144: Vulnerability: Why is this such a buzzword right now?

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One of the biggest buzzwords I see floating around is vulnerability. And when I got into the online space, gosh, almost a decade ago for business and other than just posting pictures and crap about my kids and dogs, it was at a moment in my life where I felt most vulnerable and I had never shown vulnerability in my life. And many of us don't wanna discuss shame or vulnerability. We're using the buzzword. Because what I have found over the last decade is many of you have figured out that vulnerability sells, right? And I really wanted to talk today about why a lot of your vulnerability and you come by it innocently, some of you, some of you, it is definitely a tactic and I'm not knocking it. Cause it works. I mean, I get it, but it won't be sust for the things that you really want to do in the world. And eventually.

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Everything'S going to be exposed. It really just is a matter of time. I see this. But the reason so many don't want to discuss the shame or the vulnerability to dealing with problems because so many of you want to just bottom line me, and I'm one of these people, like if you had told me that I had to be vulnerable in order to transform my life, I would have been like, yeah.

Pass. Because so many of us just, just tell me what to do, just tell me what to do. And there's no bypassing around it. And you know, this fake discounted vulnerability that's out there a lot today, it has skewed what doing some of this work on ourselves, whether it's in the professional way or the personal way. And quite honestly, the only way is to find harmony between the two.

You know, you can't bypass this. You can't.

Decade ago, when I decided to change careers and Go into the online space. And it was before it was really a thing. I was coming in on the front end of this, and I was at a time in my life where I'd hit rock bottom already and I was just starting to kind of come up from ground zero and I was sharing vulnerable things. And it was before it was cool. I like to say that it was before people knew how to build sales pages and write copy around vulnerability. And in, in rehab, which is where I discovered what real vulnerability was. I was given the book the Gifts of Imperfection by Brene Brown. And, you know.

It was very eye opening that I could understand things and mindset. So many of you are using mindset and calling it vulnerability, but it's not the same thing. Understanding things and having insight about things and even talking about hard things is not vulnerability. Vulnerability is not winning or losing. It's having the courage to show up and be seen when we have zero control over the outcome. And that is the thing that so many of you, myself included, don't understand. And it wasn't until just a couple of years ago that I experienced what true vulnerability was. And even you know that. That's why I say so many of you are coming by this innocently. You think you're being vulnerable, but you're really, really not. And it's. I'm not saying this out of judgment. I really want to help you transform your life and make the impact on the lives that you are here, whether it's in your home, with your families, whether it's with your friendships, or out in this amazing business world where we're all about making this world better. When I realized that, I thought I was being vulnerable. And don't get me wrong, I was being way more vulnerable than I had ever been in my life. I was sharing parts of my life that I had experienced what I thought were weaknesses. Right? And you know, when we, when we think that others might perceive us as weak, that's when we go to shame and start hiding things and numbing out and distractions and all of that. And I'll get into, like, the virtues of the Enneagram and how this comes into play of this. But it wasn't until in real time that I leaned into other humans when I had zero idea how I was going to get out of it. That is true vulnerability. And a lot of the things that you're seeing online is the discount version of vulnerability.

A lot of times, you know, it's just a story. And I, you know, I've had to be Honest with myself a lot over the last 10 years is, you know, I have had people come to me and tell me, oh my gosh, I wish I was that vulnerable. Your vulnerability is so strong.

And, you know, I usually will turn that question around on whoever says this to me when they're afraid to share their own vulnerability. And I ask, do you think I am weak or.

Don'T know what the heck's going on in my life? And they're like, no, it's strong. And, and I want to ask you this is why is it strong for me, but not for you right now? That being said.

When we share this vulnerability to the public, let's say, and when you see people online in this space sharing vulnerability, quite honestly, this, this isn't what vulnerability is. It's a story. It is a story about a hard time in their life, my life. What it, what is real vulnerability is in the trenches of it having no idea how the fuck you're going to get out of it and saying to another human being, I need help. Now, when it comes to the online space, I don't recommend doing it that way. If you're in business or just in general. I mean, if you don't feel like you have a support system and, and you want that, that's one thing. It's another thing to be seeking attention or, or kind of roping people in that way. And a lot of this I, again, it's coming with zero judgment, but you're going to have to kind of look in the mirror. So in rehab, I was introduced to the Gifts of imperfection by Brene Brown. And that's when I became a student of hers. And she is an enneagram one, by the way, the reformer, the improver. And it's, you know, she's a master educator and teacher on vulnerability and shame. And.

