you repeat it. And I was seeing that happen. And these two beautiful kids that I have are the most incredible human beings that have gone on in their 20s to do beautiful things in the world, in their friend circles, in their personal lives, and most importantly, under our four walls. Under our roof and our four walls, where so much growth has happened over the last decade. I could get really emotional just thinking about how Things might have gone differently if I didn't really take the tool of the Enneagram and use it for the beautiful thing that it is. And my son, who, like I said, is 23, he's a 2 on the enneagram, we've debated over that a few times because he is a very, very, very strong one wing, but he definitely is all heart, all two, all beautiful, all empathetic, all compassion. They're the greatest connectors of human beings and human spirits on the Enneagram. And my son Joey is no. No different than that. So. Hi, Joe.

Hello.

He was so nervous about doing this, and I know it's because he just always wants to do a good job. He cares about what I do. He spent the day yesterday in his one wing doing project for me around the house. He cleaned out my pantry and did it so beautifully. But it was the first time, he said last night, because it's the first time I've been around all day to watch you in action and doing what you do all day, between coaching calls and interviews and administrative and running a household. Right. So I know a lot of people that are listening right now. I get a lot of people that are twos that struggle, because you guys do feel more than any other type on the Enneagram. And there's this beautiful gift that you feel like your greatest gift is your. Your empathy. And I always tell people, like, our greatest gift is this, and it's also our greatest thorn. Like, my intensity is my greatest gift for the two on the Enneagram is the ability to be so empathetic. And I know today that serves you so well, but it wasn't always that way. There was a time that. That was challenging for you because you do take on so much. So I want to ask you what your favorite thing. What do you love about being an Enneagram to the helper?

Well, I think what you said with the empathy, it can be your greatest strength and weakness. And I think that's true. And I think in all my relationships, my empathetic nature is helpful and.

Creates deeper relationships with people.

I think it opens up a lot of conversations that maybe people don't have with others, which is good. I've always liked that about myself. But it can definitely spread you too thin sometimes. Um, so I think something I've learned to deal with that and kind of balance the empathy is to just block out time for myself, no matter what. Um, to just make sure that my cup's full before I try to fill someone else's.

Okay. Every enneagram 2 out there needs to take note of that because that is a hundred percent. Um, one of the biggest struggles of the two is because you have this deep desire you, you at a subconscious level. Your core motive is to be of service of others because some, somewhere along the line you believe that that's how you are worthy of love, acceptance, approval, attention, all those things. And so having boundaries around that, honestly seeing you do that has been one of my favorite things. And, and I've told you this and I absolutely, you know me, I'm no bullshit. You are the healthiest two I have ever met. And as an almost 23 year old young man, and a man being a two, I really do want to touch on that too because you know.

You grew up playing football and baseball and all sports and you love sports and you're a manly man and you're sensitive. And I think we are moving into a time where we see the, you know, the destruction of family, family unit. And I do believe a lot of it has to do with these men that have these sensitive hearts but don't know how to express it. Where do you think you have really learned to still be that strong? Because you are the strongest man I know. You really, really are.

Where do you think the ability to have that strength but also that beautiful sensitive heart? Where do you think that comes from for you?

It's kind of a tough question.

I know exactly what you mean though, because I have so many memories growing up where I feel like my sensitivity was a source of embarrassment for me. Like as a kid in kindergarten, dating back, that's my first memory of it.

Explain that.

It's kind of funny. So my aunt, my aunt used to give us these Care Bears. All different colors, they had different symbols on their stomachs. And I loved them. I used to like organize them on my bed all the time. For some reason I just was obsessed.

Very one like of you.

Yeah. Bed was made, Care Bears were in order.

But I remember one time I was sitting in my kindergarten class, it was later in the day and.

The Care Bears came up in conversation. I don't remember specifically. And I remember being laughed at by some of the quote unquote cooler guys in the, in the class.

They meant no harm by it, but that's something that stuck with me. What was your initial question?

