154: Lead Yourself, Lead Others & Be Bulletproof

Welcome to the Leadership Formula Podcast, where you will learn the secret sauce behind achieving massive success. I'm your host, Tracy o', Malley, multimillion dollar entrepreneur, your Enneagram expert, master performance coach, and mom to millennials. Do you want deep, meaningful relationships to wake up every day with purpose and make money doing something you love? Well, you've landed in the right place. Every week, I will teach you how to get exactly what you want in life by strengthening your emotional intelligence. Using a combination of the Enneagram framework, live life coaching sessions, and real talk from yours truly, it's time to transform yourself into the ultimate leader of your life.

Let's do this thing.

Hello and welcome to the Leadership Formula Podcast. Yes, you heard that right. The new intro, the new branding, the new name, and for those of you that have been around a while, becoming bulletproof has a very sweet spot in my heart. And, you know, it was back In October of 2013, the first time I kind of publicly spoke, and I was really a rookie. I wasn't prepped or even told I was going to be asked to speak, but I stood up and it was the first time that I uttered the words 10ft tall and bulletproof came out of my mouth. And for the last, gosh, eight years or so, I've been known as the bulletproof girl. And most of my life, I believed that becoming bulletproof was the goal. But what I thought bulletproof was meant more body armor, more walls. And quite honestly, what becoming bulletproof is, is the opposite. But that being said, you can't become bulletproof in the greatest form that it is without the ability to lead yourself, whether that's in business, in your relationships, in your health, in your money mindset, all the things. And so the common denominator with everything that I do in becoming bulletproof, meaning you're able to stand on the front line of your life, willing and able to take any and all hits that come your way without it taking you. That's what becoming bulletproof is. And without leadership and the ability to lead yourself, becoming bulletproof is impossible. So I thought that this really needed to change for a lot of reasons. I think that the ability to lead yourself will impact the way that you are able to lead others and have success and money and more, ability to do more with your money and incredible relationships. It all is the compound effect of the way that you lead and lead yourself. So the original thoughts I had for this podcast. Can you believe it's been a year and a half? Unreal. To me, it was about two years ago that I was really getting serious about doing this. And I had the feeling that I wanted to do more live coaching on the air. It's what you all said you wanted from me, and yet I still resisted it. I was nervous. And what this podcast will be moving forward will obviously be all about the Enneagram, because y' all love it. Because the Enneagram has been the greatest tool I have used, utilized, integrated in really learning how to navigate, leading myself, and then obviously leading thousands and thousands and thousands of other people, as well as the two amazing, beautiful millennials that live in my home. I've been leading them as well. So you're going to learn success tips, success mindset, entrepreneurship I have been a business owner, probably about four or five different businesses in the last 20 years. Some brick and mortar, some traditional businesses. I've done network marketing, still have that business. I'm a consultant. I have all sorts of business. So we're going to talk about entrepreneurship on this podcast and what it takes to have a success mindset. And here's the thing, and I've said this before, mindset is only part of it because we can tactically understand the things we need to do. We can understand the actions to take. We can even model some people and we might have some success for a little while. But unless we get to the root of what drives us or what holds us back, which is, you know, probably the biggest thing that you're here for, unless we get to the root of that, anything that we kind of do won't be sustainable, won't last very long. We'll end up in our spiral of habits and patterns and behaviors that drive us freaking crazy. And so that's what's going to be coming to you as well. That being said, going back to what you all said you wanted from the very beginning two years ago and what my heart was telling me to do, I will be doing live coaching on the air. We're going to have live typing sessions, more to come on how you can be somebody that I bring on the air and properly type you in the Enneagram so you have the right information. I will also be bringing you client spotlights. It's one thing to have the information of the Enneagram. Information doesn't equal transformation. And I love bringing back people that have done the work with me in not just the typing, but how they have integrated it in their business, their success mindset, their money mindset, their relationships, their marriages, their parenting, all of it. Because the gift of leading yourself does this. You Find harmony and a flow in all areas of your life. So what can you expect from the leadership formula moving forward? Like I said, typing sessions, client spotlights, Enneagram info and integration tools. Success, mindset, emotional, physical, financial, spiritual. The ins and outs and behind the scenes of the shit nobody talks about about entrepreneurship. Now, don't