148: Helping you become the entrepreneur you’ve always dreamt of and stepping into your calling

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Welcome to the Becoming Bulletproof podcast. I am your host, Tracy o'.

Malley. I'm a mom to millennials, an author.

Enneagram expert and multi million dollar entrepreneur.

And master performance and business coach.

I've gone from rock bottom to building a bulletproof business and life. If you're looking for the unfiltered transparent truth and even an extra kick in the ass, you will discover that here. Each week I'll be bringing you success stories of high level entrepreneurs as we discover how they became bulletproof and created their empire. You'll learn the story behind the glory along with Enneagram inspired truths so you can ignite your own purpose, profits and build your legacy. It's time for you to become bulletproof.

Buckle up, let's go.

We are living in the time.

That everybody wants to be an entrepreneur or wants to work for themselves or we're having to be creative, dealing with so many blind sides of 2020 and beyond. Life as we knew it two years ago has changed drastically. And how we are operating and how we're making a living is chang. I mean, crap. How we're educating our children is changing and all sorts of things. And I was on a call today with somebody that was inquiring about private coaching with me. And she is at this transitional time in her life. She's where I was 12 years ago, quite honestly. Her identity through her career was stripped from her. There was some relationship stuff going on, the kids stuff going on. The who am I coaching question coming up. And I know there's so many of you listening right now that are in this phase of your life where you know, based on, you know, what's happening in your life and in the world, you're like, what's next? What am I supposed to be doing with my life? And if you're like me.

And have been experiencing loss and the reminder of how life short can be and how tomorrow's not guaranteed, this gets accelerated very, very fast. And I gotta. This, this call with this beautiful woman sparked something in me today about what I wanted to bring to you. And you know, she is looking to start a brand new business.

She knows she definitely will be successful. Trust me. And I don't say that to everybody. I know I can see very clearly where her life is headed. But when you're in the middle of the shit show and the storm, it's really hard for you to see that yourself. And I was there, I've been there like 12 years ago when my entire life was fall, falling apart and everything was like Crazy. And I was imploding. Like, it was very hard to see that my life would look like this 12 years later. Did I believe that in my soul somewhere at one point? Yeah. But when you are getting hit after hit, blow after blow, it's hard to see that. And that's why having a guide to light the path is important. And I told her this because, you know, in starting a new business, I'm not necessarily the person that people would think of. Even though I am a great business strategist, high level performance master coach, I am all those things. You see me as the Enneagram girl and communication specialist. And yes, I'm all those things and I'm very, very, very well versed in business. But most people would go to a business coach that they. That's all they talk about, business strategy. And quite honestly, she follows my best friend as well, who is, by the way, the best business coach and business strategist I know of. Tiffany Carter at Project Me With Tiffany, Go follow her. You can thank me later. And I commended this girl because she called me first. And here's why. This is the important message in this podcast today. Because so many of you are going to strategy, strategy, strategy first. And there's these things that are in your life that you're sweeping under the rug, you're hiding behind a filter, you're crying in your fetal position, telling nobody about.

There'S some work that you need to do, but you think more strategy will alleviate some of that. And I'm telling you right now, you've got it backwards. In fact, my friend Tiffany, who we do a lot of collaborating together, she sends me a lot of her people and me a lot of hers. A lot of times she'll get somebody that's come in for strategy and she'll say, you need Tracy first. And this girl today recognized that if I'm going to embark on my soul's calling, the passion project, so many of you guys are starting your passion project, or you're ready to do what you were called to do here on this earth because life is too damn short, right? But there's these. There's these things that you keep tripping over. And in order for her to really step into the calling, she knows there's some things she needs to handle first. And I said, you know, I applaud you for recognizing that most people will try to bypass this part. Trust me, I wrote the book on trying to bypass this part. And I'm here to tell you, it does not work. In fact, it will Send you a million steps back and you'll be covered in shame. So. And shame is the silent killer. But it had me thinking about myself in this last month, the last 30 or so days. You know, I am the person that shows you the way. I know the way, I go the way and I show the way for many, many people, for my own grown up children, my friends, for myself. And you know, it's really important that I walk my talk right and not just for the gram, and not even just for my clients. Like, I have to do this shit in real life, in my own life, in real time, in order for me to be as great as I am. And honestly, you guys, like, if you've got shit that you're struggling with, I am the person to help you. I know this with all of my being because I do the shit too.

But it had me thinking about this last 30 days. And honestly.

I don't know if there's ever been a time where I've been hit with so many things all at one time. And in the past it had me feeling so grateful for the tools that I personally use that I show thousands and thousands of you to use.

And the grace to have compassion for myself and understanding for. For the ability to be vulnerable and lean into the inner circle that I have in real time, not just once. I've figured it out. Showing true vulnerability for dropping some of the armor that I have worn for close to 50 years in order to feel the connection I've craved my entire life as I was getting these blow after blow after blow. So I'm going to give you a rundown.