Where do you find that you have found the balance, that you can be both sensitive and strong now? Because that, that I. We've talked about that incident when you were in kindergarten and that did stick with you. And you know, as somebody who, I mean, you're, you've always been one of the very best on the sports teams. You're always the captain because you, you are a strong leader and you still have this sensitive heart. So where did you find the balance when you were navigating past kindergarten and through adolescence and all of that, where you could be both? And I know that up until recently, you really didn't let that shine as much.

I.

I think it all comes down to kind of loving who you are as a person, like at the core of your being. I have to understand that that's just part of who I am and that's, that's not going to change.

And it's beautiful. And I've seen it help a lot of people, especially in my time in ministry.

I mean, I was working a lot with high school boys, you know, and talking to them about things they never talk about.

And seeing how important it is to get those emotions out.

I think that's kind of where I started to love that about myself and realize that this can be a weapon's the wrong word, but same concept as that.

And lately I don't feel ashamed of being sensitive anymore. I'm actually really happy to be.

Because I think as the years go by, every year I feel like I learn how to deal with that better.

So one of the things that you just said about that is when you really start to enjoy that part and you being a man as a two, like women as a two, I think have an easier time being that sensitive because it, I mean, let's just. Women are known to be more sensitive, at least outwardly.

But there is that fine line of it feels good to know that that sensitive part of you is a strength. And then there's this fine line of over giving. Right? Because I do know when you started, you know, serving the younger community and using that sensitivity as a gift, you started to get burnt out, just like me with my, my intensity and my leadership. Like, it feels really freaking good and we can go to the extreme. So what did you notice about that? When you started to recognize this is actually your superpower and you're proud of it. But there was this fine line.

There was definitely a fine line. I still do it sometimes where.

I will help too much and I will insert myself in situations where I should probably just chill out.

And it leaves me feeling depleted. So I think I'm still learning how to walk that fine line and.

Just understand when the moments to, to use those strengths and moments when it's time to just listen.

Because I think there's a time for both. There's definitely a time for both.

So I think just understanding the time and the place of when to allow that to flow is important.

So what is the thing that frustrates you most about being an Enneagram, too?

I really feel everyone's emotions.

Yeah, I do. When someone walks in a room pretty quickly, I kind of analyze how they're feeling before anything.

And sometimes that can rub off on me, which is pretty frustrating.

That being said, living with Me, an enneagram8 who hasn't always been the healthiest of eights. I know that.

Really played a big part in your evolution, too. What was that like?

Me?

I mean, we've talked about the enneagram8 on this podcast, and, like, you feel our energy before we even walk in a room. And for you to be living under the same roof with that somebody who feels everything, how have you learned to navigate that? Through my own personal growth over the last decade. Because a decade ago, this looked really different. How I showed up in a room and how you received it versus today. So how have you navigated that, living under the roof with me and then your sister, who's the enneagram7, who is like the free spirit of the crew here.

I don't know if there's, like, one moment where I feel like everything changed and I could just deal with it all of a sudden, but, I mean, I look back 10 years, and, I mean, Casey being a seven and you being an eight and me being a two, I mean, both. Both of you guys are pretty strong personalities, which is amazing.

And can kind of be intense sometimes.

And I'm kind of the opposite of that as a. As a male. So I think there's some.

That shapes you for sure. But I don't know if there's, like, one specific moment where I feel like.

Living with you guys has helped me deal with that more. But I just think the three of us growing together and being healthy together over time, we're just learning how to communicate better.

But I don't think there's a one size fits all answer.

What would you say to an enneagram2 out there? That is very. I mean, you all are very sensitive and empathetic, and you do feel what people feel, even if they're not saying anything. And back 10 years ago, when you could feel my energy and it wasn't always lovely.

What would you say to an enneagram2 right now that's in that situation, and they don't know how to not take that on and still move forward in their growth.

It's a really hard question.

I don't even know the answer. But some of the things that have helped me is learn how to breathe.

So true.

Learn how to breathe and get in touch with your breath. It's important. I sucked at breathing trying to learn right now.

Yoga.

Yeah. Honestly. Another one. Just go do something you love or be around people that make you.

Like, feel. Feel that.

It's so important. Surround yourself around the right people. Not that you guys aren't, but you know what I mean.

Yeah.

I remember when I was kind of helping you through this and putting boundaries up, because boundaries are a tooth. Best friend.