get me wrong, you're still gonna get all the tricks and tools that I am constantly bringing you. Especially cause most of you are here to hear more about the Enneagram. And this all ties together. The Enneagram is the greatest leadership tool for yourself, which will allow you to properly and effectively and efficiently and compassionately lead other people. You know, what is leadership though for some of you, depending on your Enneagram type, your definition of this might change. You want to know what the secret formula is? It isn't really a secret formula. It's the ability to move and influence others quite honestly for a beautiful end goal is my definition of it. You know, I could lead people to do what I wanted them to do back in the day when I wasn't my very best. I could get shit done. Don't get me wrong, that's not effective, compassionate, efficient leadership. That's dictatorship, right? Leadership is bringing out the best in everyone you touch, including yourself, in order to make an impact in this world. I believe we all have a calling on our life. I really, really do. And how the Enneagram weaves into this is that calling and temperament and disposition are kind of unmovable, right? It's kind of locked in, just like your sun sign on in astrology, right? Depending on when you were born, you're, you know, Capricorn, Aquarius, Pisces, Aries, you know, and so on and so on. And that doesn't change how that can get expressed, does, as does your Enneagram type. And depending on the environment, you are put into some great things, some not so great things, some dysfunctional things, some extraordinary things. All of that will impact how you express your personality. Then early on in our life, usually before the age of 10, we learn coping mechanisms in order to find significance, certainty or safety. And all three of those matter deeply to us. Significant certainty and safety, one of them usually dominates. And how that gets coped with early on in our life will also alter how our personality gets expressed. So the goal in Leadership for Yourself first is to be able to unpack and really get to the root of of what motivates everything you do. On this podcast. Moving forward, I will be adding more tools to your toolbox to help you get there faster. I know. If you're like me, I have been chipping away at personal development. Maybe before some of you were freaking born, 22 years I have been at this, and for 12 years, I floundered. I was too prideful. There wasn't a lot out there. I'm a first generation personal developer. The lineage that came before me because I'm almost 50 years old, y', all, the generation before me didn't talk about this. It was like, what happens here stays in our house and keep your mouth shut and do as I say, not as I do. That was the personal development I grew up with. And so, as a first generation personal developer, I've had to flounder and figure out a lot of this the hard way. And so my 22 years of figuring this out, and especially the last 10, when I kind of put my pride aside, I will be bringing all of my goodness to you so I can help get you there faster. And the benefit of me being 50 years old almost is that I have a level of experience that you can't certify, you can't buy. It's only in time and experience that you can get that. And I will be bringing all that juicy goodness to you, right? I'll be bringing you more of how to integrate the Enneagram to grow your business and how you can lead the way in a way that feels so authentic. And it isn't like, you know, Polly the influencer, you follow my girl Tiffany, you know, that's what we call her. You'll have the success mindset to create harmony in all areas of your life. Because if you are like so many that I know and coach, you feel like you're wearing a hundred different hats. And although, yes, there are different areas of your life that call for different things, when you can find a harmony in who you are through all areas of your life, you don't feel as energetically bankrupt, right? So my goal here moving forward is not just, you know, giving you the tips and tools, but I'm gonna take you from bulletproof and beyond. I want you to be able to lead the charge as your most authentic self and unfiltered self. Right? This is where all the juicy parts of life happen. You know, success has something to do with maybe what's in your bank account. You know, success is different to everyone. And one of the questions I'm asked when I'm interviewed on podcasts is, what is the most successful thing I've ever? Or what does success mean to me? And if you had asked me 20 years ago, it'd sound very different than what I'm about to tell you. Success to me today means the ability to be completely and fully present in the very moment I am in. Appreciating it, finding the opportunities of growth in it, the joy, the simple things, the things that if I was called off this earth tomorrow, that I left nothing out. And the people that I care about the most knew what was in my heart and it translated into theirs. That, to me, is success. And I'm happy to report, especially the last 10 years, I have nailed that completely. The people that are close to me know exactly how I feel. Not just in my words, but in my actions. And I have learned how to find harmony in navigating that. My relationships, three businesses, two children, a household that I run by myself, three dogs, all the things. And most days, I find myself in complete harmony in all of it. Even when shit hits the fan, y'. All. So.

