EP265: [BTE- Big Tracy Energy] You Say You Want to Make an IMPACT in This World - THIS is What is Required of You

Welcome to the Leadership Formula podcast, where you will learn the secret sauce behind achieving massive success. I'm your host, Tracy o', Malley, multimillion dollar entrepreneur, your Enneagram expert, master performance coach, and mom to millennials. Do you want deep, meaningful relationships to wake up every day with purpose and make money doing something you love? Well, you've landed in the right place. Every week, I will teach you how to get exactly what you want in life by strengthening your emotional intelligence. Using a combination of the Enneagram framework, live life coaching sessions, and real talk from yours truly, it's time to transform yourself into the ultimate leader of your life. Let's do this thing.

Hey. Hey. Welcome back to another episode of the Leadership Formula podcast. This is going to be one of those BTE episodes. The Big Tracy Energy. I am fired up. I am so fired up because I've been doing some really great work with many leaders out in the world, some working for big businesses, some are entrepreneurs, some are running smaller teams. And you know, one of the things that I hear most often when I ask, you know, you Even in my DMs on Instagram, I hear this all the time. You want to make an impact. You want to make a difference. You want to help people.

And. Or for some of you, you want to speak on big stages, you want to write a book. And I usually follow that up with a why you want to do that? Why do you want to do that? And for many of you, comparison might come into play. You think that once you speak on a stage or write a book, it's a holy grail. Maybe for some of you, may not be for some of you, but impact looks different for everyone. And I was having a beautiful conversation with my son last night about impact. And, you know, in the course of the 22 years I have been headfirst into personal development and Obviously the last 10 + as an entrepreneur in this space, I've been an entrepreneur most of my life, but an entrepreneur in this kind of consulting and coaching space, impact is not a one size fits all. And maybe you're one of those people that believe that the way to make the most impact is on big stages. And that's just not true. It's not true. I can do that, and I have done that. However, I know, at least in my zone of genius, and the thing that I'm best at is the greatest impact I make is with a few people at a short period of time. And then the ripple effect of that out in the world is massive, massive impact. Way more than If I stood on a stage for 45 minutes and spit out all my intellectual, emotional intelligence, my story, and for some people, like, that might be the kind of impact you want to make. But I really want you to know whatever impact you make and that you want to make is going to require something of you. And this is what this quick, short episode is about today. I really want you to evaluate when you put the things in the questionnaires, when you go to work with a coach like me, you know, and if you are drawn to the work that I talk about and the work that I do, I want you to go to my website, traceyomalley.com and go to the work with me section and fill out that application. There's a reason why you're being drawn to this. But one of the questions I ask is like, you know, what is it you see for yourself and doing in this world? And for a lot of you, it's making that impact. And I will ask you to dig a little bit deeper on what that looks like and why and what you think that means. Okay. In diving in with my son last night, we were talking, you know, he got a promotion.