Briefly on what the last 30 days have looked like for me to. If you are a listener, you may or may not have listened to an episode I did a little while back, right after my birthday. And that was kind of the beginning of. This is, you know, I'm doing a lot of grieving.

And this is important. When we, when we do so much mindset, personal development work, we cognitively understand so much and we almost bypass a grieving process. And I, you know, innocently have done that along the way. I perfectly understand why certain things have gone the way they have. You know, some things I was an innocent bystander in, some things were my own decisions. And all of it makes perfect sense, you know, based on the work I've done, that it has happened that way and why maybe I didn't receive the things that I needed growing up. And like, it makes total sense, but when we make total sense of it, we block the heart from healing and we block the heart from grieving. And so, you know, I've been working extra, extra hard on this in my own personal life with some things and with my own therapist. I'm doing EMDR consistently and really peeling back the curtain and lifting the hood to look at like the deeper, deeper parts of this and, and really grieving some of the things that I haven't so that I can move forward in certain areas of my life. So that's how this month started. Lots of that, Lots of that. And meanwhile I'm working, right? Also around my birthday, there was a lot of stuff around my birthday and you know, for about three weeks I wasn't present on social media. I would reshare some things, but you hadn't seen me on sharing about the podcast or even some cool enneagram stuff or I wasn't teaching and you know, giving myself the grace that like, I know my energy doesn't lie and neither does yours. And even though I'm working, I'm not. I'm still showing up and doing the work every day. But showing up on video for you just, it. It wasn't going to happen. Meanwhile.

Every day I was making more and more money. And I don't say that to brag, and there's a point to this. I could not believe it. I was talking to my best friend and saying, I can't even believe what's happening because when we don't show up online and I've been building my personal brand for 10 years. So I just need to clarify that I have kind of earned the right to not show up, at least on video. I'm still working, I'm still doing everything. I'm showing up for my life and I've earned that right because of the consistency over the last 10 years and over delivering and over delivering. But a part of me still is, you know, because I give a shit. I give a lot of shits. I care deeply, you know, about all of you and the work that I do. I, I take it with huge responsibility. I take it very seriously. This should I do. This is not just some joby. This is what I am called to do. This is why I went through everything I went through so I could deliver this stuff to you. But I had to honor my own process too, and honor my own health and also knowing that my energy doesn't lie. And you would feel that and it would feel inauthentic. But meanwhile, in those three weeks, I made more money than I have. It was, it was a 2x month of my typical months, I had doubled the income during that time. Also during the last 30 days, my children, both my children, they're 23 and 24 on the same day separately were both in car accidents. I got that call twice in one day, five hours apart in separate situations. And any of my fellow parents out there, that is like worst, worst nightmare is getting that call right. Thankfully everybody was okay. You know, one car was totaled, one needed repairs, there were, you know, other moving parts to that and medical things that needed to be taken care of. And you know, also meanwhile educating my grown children how to deal with insurance companies. I wasn't doing it for them, I was educating them at the same time and their emotions. And then a week after that, I had a run of three deaths to three people close in my, in my life and my kids lives in a matter of 72 hours and have attended three funerals in four days. And boy, will that really do a number on you. And you know, one of these was one of my son's friends and a lot of these kids in this community I support emotionally and they've all been in my home and holding that kind of space for that many people grieving at once. The other was a very close friend of mine and the community, our network marketing community, that have been greatly impacted by this amazing person and holding space for those people, meanwhile.

Navigating my own feelings about all of that. Meanwhile.

Working with the fullest client load I've ever had.

Still not completely showing up online. But the reason why I had a doubled kind of income month isn't the extra work I was doing, but it is doing my inner work alongside of this. Even when I'm not present online, my energy doesn't lie. This is the beautiful thing also about an enneagram 8. We have the loudest, most intense energy. And when we're not well, this, this will have a compound effect in not the greatest way. But even through all this blow after blow and trauma and a lot of emotions running high, my own others, my kids, people I care about all this time, I'm doing my work at the same time and honoring my own process. And so I wanted to share this message with you because, you know, I know you've got money to make and families to take care of and mouths to feed and a calling that you're passionate about. And I get it. You know, I'm. I've been a single mom for 14 years, the sole provider emotionally, physically, spiritually and financially. And I get it. And I also am Called to do great work in the world. But if we bypass and sweep our own work under the rug that we need to do on our emotional health and all of that, it's going to fall apart. And I'm so grateful that I wake up every day willing, willing and able and committed to doing my work because my own personal work, because anything I put in front of my own emotional health and my own emotional intelligence and my own emotional sobriety, quite honestly. And you know, emotional sobriety is knowing that we don't need anything outside of us to be our very best. You know, I believe in a higher power, the divine God, something bigger than us. I think that that is really required, quite honestly, but also nothing else outside of that. No people, places or things here on earth am I reliant on for my emotional wellness and emotional sobr. And when we have strong emotional intelligence and strong emotional sobriety, we are able to do for our families, for our children, for our lovers, for our friends, for the people that we work with, for the people that we guide, for the calling that's on your life, even through crisis and even through loss and trauma, we can still show up in that energy even while we're hurting, but we can't bypass it.