I know you're listening right now. You're like, okay, all right, I'm ready. I'm here for it. I'm here for it. So we got two options for you. I have reopened my wait list. My wait list. I finally had to put the lock on it for a little while because so many of you are raising your hands and saying, I want to be able to lead myself better so that I can know the way, go the way, and show the way for others. So I have reopened my typing sessions. You can go to Tracey O' Malley.com the work with me section for that. Very exciting news though. You've been watching me on Instagram and this week there has been some exciting stuff going down. A lot of you have been coming and asking for a program that brings the best of mindset and helping you unlock the blocks that are holding you back in abundance. And the money mindset. I cannot tell you how many people struggle with money mindset and self sabotage and procrastination and having a new level of self awareness about what really you are holding back. How, why, how and why you're holding back. And those thoughts, habits, and the pile of people, places and things that really are influencing everything that you do. So I'm bringing that to you. But I got a little special something for you. I am partnering up with my best friend and the greatest business strategist I know, Tiffany Carter. You can find her at ProjectMe with Tiffany on Instagram, she's the greatest strategist and her and I, we consult each other quite a bit in our work. I consult a Lot of times with her people, she mine because she is the best strategist I know. And I am a great strategist. I am. And she's a great person at understanding the blocks. But her sweet spot is strategy. Mine is the mindset behind it. So we are coming together because 95% of you bypass one or both of these essential things, which is why you end up making shit money, why you feel like it's so damn hard all the time, and why you probably quit or even worse, never start in the first place or you bounce from thing to thing. So, you know, we are known through our circle. At this point, most of you either found me through her or you found her through me. Because we are known in the coaching world as the TNT sandwich. Like dynamite, baby, highly ambitious women, men pay tens of thousands of dollars to get tag teamed coached by the two of us. I have made it my purpose and my passion and my calling to help you identify and heal the parts of yourself that are holding you back personally and professionally. Whenever I've been asked to speak on how I've had the success I have, I could give you all the strategy that I know because I'm a badass strategist too. But I know the truth behind my success that you all see today. And it's the stuff that I will help you uncover in a safe place that won't feel so damn messy. I'm not going to promise it will be without pain, but it's what's required for you to take the strategy that Tiffany's expertise and gifts in helping you customize that for yourself so that you can really find the business or launch the business or crush the business that you have been dreaming about at night. She has generated over a hundred million dollars in sales transactions with those techniques. So I'm telling you right now, this partnership is like no other out there. It's perfect for you if you're sick of like all the things, right? We are combining a hybrid of both live group coaching and we are only taking 25 people. That's it. We're combining live group coaching and private coaching with both of us, both of us at the same time within six weeks. Can you imagine that? So that being said, with there only being 25 people that can do this, we have created a wait list. It is opening up this week. It just opened up the other day. You can go to projectmewithtiffani.com getdown, waitlist. Yes. We are getting down to business, y'. All. That's what this thing is all about get down to business with Tiffany Carter and Tracy o'. Malley. So to get on that wait list, you go to projectmewithtiffani.com getdownwaitlist to guarantee your spot. If you already know you're in and you want a piece of this, the only way to guarantee your spot. We're doing deposits because this is going to go fast. And we will open up the wait list for an Early Bird special. The only way you can get the Early Bird pricing is to be on that wait list. And then we will kick this off in July. More information will be coming to you soon. But for those of you that know that this is what you need and you know that I am the one to help you get through the blocks and she is the one to help you with that strategy, trust me, you want this. Let me tell you, go to that website right now. Get up on the wait list. Your deposit is refundable. If things should change and it doesn't work out for you, but if you know this is something you want to do, go do that now. We are going to be bringing all our greatest things. And if you have experienced either one of us or both of us, you know, we're kind of over givers. It's kind of part of our character defects. But we continue to do it because, you know, a few short years ago, both of us probably wouldn't have been here without a lot of the work that we will be bringing your way. We've been where you are. We understand all the shit that floats around in that head of yours, keeping you up at night and causing fights with the people that you care about the most. And I am so pumped to be doing this. I have been scared. She has been asking me to do this for a long, long time. And she's an enneagram6. If you've been following along, she's the loyal skeptic. So for her to collaborate with somebody, she has to vet them very deeply. She doesn't just trust anybody, but when she does, my God. And that comes with a huge responsibility. And the enneagram 8 in me likes to kind of operate as a lone wolf because I don't want my vulnerabilities exposed, you know, so I'm just like you. I'm constantly learning how to lead myself. And as we move forward in this journey together with the leadership formula, know that I know it's time. It's time to transform yourself into the ultimate leader of your life. And I would be more than honored to help you find your way. I'm so grateful that you guys have been following along the last year and a half. It would mean the world to me if you love what we are doing here to share Share this episode Screenshot this right now. Tell me how excited you are or tell me that I'm full of shit. I don't care. Just tell me I'm a straight shooter. I can take it. It would mean the world to me. If you have found any kind of value over the last year and a half that you share this podcast with the world. It is gaining a lot of speed. I don't really follow the numbers. I'm not an enneagram3 so I don't really want to look at that. But I did peek at it and the numbers are gaining and there's a big reason why. And it's because of your loyalty and dedication and telling me all the things that you're learning from this and sharing it with other people. It means the world to me because that is part of leadership. First leading yourself and then knowing the way, going the way and showing the way for others. And you're doing that through this podcast and I want you to know how grateful I am for you. Look forward to seeing you more soon. Until next time.

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