You know, she, when I was reading her words and she was talking about her research on it and speaking life into me, that vulnerability is not weakness. It's actually your greatest measure of courage. And if you go back to the definition of vulnerability, it's having the courage to show up and be seen when we you, when you have zero control, control over the outcome. Most of my life I could appear vulnerable. And like I said, I came by, I thought this was vulnerability. There were times it was manipulation. But most of the time I would say this was my version of vulnerability. And I'm saying this because I think it might be yours. And this is what's freaking holding you back, okay, is, you know, if I've been through something hard and I'm sharing it with you and there's a possibility of how you might judge me. That is what most of you are thinking vulnerability is, right? The fact is, is most of my life, never have I ever, up until the last few years, ever said I need help in real time. The only time I would even show an inkling of saying I might need some help is after I already have it figured out. I already know what I'm going to do and I'm just saying this, but let's just call a spade a spade. I don't need you. I won't rely on you to help me out of this. You see the disconnect there? And this is what's holding so many of you back. It was holding me back and up until a few years ago it was holding me back. In personal relationships. I was able to do this in a business setting pretty easily. And it was a little compartmentalized if I'm being completely honest. I could still have healthy boundaries. It still wasn't letting people to the most intimate parts of myself. But in the business space I was super vulnerable in real time because I didn't know what the hell I was doing. I was building this brand new business, I was putting myself out there. I needed people in order to build the legacy that I created. I really did need people. I could not do that on my own. Now could I use some of my strengths to show vulnerability so that I could leverage people? Yeah, I did. And leaning into that vulnerability is what made that business successful and continues to to this day. But there was this missing gap in my personal and even with my own children in real time when I was struggling with something, most people close to me would have no idea and most didn't even the ones living with me. And it wasn't until I was kind of faced with my own health stuff and I looked around and there wasn't anybody around and it was completely self inflicted. And I realized that there was this missing gap in intimacy and vulnerability in my personal life.

The thing is, is worthiness doesn't have prerequisites. And part of me felt like if I let people see me struggle then they would think I was weak and that was the last thing I wanted.

And you know, another one of the things that Brene Brown says is one of the greatest barriers to connection is the importance that the culture and the world puts on going it alone. And as an enneagram8 I'm wired to go it alone. I will die before I will Let you see me weak now, how my belief has become or how my belief has changed and what weakness is, has changed. Right? I still don't want to be weak, but I have a realistic understanding of strength and weakness today. But somehow we've come to equate success with not needing anyone.

Many of us are willing to extend a helping hand, but we are very reluctant to reach out for help when we need it ourselves.

It's as if we've divided the world into those who offer help and those who need help. And the truth is, we need to be both. And once I really understood this and really embodied it and actually leaned into it, everything about my life has changed for the better. Granted, I had the financial success, I had the house, I have great kids, but I had no intimacy in my life. And the real ability to connect people could connect to me all day long because I could be vulnerable. But I would keep you behind a wall. And it wasn't until I started leaning into real vulnerability that everything shifted in my life. And the last few years have been some of the hardest and absolutely some of the best. The love and friendships and the relationship with my kids have changed because of my willingness to raise my hand in real time and say, you know what? I don't have this all figured out. I need your help. Biggest thing I've ever had to break through in my life. And there are some of you, you know, in the Enneagram, there's are. There are those that. Who. That offer the help and those who need help, and I'll kind of touch on that in a second.