And I felt called because I see a lot of you online showing up. And I know you're in pain and I know that I'm seeing not with judgment, not with judgmental heart or judgmental eyes, but I know what you're doing. And I felt called to tell you today that this is the day that you can stop, that you have a choice. Will it require you to slow down? Not necessarily. Will it require you to dig a little deeper? I've had to dig deeper than I've ever had the last 30 days. I really, really have. And it's worth it. And I'm exhausted. And I'm honoring that too, and not judging myself. You know, I'm a action taker, go getter. And I've had to really say no to some things that wouldn't honor my own process. I've said yes to some things that honor the process. You know, by the time this is airing, I'm coming back from Cancun. You know, that's part of my honoring process. Playtime for me is something that I have to do. I have to. I did some playing this last weekend on the water, you know, just. But, but I wouldn't have the awareness that that's required to honor me, my healing, my work, all of you, if I just bypass that. And so if that's you and you have this amazing calling on your life and you know you're here to make an impact, but you got your shit that you're keep secret. We stay as sick as our secrets and I'm telling you right now, we'll sabotage more. The more secrets we have, the more we're going to sabotage. And this is the work I do with people all day long. We talk business too. Don't you worry. I have a great strategy brain. And you know, when you do that kind of in tandem with the work that I've been doing all month long on myself and with lots of clients, that's when you'll see the needle not only move and multiply, but you will feel energized, you'll feel invigorated. You will wake up saying, yes, this is what it's all about.

You can go to my website, Tracey O' Malley.com. go to the work with me section in the private coaching. My enneagram work is currently on wait list. That's how amazing it's been. Now in my private coaching we talk all things enneagram too. It's just like on steroids as well as my own methodology to not just understand yourself, but how to. How to heal it, move forward and really move the needle in all areas of your life. That's where the private coaching comes in. And you know, the enneagram work, the typing sessions currently are on wait list. So that's. That's an indicator of the work that's going on around here. I have.

Two spots, quite honestly, for private coaching. I am booked beyond capacity, but I am opening for two more spots because I'm seeing the need and I felt intuitively called to do that because I can feel you, your energy is not lying to me. Even though I see what you're doing, again, without judgment. Today is the day that can stop. If you have questions about what that might look like, you can hit me up on the DMS on Instagram @ tracyomalley. But if you know, like you've had enough, you're ready to skip the bullshit. You're ready to stop playing the dance of back and forth and back and forth and forth and sabotage and procrastination and just flying out of your ass all the time, just flying by the seat of your pants. Now, I'm not saying like instincts and, and some spontaneity is all bad, but you and I both know what that means for you. And if you're tired of that and you're tired of Letting yourself down or beating yourself up or you feel like you're disappointing people, you or the calling. Reach out. Go to tracyomalley.com the work with me section. It's time. I can take two of you. Don't wait, because these are filling up fast. Every day I get a new application, and I don't take everybody. I don't take everybody because not everybody's ready and really committed to the journey. But I know you are. I know you are. You can't bypass this stuff, y', all, because quite honestly, I've tried it. It. I wrote the book on trying it. I almost took my whole life down. Trying.

Will keep catching up to you. And when you have more at risk and you have more to lose, trust me, you don't have any more to lose. Just do it. Just do. Will be very healing for you. It's also really great knowing you always have somebody in your corner without judgment, without their own personal agend has your back. That's been where you've been and also has already gone where you want to go. And I know that I'm the person for you. I would love to hear what you feel about the inner work. You know, it's such a taboo thing. I'm so grateful that it's being talked about more in the business space, because this is. This is the important part to your business and your passion projects and your calling that you are here to do on this earth.

And it's why so many of you have imposter syndrome, because you know that this is what you need to do. It doesn't mean your life gets blown up. I'm really good at keeping you really on track and actually moving the needle all while we're doing this. Because here's the thing, you guys. If April told me anything, life's gonna happen whether we're ready for it or not. And you can't see some of this shit coming. I could have never prepared for what April would look like. But thankful I have the tools in place and the willingness and the emotional intelligence to navigate it all without missing a beat and honoring myself and the process and every client that came my way and my children and all the people.

That takes a lot of.

A lot of commitment to doing this work. And I know that you're ready for it, too. So reach out. I would love to hear where you're at. I'm a safe place. I can hold the space. And I look forward to hearing from you soon. Until next time. Here's to becoming.

Bulletproof.

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