You know, One of the things I remember telling you, like, if people ask you to do something for them, instead of saying yes right away, like, say, can I get back to you? And I rem the look on your face like, oh, shit, no way. That feels like death to me. One of the things about being a two, so each number, as you know, goes to a certain number and takes on that kind of behaviors under extreme stress and then goes to another number during growth. And I think why you and I, at one point, close to 10 years ago, almost killed each other was because a 2 under extreme stress takes on the unhealthy version of my type of, which is an 8. And that wasn't always pretty. And once I understood, like, what the gift is of understanding the enneagram today and knowing that a 2 under extreme stress looks like me when I'm stressed, no wonder it was so triggering for me because it was like looking in a mirror at the parts that I don't really love about myself. But also knowing what I know now, it doesn't feel. I don't have to take it personal when you get there. And instead of feeling like you're being disrespectful or combative with me, I can recognize that, oh, my gosh, what is going on with you? There's something stressing you out. And. And when you can do that with a 2, it immediately diffuses them, you know? But if you go toe to toe with a 2 under extreme stress, it's going to be a brawl. They can look very eight like. But what you said about, you know, when you do feel like you're taking on too much or how to balance that out so you're giving from a full cup instead of, you know, the leftovers. So a 2 in growth looks like a very healthy 4, which is that individualist, still very emotional. The 2 is. Or. I'm sorry, the 4 is the most emotional on the Enneagram. So the fact that you go even more into that. But it isn't always about giving to others. It's actually about finding your true authentic self, which is the core of the four. So what are some of the things. And it's been so beautiful to watch. And I know that's part of why Covid has been. And quarantine has been very good for you because it's kind of taken away your natural go to just go serve everybody. Where you really had to kind of figure out how to serve yourself and find yourself right. So what do you like? You're a very creative person. You always have been artistically in writing, in music and all things. So what are some of the things that you do that you notice? Go into the healthy four and you know that you're growing.

I feel like I have been kind of the king of hobbies for the past couple years. I've just decided to find things that I love to do on my own and do them.

Golf has been huge for that. It's just a place I can go and be by myself sometimes and play a sport that I love and do that. Or it's yoga to where I feel like I can get in touch with myself. And there's a lot of self awareness that goes in there, which I think fours are good at. That.

Maybe it's playing racquetball with my friends or my grandpa or.

Playing the guitar. There's a lot of ways that I feel like I. I've been writing every day for a couple years. That's always been helpful for me. Um. I think just having outlets for myself by myself, with no one else is important for me. Very important for me. Something I don't know if I'll ever be able to go without. Whatever it is.

I know a lot of twos feel guilty when they're not healthy or when they're not as healthy about taking time for their self. Do you ever remember where you felt that?

I still feel that.

Pretty often. I'll find myself being.

Kind of squirmish throughout my days because I am, like, ashamed of taking so much time for myself.

I don't know why that happens. I just. I feel that a lot. And I'm learning.

How to give myself permission to do those things and not feel bad about them. But that's something I still fight well.

I know that living here with me, I see it all the time as somebody that kind of grew up feeling like I Had to take one for the team all the time. I didn't do a lot of that stuff. And I know sometimes, you know, as your mom, you see me here alone a lot. And you even come in sometimes apologizing for not being here or doing those things for yourself. And I want you to know, first of all, as somebody who loves you.

I think, like, it makes my heart so happy to know that you do that. And I think you've seen the effect of taking that time for yourself. It's actually not selfish. It's how you serve at the highest good for everybody you care about and everybody that you meet, even a stranger that you serve at the restaurant you work at. Um, I think when we are coming from a place of filling ourselves up, that you can be the very best version of yourself. And you are the epitome of that. So let's talk about what it's like to be a two in your friend circle. So what are the types of your closest inner circle?

Get a three, Get a six. Got a nine. Got another three.

Got a seven. Pretty well rounded.

So I. I noticed that you tend to gravitate towards threes in general. I think that you have a high respect for the goal setting and the doing of a three. I think partially that's part of your one wing because you have. With that strong, strong one wing, you have high integrity, high standards. Let's talk about your wings for a second. You know, as a two, you have the ability to tap three wing, which I saw you use more as a child. But as you've evolved and grown, I see you toggle between the two, but in total healthy ways. But you definitely lean heavy, heavy on that one wing. So what do you. What do you think about how you use your wings today?