But the more that we numb the dark, which means hiding our vulnerability, the more you're going to numb the light. And I was faced with that almost four years ago. I realized that me keeping this dark part, the shadow part of us, we all have it. It doesn't make us bad. And I don't care how much work you do on yourself, there will always be a shadow. Always be a blind spot you have to look at. And if you numb that out, distract it out, shame it out, you're going to numb the beauty, the light, the joy, the. The abundance that is due for your life. So one of the things about the Enneagram that's not talked about too much are the virtues, right? And there's this dance. It's like the Holy Grail of your main type. And I'm going to be doing some great episodes in. In the very near future on, really how to use the entire framework of the Enneagram. So many of you are just fixated on your. Your main type of. It's a great place to start. It's the most important thing to start with. But in order to use the Enneagram and all its beautiful intricacy. I don't even know the word. All the beautiful things that come with the Enneagram, you have to find the dance between all the different numbers because the real goal is, is to embody all nine types. And I. I gotta say I do embody a lot of them. But there it. A lot of it has to do with the virtue of my enneagram8 and this thing called vulnerability and how vulnerability show for each Enneagram type looks a little different. But a lot of it has to do with the virtue which is like, you know, when we know we have gotten to this point of light, integration, love of self, love of the divine and others. Like this is when we don't hold on to, you know, hurts and pat and. And the past and resentment. It doesn't mean it's not there. And it's not important to use that to connect the dots. But we're not living there, right? And it's really, really important. And this is where the Enneagram really has helped me lean into my vulnerability even more. So there's things called the passions and sometimes they're called vices. This is where we go into the dark side disintegration, where we kind of break down ourselves relationships, a deeper connection to a divine source, whether it's God or whatever you want to call it. And then the path to the virtue. And I have found that I dance between the two quite a bit. It's the shadow and the light. And in between all this is the gift of vulnerability and how we get there. So the virtue of the Enneagram one, the improver, is serenity. And you know, the One is typically the perfectionist. But serenity leads to.

And for the any all my Enneagram ones out there, it leads to like the most divine perfection because it means we've let go and we have surrendered. And so when an Enneagram one can accept that nothing in life is ever 100% perfect and find that at the exact same time there's a delight to be found in the imperfections of life. That that's when they have acceptance and transformation and serenity. But before they get there, the dark side is their anger and their resentment. And finding their way to serenity will require a level of vulnerability and a level of them saying, you know what? I don't have this all figured out. And for an enneagram one, that can be very, very scary. For an enneagram two, the virtue is humility. And for those of you that are twos, you might, you might be saying, well, I'm already there, right? Well, the dark side, the shadow side of the two is pride, which can lead to a fixation on flattery. So they give and give and give and give, denying their own needs in order to feed a lost sense of self worth. So they, you know, an enneagram too sometimes has, you know, weak boundaries. They confuse putting others first as love. And they can become seductive and a little like passive aggressive to win over others. So that's more pride and that's the vice. The dark side, the shadow side of two is they'll sometimes give to get. And a lot of times it's so subconscious. But the humility virtue, it leads to freedom. When a type 2 is spiritually growing and they own their needs without shame and allow others to gift them with love without any expectations. The ability, their ability to receive.

For a two is beautiful and it teaches them healthy humility. And this is the place of strength. And they are free to give to others in a way without.

Something that they're getting on the other side, right? And it's going to take them a level of vulnerability to get there to, to know that they actually have needs and to raise their hand and say, you know what, you know, most of my worth I have found in just freely giving to you, but I have had this underlying anger that, you know, nobody is reading my mind. And that happens a lot. And that's where the pride of the two can kind of take you down. So for my enneagram threes, the beautiful virtue is authenticity. And the dark side, the shadow side is deceit. And for my threes out there.

I know that this doesn't feel good to hear that because you're just out there crushing life and. But deceit can lead to a fixation on vanity and how you appear to the world, right? The 3 in unhealth isn't necessarily lying at all. They can be bending the truth to serve their own need to succeed and prove their worth. They can play with words very unintentionally, sometimes they can tell half truths.

