EP263: {BTE - Big Tracy Energy} Know When to Hold 'em - Know When to Fold 'em - Making Room for the Abundance You Desire is Messy

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You got to know when to hold them, know when to fold them. How many of you guys love Kenny Rogers? I know I just outdated myself. There are some of you younger millennials and Gen Xers are like, who the hell is Kenny Rogers? He's a legend. Just so you know. Don't Google him because he's had too many facelifts and it's a little awkward, but his music is freaking awesome. And I grew up listening to Kenny Rogers, and that was one of my favorite songs. It's called the Gambler. And I figured today I'm sitting here in a towel, my head in a towel as well, because this is going to be a real quick message for you because, you know, in this game of business, entrepreneurship, and living out your big dreams that you have, there are times where you're gonna have to gamble and you're gonna have to take risks, and it's gonna be uncomfortable. And I think for so many of you listening right now, you have inundated yourself with consuming information and taking courses and hiring coaches and strategists, and all of that's great. Not knocking any kind of growing, but are you growing? Are you growing the way that you wanted to? And for many of you, this has been probably the hardest. This is the hardest part of it. And there aren't many coaches that will actually help you through this because it's fucking sucks. And a lot of the coaches out there aren't doing it themselves. Right? They'll bypass it.

This is the hard part, you guys. You've got voices in your head and a belief system in your gut that is telling you, who am I to do this? Right? Maybe it was something that was taught for you and in front of you. Maybe it was modeled. Maybe, you know, it was pounded into you. Maybe you have people in your life that are telling you that that's not possible. And I get it. I grew up with a lot of that too. It's people are operating in their own fears. And I understand that you might even know that, right? You might even know that this isn't about me, it's about them. I know that this isn't true. On a cognitive neck up, you know this all up in your head and all these events you're going to, and all the podcasts you're listening to, and all the books that you're pouring into and all the personal development that you're listening to and consuming is telling you that you know that to be true. And if you know that to be true, why aren't you making a change in it? Because the integration of this information is really fucking hard. This is the hardest part and it's why most of you still just continue to consume. Because you believe somewhere there's something you're missing and there's nothing.

Having somebody take you through that journey is game changing. I will tell you that this is not me, you know, saying I'm gonna sell you my shit. Even though, do I want you to work with me? Yes. If you really are tired of consuming and not integrating, then yes, I'm your girl for sure. And I will go to toe to toe with anyone. Not just enneagram people, but I will go toe to toe with anyone to help you integrate this. Because it's hard. And a lot of people out there that want to, you know, help you live your best life aren't doing the shit themselves. Trust me, they come to me too. Okay, so there's this part in the journey where you have to make room for all the abundance that you are trying to call in the stuff that you're manifesting. I love abundance. I love manifesting. I get it. And those words really fucking piss me off. I'm just gonna be really honest. I see it thrown around. I'm just gonna manifest this or I'm gonna, you know, go on this abundance thing and all. That's great. It really, really is. You gotta, you know, believe it. But if you aren't taking the action to actually make any of that happen. They're just words, right? They really, really are. I really want you to have the abundance. I really, really, really want you to fucking manifest everything that you deserve and desire. I do. And none.