I use my one wing a lot on purpose.

It's been a great. Helped me over the past year because I think I'm learning how to.

Use my one wing and allow myself to be a perfectionist in certain areas of.

My life that are healthy.

That are healthy. Yeah. I'm trying to channel it elsewhere as opposed to in my relationships, where sometimes being a perfectionist in relationships can be an issue because human beings are complex.

But I feel like I've used it with my room. I've made my room this sanctuary. Yeah, sanctuary for myself and make sure it's clean all the time and everything has a spot. It's just a place I live, you know, And I'm okay with that.

I think it honestly just comes out a lot around the house in the way I take care of my things and take care of the house and take care of the dogs. And I try to be very meticulous. I think that's one of, like, the top three words I would use to describe myself as meticulous.

And saying that you also give others that aren't as meticulous a lot of grace.

That's important.

That is something that you've really. Because I'm not meticulous. I'm. I'm structured in a different way than you. And Casey is the opposite of meticulous. So how do you. Because ones are typically known to be very rigid and critical. How do you balance that? It's the healthier version of that, where you can give others grace, but you also don't negotiate your standards and integrity.

I think, one, it's being okay with the fact that you like things a certain way. There's nothing wrong with that.

And it's also accepting the fact that not everyone's going to do that, nor should they. The way I take care of my things sometimes is a. It's a little tedious, but it's what I like to do, and that's okay. And my mom's not going to be the same way. My sister's not going to be same way. My girlfriend's not going to be the same way. And that's okay. If they move the blanket on my bed, I'll be fine.

Sometimes if the dog does it, it's totally okay. How do you use your 3 Wing today? Because obviously growing up, I mean, I could see that need you felt like you had to achieve, to be. You know, you're still rooted in the two. But that three wing came out to play in sports, in school, with your teachers, with your coaches, your dad. I saw it. How do you use your 3 Wing today? And I see it. I see you use it, but in a healthy way.

I don't really know if I've analyzed how I use it today. I just know the 3 Wing, for me, a lot of times has been a mask, something I put on.

If I'm uncomfortable.

Because you're one of those. I mean, this is where, like the two encompassing the one, you know, throwing it over to the three, like that integrity, that high, standards that high, like, achievement. Like, I can see that for you. And the three has the ability to be like a chameleon and kind of read a situation. Like the two can read the energy and the feelings and that three can recognize what is needed here to.

Win, be successful, to be admired. Right. I do. I do see you use it in a healthy way today, whereas before I could see it, you know, maybe not so much. That being said, you are in a relationship with a three, also in the heart triad. So you both feel a lot, but you feel very differently. What has it been like as a two with a one wing, Being in a relationship with a three with a two wing?

I mean, I think we're still learning how to communicate. I can't really give you an answer to that.

But it's so fun learning how to communicate with somebody. That's. That's an enjoyable process.

Yeah. I mean, we're still fresh into our relationship along into our friendship, but we're still just learning the ways we communicate. And it's different. Every person's totally different.

And that's good. So I don't. I don't think I have an answer for you yet.

What has it taught you, being in a relationship with a three, about yourself?

I'm not sure.

I think I've always admired in threes how, like, how productive they are. They're very, very impressive people.

I love threes.

And some of my closest people in my life have been three.

And I think I really admire that. And I'm learning to take bits and pieces of that and apply it into my own life.

Because I really. I want to be successful in the world. I want to. I want to make a lot of money. You know, I want to do a job I enjoy, and I want to work hard, and threes nail those things.

So I think Rachel teaches me a lot in that.

I feel like being around her kind of gives me freedom to dream bigger.

That is a beautiful answer. And I think.

The two showing the three, because the threes, I mean, they are the most admired. I see people all the time want to be like a two. And you can behave like a. I'm sorry, a three. You can take on, like you said, the nuggets of the three, but their drive comes from a deep need for some kind of significance. Right. And not always a healthy way. Right. So how do you think you help her slow down? What I usually do with threes is I warn them up front, I might slow you down a little to speed you back up, because they don't like to slow down very much because they're all about, like, production goals, nailing it, winning. So how do you believe that you help her slow down in a way that feels good for her so that she can speed back up and. And feel really good about the goals that she's Heading for.