They use this to get others on board with their, their deal and, and it helps stroke their vanity and it helps them achieve quite honestly. And, and the threes, like I said, it's so subconscious. They often deceive themselves and not having a clear understanding of their own Emotional landscape. And so the virtue of the three is authenticity, which leads to harmony. You know, I see so many threes that are so fixated on the goal and once they get there, they think they'll have a certain feeling and then it's empty. So they move the finish line over and over and over and over. And so they, even though they won't show you the shame, it's. It's definitely alive in them. And they, they're one of those that does the distractible thing, like just moves on to the next thing. But when a 3 leans into vulnerability and does their internal work around this and accepts that they are loved not for what they do, how they appear, who they are, they move out into the world in their. As their authentic selves. And actually because of their skill sets, they can move the needle a lot faster if they do lean into this. But it has to come from that authentic place. When they're in this beautiful gift of vulnerability, they also provide others with grounded, realistic optimism, founded on the great hope of this harmony that they have in their own life. Now, the Enneagram Fours and vulnerability. For them, they appear very vulnerable because they have an emotional capacity that is different than all of us, quite honestly. They aren't rattled by it, but they have the dark side, the shadow side that is called envy. So this can lead them to the fixation on melancholy. And most of us would probably assume the fours are very vulnerable because they're very free. About most fours, there's the self preservation four that looks very different. It's the most mistyped four, by the way. But the four has an ideal outcome for everything. And when their ideals fail to materialize, they are quick to see how everyone else's life has worked out and they think something's missing in them. The envy of others leads them down that dark path of depression, procrastination, self sabotage, low self esteem, and so often a lot of fours, whether they show it outwardly or not, because they. The fours, I can, I can tell you this, Fours, you can have 10 of them in front of you and they're all very, very different. I think it's the widest spectrum of any type, in my opinion. But they will swim in their sadness and disappointment and let envy take over. But when they lean into the vulnerability and not in the way of like, woe is me, look at me, give me attention. I'm authentic. But it's called equanimity, which is the virtue of the four, which this leads to them knowing that they will understand their emotions Are the sea constantly ebbing and flowing, all the drops of water part of a whole? So this, this is so important for the fours to understand that all these dynamic parts of them are all very important. So this leads a Four to be at peace with their emotional state, accepting the rise and the fall of the waves of feelings.

When they understand that they are unique and special just because they are and so is everyone else, they bring an awareness of the authentic, unique, divine that resides within each of us. It's why they can hold space when they're healthy. That's why they are the best listeners, the greatest storytellers, the most creative, artistic people in the world. When they lean into that vulnerability to know that the ebbs and flows of who they are is what makes them special instead of trying to seek out what's missing. I love when fours lean into this. My fives.

Avarice, which is like hoarding, is the dark side of the Five. This leads to their fixation on stinginess. Avarice is the excessive desire for gain. So a Five can have an unquenchable need to hoard their resources, meaning their personal energy, their wisdom. They gather their time, their knowledge and energy and material possessions around them, like a dragon kind of sitting on top of a mountain of treasure. And they feel inadequate and incompetent. And hoarding all this stuff makes them feel safe, certain, equipped and capable. So the cost of this attitude is stinginess. And a Five who has let this avarice take over will believe the universe is scarce. And that's why they're the most introverted on the Enneagram. So generosity with their resources is sometimes a source of danger and fear for them. And so this is the vice of the Five. They need all this knowledge, they collect knowledge, they become experts. But then they're worried that they're not going to be equipped to capable, so they start hoarding this. But the beautiful virtue of the Five is detachment. And I don't mean just like zero fucks. Detachment is knowing that they have done the work and realizes the health in disassociating their thought life from outcomes. Because there's nobody that thinks things through more than a five, sometimes the six, but the five is a little bit different. But the gift and the virtue is they detach from the need to think everything through in order to protect themselves and their resources. They're always going to be thinkers, they're always going to be information gatherers, but they can detach from the need to have a full map of how it's going to go and Lean into that healthy aid of theirs that allows them to be more decisive and share their gifts in the world. And this allows them to access the divine power of energy and good detachment. And they are able to assess situations with great wisdom and their expertise that they. I mean, I've said this before in previous podcasts. If I had to pick one type to have in my corner, it would be a healthy five because of this level of detachment in a healthy way. And so when a 5 can be vulnerable in real time and say, I want to learn how to not always think things through, this is when their gifts of detachment come and bless all of us. Now, the Sixes, their vice is fear.

They're the most anxious on the enneagram. Outwardly, the 5, 6 and 7 all kind of have fear and anxiety underneath. But the Sixes are. Sometimes they hide it. Some they can be very counteractive. Sometimes it's it's very obvious, sometimes it's the other way.

But Sixes focus much of their time and attention on the worst case scenarios, which is their gift, right? Sometimes they're afraid to be alone without support and guidance of a group or people. When a Six gives into this dark side, the shadow, and their vice, their overwhelming sense of fear about literally everything, that's when they. They can become cowardly, unwilling to step outside whatever safe comfort zone they have established. Sometimes this means they'll attack things head on recklessly. Sometimes it means they'll completely hide out. And sometimes this means they refuse to open their minds to anything new, to trust new people, or to try new things. It's part of why they're called the Skeptic Loyalist. Now, when a 6 leans into vulnerability and into their virtue, which is courage.