Some very clear, compassionate, consistent action. And it gets messy in that. It gets really messy in the action because you're poking the bear, you're disrupting your family, sometimes you're disrupting an old identity that is trying to stay stuck you're disrupting what you've always known. You're disrupting your comfort zone. You're disrupting other people's comfort zones. And in that disruption, the voices in your head say, no, no, no. Who the hell do you think you are? Or the people in your life are saying, no, no, no, no, no. Who the fuck do you think you are? So you got to know when to hold them, and you got to know when to fold them, and you got to know when to walk away, and you got to know when to run. The next part of that song is, you better count your money when you sitting at the table, right? And this isn't all about money, but this is about abundance. And I'm talking about freedom, time, choices, relationships, support. That's the kind of abundance I am calling into your life. But it cannot happen without action. Now, what does that action look like? Like I said, I promised you, I'm going to keep this really short and sweet. This is a big T energy, bte. Big Tracy energy right now. Bte, this is my beautiful, compassionate, loving you. Tough. Because in order for that abundance to come in, you have to make room for it. You're going to have to let some things go. You're going to have to let some people go. You're going to have to let some identities go. You're going to have to let some places go. Yes, you do. And you have to take that walk without knowing what the next few steps look like. But having somebody take you through that is really, really important. I have had to do this a couple times in my life. And every next level of your life that you desire will require more of you. To who? Much is given, much is required. And that means letting go of people, places, and things that no longer serve your calling and you becoming that ultimate leader in your life, personally and professionally. It is not easy, and it is grueling and it is painful, and it is messy. And I have walked this journey a couple times on my own. And this is the beauty of me. And the wisdom that comes in 50 years is I've done it enough times in my life that every single time, there's evidence that on the other side of it, the abundance that I desired and then some is there in the form of money, security, relationships, health, love, support. But you have to take that walk without a contingency plan. And I'm telling you, taking that walk solo is rough and it is hard and it is scary, and it is possible. However, the beauty of having somebody like me in your life is that I can light the path for you and I can take your hand and walk you through the journey. Does it mean I can make it necessarily easier for you? No. I can help you bypass a lot of the roadblocks and the landmines that will come your way and have it not have you leaving as much wreckage behind. Yes, I can absolutely do that. I can absolutely do that. There is something beautiful in knowing that somebody has walked this journey before you. And I, honestly, I have gone through everything that life can throw at you other than losing a child. I have experienced pretty much anything you can think of. Yes. Anything you can think of. But I know there's many of you that are wanting more. You're in my DMs all the time. You're telling me I want this. And the Enneagram absolutely is a great tool in helping you. Kind of course. Correct. And obviously, like, that's my favorite tool next to like, just gritty faith and leaning in and the Enneagram. But there's way more to just knowing the Enneagram. You got to integrate all the tools in your life for them to actually work. Otherwise, they're just rusty, sitting on a shelf, including the Enneagram. So I know that there are many of you that are really maybe pulling out the shame stick on yourself, because you're not where you said you wanted to be. You've got these big dreams. You've declared it to maybe your spouse or partner or the world. Maybe you've hired people and you're not sure how you're going to pay them. Maybe you've even got a podcast and nobody's showing up. And you're like, jesus, who the hell am I? I've got your back. You're going to have to let go of some things. And I know that that's not easy. You might even have to let go of some of the security that you have in resources. The big changes I've made in my life did not come without money. When I checked myself into rehab, I walked away from my income and I had very little in savings. And a big chunk of that savings went to put me through rehab. To have the guidance, right. To have a certain level of guidance, right. To have a guide take you through the journey. Sometimes you have to walk away from the security of that. But the ROI on every dime I ever spent on any kind of help, the right help. This is the other thing you have to discern the right help. Okay? I'm not going to manipulate you with some marketing. I am not going to Blow smoke up your ass. I'm not going to say this is freaking easy. I'm not going to say even three months with me is going to solve all your fucking problems. I will never say that to you. What I will say to you is this. You get in the trenches with me. You have a partner. You have somebody that will take you through the real shit, the real shit. So that you can actually step into that ultimate leader that you are. I see it in you. So that you can do the thing that's been calling you. So that you can make the impact that you have desired in your homes and in your world. Get in the trenches with me. I have only one more spot left. My summertime VIP, private, one on one clients. I have filled it. Other than one spot. And if this is calling to you right here, right now, I want you to go fill out an application, go to Tracey O' Malley.com, the work with me section, and you can fill out an application. We will hop on a call. Doesn't mean that even if you have the resources, it's going to be the right fit. This is not an easy journey. I don't promise that it's going to be a piece of cake. But I do promise you will move the needle in ways that you cannot even imagine. We'll get on a quick call, we'll talk it out, we'll see if it's a right fit, and if not, it's okay. I'm not going anywhere. Maybe it's just not the right time, right? You know, I believe that when the student is ready, the teacher appears. And if this is calling on your heart right now, maybe you are that student and I am that teacher, at least for today. You will probably have many teachers along the way in this journey called life. I have had several that have left an imprint on my heart, and every single one has helped me stand in the gap the way that I do today for my children, for the people that I love, and for the people that I lead you guys. I don't want you playing small in your life anymore. I want to help you let go of the people, places and things that you need to to make room for the wave of abundance that is coming your way. But letting go is a lot more than just saying it in a phrase like let go, let God, like all that sounds great in theory. The actual reality of taking those brave, courageous steps is a whole different ball game. And a ball game that I have played. I've played in the World Series of that ball game. And I would be honored to help you on that journey. I am thinking so much about you. I hopped out of the shower and it was on my heart. So I'm sitting here in a towel. Don't mind me. I'm gonna go blow dry my hair and listen to some more Kenny Rogers because you gotta know when to hold them and know when to fold them. You guys, until next time, I'm sending you so much love and light to becoming the ultimate leader in your life. I love you guys.

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