I mean, like I said earlier, I feel like meticulous is a word that would describe me, and meticulous isn't really fast. Sometimes I've tried to slow down in my everyday actions and give everything I do full attention. And I think sometimes maybe threes don't do that. It's very much like. Like grind through this day, which is great. They get a ton done. But I've. In my own experience, I've learned that the more attention I pay on the task at hand, the faster and better I do my work.

That absolutely is a beautiful gift that you have shown me too, because threes and eights generally just plow through things and leave a lot of shrapnel and wreckage aside for different. Totally different reasons. But I absolutely know that is the gift that you bring to this household and to me. I know without question, like, I was gifted. You specifically, A2, because that's where I go in growth. And you know, how I grew up and you know what was kind of put in my head, I was taught and told that compassion and empathy was a weakness. And that is my natural go to when I'm growing. And every time I would feel that before I really started diving into my own work, I would sabotage that and I would shut it down. And the fact that. And you know, my dad was an eight, a very unhealthy one.

And you're the opposite of that. Yet you're so much like my dad, which is so cute. But I know that I was gifted and blessed to have not only a two in my life as close in my child, but a man two to really show me what strong and sensitive is in the same breath. Because as an eight, I pretty much compartmentalize everything. I judge everything as this weak or strong, this weak or strong. And because growing up, it was put in me that compassion and empathy is weak. I remember looking at you, I'm like, he's the opposite. Like, it didn't make sense. Even as a kindergartner with all those Care Bears, I never thought you were weak. I was like, this is the strongest kid I know. That sensitivity, I recognize was a strength. And I'm so grateful that, you know it's your superpower and you're unapologetic about it today and that.

You use that and shine it bright, but you also give yourself that same.

Courtesy and respect, which is the beautiful evolvement of a two. You guys do change the world, and you make us all better, for sure. So that being said, being a two in a work Environment and being meticulous and having a one wing, sometimes working alongside others can be challenging. You work in the restaurant industry, which you know is notorious for turnover, notorious for maybe people not being taking their job as seriously as they could. Usually it's a stepping stone for something else they want to do. But you have really fallen in love with it. And you bartend at a beautiful family owned restaurant here. You know, I mean, the owner's been your mentor most of your life, but how do you see the healthy two in you play out working with others?

This is something I've been learning recently. So I like this question.

But for the longest time, when I would think about the restaurant industry, I would wonder how people work in it for so long.

Because it can be very depleting sometimes. I mean, you're working hard, you're on your toes, sometimes you fail and you fail hard. And it's obvious.

But I'm lucky enough to be in a company where a lot of people have been there for a long time.

And I've kind of just tried to take note of what, what they've done. And something I've noticed is the people that are there and love their job care about people in it.

And that's something that no matter how the shift goes or who is there, if you care about the people you're serving and the people you're working with, it's going to be fulfilling. And that can go into absolutely any work environment, not just the restaurant, it's just the place that I've learned it.

Oh, I can feel myself getting choked up hearing that answer. And you and I have talked a lot about this and with, you know, 2020 and Covid and the restaurant industry really being affected hardcore by that. The very few times that you and I have gone out since all this went down and you've experienced this too, it's like people are not caring when they're serving. And I know that you, your shifts that you show up for and the restaurant that you are a part of actually is thriving during this time. And I know it has everything to do with, from the top down, people caring about people. So what do you do when we're faced with something like this and the energy is between the political environment, the racial environment and something like quarantine and being a two, how do you help diffuse that, especially at work?

I actually think it's been pretty.

I think it's suited my strengths well, to be honest, because a lot of people are feeling emotional. It's a crazy time and people need More grace now than ever, which I think is something I offer well.

I think my empathy is good in that sense.

But at work.

I've noticed, like, when we go out to eat, the service since COVID hit has just been awful at 90% of the places.

So I've actually, like, seen that and realized that my opportunity is bigger because if I give this. These people really good service, that's something they don't experience much, and that's something that's going to turn heads.