His ego really liked it. He is great at it, no question. There is not a better person for that role currently. And he didn't like it. Not because it was challenging, not because it was vulnerable. It is all those things. But the reason he didn't love it is because he didn't feel, and this is true for him, that he could make as much of an impact like he was before doing. Maybe less responsibility, but being more in the trenches with certain people. And when society Instagram your boss, other people are saying this is the holy grail for success and impact. But there's this rumble in you. I really want you to listen and honor it. Sure, you're going to have to have that come to Jesus moment with yourself. Is this me playing small because I'm afraid, or is this truly what is in alignment for me? And so with my son last night, him and I are wired similarly. This is also where that understanding the subtypes of the Enneagram can be very helpful for you. You know, the goal is to be able to toggle between all three of the instinctual variances that we have, which is like the self preservation, the one on one, and the social right. The self preservation is fight or flight, which is important obviously for safety and security. The one on one is intensity of experiences with people in group, intimate communities. And then the social is like how we fit in in the collective, the environment, the world. Right? And for each of you, one of those dominates. Now, the goal is to be able to move freely through the three of them, which I do today. I absolutely can stand on a stage in front of 20,000 people and deliver and deliver well. It's not where I'm best. I'm really great at it, but it's not where I feel I can make the most impact because I am that one on one type. I am all about the intensity of experience. It's why I love more intimate group coaching with teams, organizations, CEOs, their executive teams, families. One on one coaching. It's where my best work happens. And it is not any less impact than when I stand on a stage. In fact, I think the ripple effect goes way deeper. Legacy kind of impact. And so you have to ask yourself, like, okay, what is true for me? And don't minimize that. I was telling my son Joey last night, I'm like, even though you might not see it in your own eyes, the impact that you're making and in fact, the impact that you make may go on after you are done here on Earth does not mean it's any less successful than standing on a stage or writing a book or even having a podcast. So this is where being really honest with yourself on what lights you up and where you know your biggest impact comes. And you're going to have to kind of check your ego a little bit. Ego is something that's really good. It does keep us safe and protected, but it also can keep us stuck when not used properly. So you're going to have to find what is authentically true for you and not the polished up version. This is why working with me, you cannot hide. Even if it's just to do an Enneagram kickstart session. It's very eye opening. You'll feel more seen, heard, understood and valued in a way that you've never been. But it is also very vulnerable because you cannot hide. Your fluffy answers to these questions don't work on me. And if you've been using those answers and you haven't moved the needle in your life, there is a reason why people aren't challenging that. You have surrounded yourself with people, coaches, mentors, programs, podcasts that are keeping you thinking small and playing small and not stepping into that authentic version of you. It's why I love the Enneagram so much, because I know my zone of genius. I know where I'm great, I know where I'm not as great. But I have been able to really harness and leverage where maybe I haven't been so great and improve those skills, but also know where my sweet spot is. I stay in that kind of lane. And the compound effect of that, not just in impact, but in income. The income that I started making when I leaned into where I make the most impact at my highest level. Yeah, I'm not on the big stages as much I am now because that ripple effect of the impact that I'm making in these smaller groups, it's now become like I'm this secret weapon. Like I don't really shout out that I'm going to be this like huge speaker. But it's happening because of me staying in that zone. And this is where the Enneagram can really, really help you. I was working with a girl today who happens to be a self preservation 9. All right. Loves harmony, does not love conflict. They can deal with it. That's the beauty of working with Nines is like helping them build a healthier relationship with conflict. Because conflict, quite honestly, can be the greatest catalyst for change and growth in your life. It's just, you know, it's not always going to be a Nines favorite thing, but learning how to lean into it instead of leaning out. Just like for me, I don't love vulnerability, can't stand it, really don't. It's my least favorite thing. However, I have learned how to lean into it and build a better relationship with it so that my gifts can really come out. Now when I see like a self preservation 9 say they want to speak on big stages, I have to dig a little deeper because I'm like, that is not naturally in your wheelhouse. So why is that? It was about impact. And so helping that person break down what impact really means for them and how actually you can be working more in flow with who you are authentically being and who you are in this world doesn't make it any less than somebody that is hearing the cheers from a large audience. Now some of you want to be on stage too, because you don't necessarily have to be as vulnerable. And vulnerability is where impact really makes. It's where it's like, okay, I get it. I'm not saying you can't do that from a stage. You can. But really asking yourself, why? Why now? Understanding your enneagram, even if you know your enneagram type, again, you've heard me say before, those online assessments are inaccurate 65 to 70% of the time. And when you're using this tool, the right information is really, really important. So if you want to do an Enneagram Kickstart session with me, very powerful. 90 minutes, we'll have the right information. I'll give you all the tools and ask you all these questions so that you can really step into your zone where you sh. Abundance flows in, not just in fulfillment, but in income. That is the magic. That is the magic. And then the next level, next level is like that one on one private VIP coaching where you have me on speed dial helping you really sharpen these tools and help you become more clear on what that means for you moving forward.

You can't make the impact you desire without being really truthful with yourself, with compassion, with kindness, with love, with, you know, making, taking and taking big action for you. And the action that you take may look very, very different than, you know, Susie on Instagram, you trying to take action that Susie on Instagram's taking when she's wired completely different and has different life experience than you honestly won't help you as much. Understanding who you are at the deepest of levels with love, compassion, empathy, service and grace. That is when the magic happens and the impact that you say you want to make in this world, not just in your business life, but in your home team life. And to have it flow, you know, especially if you're, you know, a mom or, you know, you're busy, you know, to be able to have that flow in all areas of your life more effortlessly so that you're not energetically bankrupting yourself, that is a skill set that I teach, that I help you with, that I help you sharpen those tools so that no matter what comes your way and whatever pivots you choose to make in this journey, personally and professionally, you know that it's the right decision for you and what you're here to do. It's my favorite thing to help people do. And when you see these light bulbs go off and when things actually get easier and not harder.

Like, that's when we know we've landed. But you're gonna have to be vulnerable and you're gonna have to trust somebody and have somebody guide you that has walked this journey and continues to walk this journey. This work is not done, by the way, until you're done on Earth. This is not a box checking system that you like, got it? Moving on. There will be refinement and new layers that you will meet along the way in this journey. And my goal is to help you have these tools the rest of your life so that no matter where you are at, whether you'.

2737, 50, 60, 70, 80. Does not matter that you have the toolbox ready to go and sharp so that you can continue to make the impact that you desire in all you do and become that ultimate leader in your life. Some big T energy coming your way. Honestly, I love you. I am grateful for you. I know that you are here to do mighty mighty things in this lifetime. Don't waste one more day. If this episode landed on you, please share it with somebody. Your community people that you know might need this beautiful little message of love and wisdom and just truth telling for you. If you are being called to really dive deeper in this work, I would be honored to walk this journey with you. Go to Tracey O' Malley.com, the work with Me section. Do an Enneagram Kickstart session, do an Enneagram experience. Or if you know you're ready for the Master Master's level work, fill out an application today. It is not easy, but it is so worth it. And this will set you up for anything in your life from here on out. I would be honored to take you on that journey. I love you and until next time, you guys keep going.

I'm so happy you enjoyed the Leadership Formula podcast. Please help us spread the word about this show by sharing it with a friend and leaving a written Apple podcast review. If you have any follow up questions to this episode, you can DM me directly on Instagram at traceyomalley. You can also find additional resources on my website@tracyomalley.com I'm excited to lead you.

Into the next level of your life, Sam.