They are probably the most powerful on the Enneagram in a lot of ways. When a enneagram6, the skeptic loyalist, stops doubting themselves. They find an inner wellspring of courage. And instead of engaging in mental acrobats, which is a very good description of what they do about worst case scenarios and everything under the sun, really strong, healthy Six will move through their lives with purpose and great strength. And they help so many of us with their wisdom and collaboration, their strategies of life. They understand that there is a divine authority and a safe space that they can become leaders. My best friend is a Six, one of the strongest Six, and she still dances between the fear and anxiety and the courage. Like I said, these vices and virtues becomes a dance. And the only way to quit the dance, where it's so destructive is invulnerability And I love when I see a six lean into this. Now, my sevens.

My beautiful enthusiasts in the world, they have a vice called gluttony. And I don't mean like belly up with a bunch of ho hos, right? But when they are gluttonous, their passion for gluttony means that they can become obsessed with the need for more. More food, more fun, more pleasure, more adventure, more money, more life, more everything, more. Like anything is possible, and it's their gift, too. But when a 7 can't place healthy restrictions on themselves, they find they can never be in the present moment. And they miss the miracles right in front of them. And they can't enjoy what's happening right now because their mind is busy whirling, trying to figure out how the next thing will be. Even better. Now, when a 7 can lean into vulnerability and understand that they may have to experience some quiet, some hard things.

That'S when the virtue of the seven, which is called sobriety. And I don't mean from a substance, but this is where their wisdom and the bigger plan, this is where their visionary, innovative spirit, this is where, like sevens, change the world. It's only when they can lean into the vulnerability and know that when they can learn to practice sobriety, it calms down their need for more. They're able to feel the full spectrum of all their emotions, and they can inhabit each moment exactly as it comes. I like to tell Sevens, I promise, the more that you do this, the more beautiful, juicy stuff that life will give you. But you want to be able to enjoy it in the moment as it comes. And this enables them to bring wisdom, a focused calling and work and ideas about, you know, the world to all of us. It's why they're the most innovative on the Enneagram. But they have to be vulnerable and be able to kind of sit in some of the harder parts of life and not just run from it and dance between the gluttony and the sobriety of their vice versus virtue. Now, my fellow Enneagram eights.

Oh, this one, I have been dancing in this. I've been dancing between my vice and my virtue all week. Quite honestly, it's been one of the hardest weeks I've experienced in a long time. Personally lost some people dealing with my own stuff in therapy, like, all the things. But I'm so, like, raising my hand up and leaning into my vulnerability, like in real fucking time. And it is so hard. But I really want to live in my virtue and the virtue of the eight is innocence. But before an eight can be in that virtue of innocence, they have to be aware of our dark side, the shadow side, the blind spot, which is lust. And this leads to a fixation on vengeance. It's why eights look very angry on the outside. We project outward anger. The eight, the challenger's lust for intensity, for a constant challenge with this is how we prove to ourselves in the world we're strong. In fact, I caught myself.

Trying to pick a fight this week because of the lust, the need for some intensity so I could prove that I was strong enough because I was sitting in, like the most vulnerable part of my week this week. And I literally started to pick a fight and I was very aware of it at the same time. But in the past, this is how I had a very self destructive behaviors. And I actually said to myself this week, like, thank God I don't drink anymore, because that picking a fight would have really crossed the line. I would have taken it even farther. So the good news is that I knew what was happening.

And so I could find the harmonious path to my virtue. But eights are extremely confrontational with both themselves. Oh, my God, did I pull out the whipping stick of shame on myself all fucking week, Let me tell you. And others. And they feel compelled to make people pay for the ways that they have betrayed the eight, even though the eight is likely to have started the fight in the first place. And so only can an 8 can only get to the virtue of innocence. There's no bypassing any of this, y'. All. It's always through vulnerability. And innocence leads to the quality of real truth. And when an 8 falls hard enough.

We become vulnerable and open ourselves up to huge tender hearts that have been buried for so long. And I was part of a group. I was getting another certification this week, and. And you know, these were all people that were part of the enneagram. And I showed the gift of vulnerability within an 8, which a lot of people told me that they had really compartmentalized what they thought about eights as this hard power, mean kind of thing. And me leaning into the virtue through vulnerability of innocence.