So I've just let that play into my strength. It's like, okay, if people are going to suck at serving, then I'm going to be really good at it.

And you are. And you are. It's. It's awesome. And, you know, I think people used to take for granted that they could just go out to eat. And, you know, with 2020, I, you know, I don't really enjoy going out to eat because it's such a shitty experience a lot of the time. And I'm a much better cook than most places. But I do appreciate beautiful service. And watching you not just service, but care about people, you know, when they come and sit in front of you like you actually give a shit. And it's a beautiful thing to watch.

The Enneagram has been a big part of our household. And we. We talk about it, we laugh about it, we joke about it, we're serious about it. And even though I've done a lot of work, you've witnessed it firsthand. The Enneagram has been a beautiful roadmap to really help us communicate and understand each other.

What has the Enneagram done for you overall in your life? And you can hit the areas of here, at home, in your relationships, friendships, work, personal health, whatever. What is the Enneagram Do. Do you tap into it every day?

I would say I do.

The best thing the Enneagram has done for me is just. It's made me more aware of myself and why I think the way I think and why I act the way I act. And it's helped me.

Get to know others better and realize that every human being is wildly different.

And one size fits all just doesn't work for human beings in anything. And I think the Enneagram is a cool. A cool way to represent that. Oh, there's. There's nine different types of people, and then there's 100 different types of those nines. You know what I mean? Like, it's just cool. It makes you appreciate everyone's gifts because every single person has their Own that I don't offer and that you don't offer.

And I think when we're looking for this, these gifts that every human being has to offer, it's a beautiful thing. And I think the Enneagram highlights that.

Well, I agree. And also, even when things, I mean, I had interviewed you and your sister a couple months back and you talked about healthy conflict. And also I recognize because I'm a little more intense and hot headed that I used to take shit so personal all the time before I really understood it isn't just what people do. Like what people do is one thing, but why people do it. When we can understand why people act the way they do, respond the way they do, you have the ability to understand that it isn't personal. It still hurts from time to time. Obviously, I can still communicate in a way that's hurtful. I don't mean to.

But you understanding me, and me understanding you, and me understanding anybody at this point, when I can get to the root of why this is and what that core fear is for that personality type, it does help diffuse things. And we're not letting people off the hook necessarily for crap behavior. But we can have compassion, empathy, and give them grace, like you said, which I think now more than ever.

Is super, super important. My dear, you are such a gift. I know that you have allowed me to really reframe my belief around compassion and empathy. I mean, it was pounded into me that compassion, empathy and emotions and sensitivity was weakness. I mean, you know, you know what I was put. What was put in front of me. And thank you from the day that you came into this world, showing me that that actually is one of the greatest superpowers of all humankind. And you wear it so beautifully. It's such an honor to watch you shine in your gifts and showing me how to lean more into that. I always think of you whenever I want to get fired up. I asked myself a lot of time, what would Joey do? What would Joey do right now? And so thank you for showing me the way. I really, really appreciate you.

Thanks for having me. Love you.

I love you too. I know that so many of you, especially you twos out there, you guys get a bad rap sometimes for being too sensitive. But as you guys have just heard, you know, you don't ever change. Like there's nothing wrong with you. You don't need anything to be fixed. How you express it, on the other hand, may need some tweaking. And this is a beautiful example of what leaning into that and having boundaries and going towards that growth part or that individualist in them can really do for that too. And I said it at the beginning, I say it now. The Twos really have the ability to change the entire world. And I think now more than ever, we need you Twos to step up into growth more than ever. And I know many of you are wanting to to explore your enneagram type or you're not resonating with that online assessment you took and you know 65 to 70% of the time they are inaccurate. And I would love to walk that journey with you. I literally could do it all day long. Joey was sitting here with me yesterday in the house and he's like, geez, you do this all day. I'm like, I love it. I absolutely love it. So you can hit me up on Instagram @traceyomalley to find out more or at Tracey O' Malley.com at the work with me section. And in 2021, the podcast will taking live typing sessions on air as well as coaching on air. More information to come about that. And until next time, y', all, here's to Becoming Bulletproof.

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