That allowed people to see the tender heart. Also, when an 8 leans into the virtue of innocence, they can actually be a protector of others, not in just a look how strong I am. I used to be a protector, but it was more to prove how strong I was. It wasn't about innocence. When eights are leaning into vulnerability, that innocence, they look out for the vulnerable with all the power and all the Strength of will they have at their disposal. And this is why when eights are healthy, they are great advocates and powerful leaders in social justice and, and quite honestly the world. I, I have really come to find that this is why I am so crazy drawn to animals. You know, they're very vulnerable. And kids, little kids, especially around the age of four to eight, because I think that that's where a lot of our innocence gets lost. It's where mine was. But the only way to be in the virtue, you guys is through the vulnerability. And finally, the type nine, the peacemaker. Their vice is sloth, which is kind of like checking out, right? They don't look like a sloth, but they can kind of just check out. I kind of call it, call them Eeyore. When they're in their shadow side, they check out becoming inactive and they numb themselves. They, even though they have this rumble in them, they become indifferent to it. And they are, they become unaware of their inner life and don't care to be included in the external life of the world. And sometimes they'll say whatever will keep the peace and can often be found sleeping, sometimes unable to cope with the demands of both their own feelings and the feelings of others. And the gift of, and the virtue of the nine is action. And if you know the framework of the Enneagram, a 9 moving into a growing pattern takes on the healthy 3, the healthier parts of the 3, which, you know, the achievers. So when a 9 steps into the virtue of action, they can actually use all that beautiful Yoda wisdom that they have. Their peacemaker qualities, their inclusivity, their non judgmental beautiful spirits. And Nines and hells will be active peacemakers, like in the most healthy way. They can recognize their own firm beliefs and speak on them and stand firm in them and seek life paths that are actively inclusive, making sure others experience love, inclusion, acceptance, and they can truly understand and accept everyone's point of view. This is why like when a nine steps into their virtue.

I believe that they are the biggest world changers of them all. And I have said this before, the divine source God, I believe was probably an Enneagram 9 because the 9, when healthy, has the ability to really embody and see the point of view from all the rest of us. And, and you know, it's in this vulnerability that your life can be transformed. And it means that you have to lean into people that actually can hold space for you. And you know, nothing has transformed my life more than realizing that it was a huge freaking waste of time. To evaluate my worthiness, my strengths.

All the things that all the Enneagram types look for to find their worth.

It was a big waste of time by weighing the reaction of, you know, everybody else out in the world. And it's only when we lean into vulnerability that we can lean into our virtue, which allows us to make the impact on the world that we were always meant to. And it doesn't mean we're not going to dance between the two, because life happens. You know, this week I lost two very close friends suddenly, and there was no warning on that. And it puts a lot of shit in perspective how often I kind of slip back into the need for intensity and how destructive it can be. And I know as I went through all the types that that might have resonated for you. And I'm here to tell you I. I'm a lifelong student and I will be a lifelong teacher of this. And the part of the vulnerability that so many of you appreciate is that in real time, I'm sharing a lot of this stuff with you, and I am in real time leaning into my vulnerability. And this will make me a lifelong teacher. And. And as long as you know that until our time on earth is called, you're here to be a student and then pass, you know, turn around and help the next person behind, it's our job to light the way in this beautiful love laboratory we called life. It really is a love laboratory for sure. And if you need help doing this, I spend a lot of my days showing you what real vulnerability looks like by holding space for you. Because the fact of the matter is, as many of us have positioned ourselves in our life where it isn't maybe safe to be vulnerable or the people in our life maybe couldn't handle that. And I was in that place 10 years ago, so I needed more support and I had it through professionals and coaches. And so if you're kind of wanting to do this and you're not sure how, lean into a safe place. And that's what I can do to help you. If you want more information on leaning into your vulnerability, real vulnerability, not manufacturing, not inauthentic, and not even the innocent discounted vulnerability maybe you're putting out into the world, but you really, really, really want to lean into this so that you can make the impact in your homes and in your lives and in your businesses that you want, go to traciomalley.com go to the work with me section for information there. If you have questions, you can always fire away. In my DMs on Instagram at Tracy O' Malley.

Me leaning into my vulnerability has been the greatest gift for me. First it really, really has. I I lean into all that innocence I lost so early in my life now, and I'm not as afraid of it anymore. And I know there's parts of you that you want to lean into that you're afraid of. And I would be honored to show you the way. You got to know the way to go, the way to show the way. And I would be honored to take you on that, that journey. And until next time, y', all, here's to Becoming Bulletproof.

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