EP387: How the Power of a Pause can set your entire 2024 on the right path for YOU

Okay, I know you may have heard about the Enneagram or someone told you you need to know all about it. So here you are. But what the hell do you do with it?

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You are in the right place. Lead with the Enneagram is the show where you will actually learn how to use this incredible growth tool and apply it in all areas of your life, personally and professional. Hi, I'm Tracy. And to be honest with you, I was a skeptic of the Enneagram before I started to actually integrate it into my life. In fact, in true enneagram 8 style, I told my therapist to F off when she wanted me to dive into it well over a decade ago. Now that I have more than a decade of experience using the Enneagram and working on myself in my family with those closest to me, building my own bulletproof leadership, sales teams with one on one clients, couples, leading workshops for top Fortune 100 executives, and speaking to large audiences all across the globe about this powerful tool. I've got the proof and deep understanding of how to help you implement this into your life instead of it just being some fun thing you heard about. The Enneagram can be a complex model. But with me as your guide, I will show you how to first lead yourself in a powerful, effective and compassionate way and then help you lead others that way in your life as well. This podcast will have powerful conversations with guests, live typing sessions, and as well as solo episodes of Breaking down dynamics of the Enneagram and how they impact your life, career and relationships. So now let's dive in.

Hello and welcome back to another episode of Lead with the Enneagram. Happy freaking New year. It is January 2nd, and I know, like New Year, we set the goals and I'm going to do something very different and I'm going to keep going it short and sweet because I think this is something that you need to hear, need to understand before you go in guns blazing into 2024. And for some of you, like maybe you do need to take more action, and for some of you, you might need to slow down a little bit. And so before we do anything, before we just kick it into high gear and mindlessly go forward without understanding why, before we do it, we're going to talk about the power of the pause for a moment and what a pause means for me. And you might be totally different, but it's really important that you understand what that means for you and why the pause is powerful for you.

Because I think if we want something different, it's going to require something different from you, right? If you want something that you've never had before, it's going to require something that you've never done to happen. Right? What got you here won't get you there. And for so many people, myself included, sometimes I think we set these big goals. We feed off the new energy of the new year, which is really, really great. We even picked the words. If you haven't listened to last week's episode about picking a word for the year, I think it'll be really, really important. But especially as we move forward with bigger go, newer goals, newer things.

We usually will take an old approach whether we're conscious of it or not, right? My kind of go to is to power through, right. And although as an enneagram, a that is my strength, it is also my kryptonite. And for each of you, you know, the way that you've always done things, you might have the evidence and the receipts to show that that has worked out okay for you and actually maybe even have evidence like I do, that it's worked out really, really well for you. But I know if you're listening right now, the things that you want moving forward are probably something very different than you've had, even with tremendous success personally and professionally. But new levels will require new things about you. But before we kind of just start picking words and getting into new morning routines and all the things, let's pause for a moment. And this is why, another reason I love the Enneagram. Because at the core of everything you do, there is a very distinct motive. There is a very distinct core fear as well. And this is where the power of the pause will really, really help you in understanding, first of all, is this goal you're setting actually what you want. And before you know, I'm coming off, I'm going to be really honest, I'm coming off this full moon sound bowl healing session that I did last night, which was very, very powerful. And it's kind of letting go of feelings and resentments and stuff that I know is holding me back. And some of those things are some of my superpowers, right? That intensity in which I bring to situations. And I also just spent four hours in a beautiful conversation with incredible people in my life. That was a very deep conversation and being clear, like one of the things I want to manifest, but like going a little deeper and I want to. I want you as you are writing down or, you know, telling the universe and God and accountability partners and coaches and whatever that looks like for you. What you want for the new year, let's dig it a little deeper. And that requires a pause. So one of the friends I was having.

Breakfast with, she was telling me what she wants to manifest for the new year, and I was like, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa, whoa. I know what that kind of looks like in fairy tale land. Let's dive deeper on what that means for you. And I think, especially in the world that we live in today, with comparison and social media, what a goal might mean for you, Are you comparing it off of what you see somebody else doing? Or are you doing this in a way that is true to you? And unless you know your core motive and your core fears, like how you navigate that and how you pivot when things come up for you, and how you deal with the stress that comes with that, and how you deal with people, places, and things in your life that maybe are telling you, like, you've changed. You can't do it that way. Like, understanding yourself is really, really important, especially as we're setting goals for ourself, and especially as we define. This is the important thing, defining what that means for you. But you have to know who you are. And many of you maybe don't know who you are. And you come by it so innocently. And so did I. I went 40 freaking years, y', all, not knowing, really who I was. I mean, I knew what I could look like. I knew how to behave. I knew how to perform. I knew how to get what I wanted. I knew how to be successful on paper. I knew how to be a decent mother. I knew a lot of things, but I didn't know me. And what really was driving everything that I did. Why could chameleon. Why could be all those other things?

The Enneagram helped me do that. It really, really did. And it's more than just information, you guys. Like, it's one thing to know and to say, hey, I'm an eight. Great. That's awesome. I am an eight. What does that really mean? And how do I. How do I use that to leverage my strengths? How do I use it to navigate my blind spots? How do I use that information and integrate this information into setting new goals that are scary and audacious? And how do I leverage and integr that information to take contrary action from what I typically do? And this is where, like, the framework of the Enneagram comes into play. Because I know what I want for my life.

In order to do that in a way that feels true and authentic to who I am today at the Highest possible level will require things for me that scare the fuck out of me. And I know where I go when I'm scared. I do. I know how I.

Kind of handle that. I know the compensatory strategies that I use conscious and unconscious and meeting myself with compassion will allow me to even more be able to move through that. And I want the same thing for you. If you have not done my Enneagram blueprint yet, I am not a self promoter. I really, really do not. Contrary to what I've had a review say that I self promote too much. That person clearly doesn't know me because I am terrible at it. But as we move into this new year and pausing for a moment before we just go in like guns blazing. If there has ever been a time where you need more clarity around what really motivates you at your core, what things you're really, really afraid of at the deepest level, even if you've taken an online assessment before that isn't mine, Those are inaccurate 65 to 70% of the time. Please, please, please. If you invest in nothing else that I've ever done, go do the blueprint today. They're over 95% accurate. It will give you the right information. Now, what you do with it will be totally up to you, but you'll have the right information which will unlock the framework and the system that the Enneagram is to allow you to stay rooted deeply in your faith of your understanding, good, orderly direction, or a God of your understanding. For you to be in alignment for who you were always designed to be. Not what Susie on Instagram is doing, not even maybe what a coach who doesn't know who you are is telling you to do.

You are being divinely led. But if you don't know how to move through that, when all those divine, divinely.

Downloaded things are being given to you, you're gonna do the opposite of being divinely led. You're gonna take your own cards into your own hand. You're gonna be like running on self will, running riot. And you'll end up frustrated and you'll find yourself in December of 2024 feeling more frustrated and more defeated and maybe even in a shame spiral. And I do not want that for you.

I'm somebody that teaches this every day and I am probably one of the most self aware people I know. People pay me lots of money to help their teams and organizations, CEOs, all sorts of people. And just because I teach this stuff doesn't mean I'm immune to it. It's just like building any muscle. If I stop going to the emotional awareness gym, we do lose that muscle. It's like atrophied and right. And so not only does me teaching this help that, but I am somebody who walks my talk in this work. I am. Yes, I am completely self aware. But I am not immune to blind spots and understanding, integrating, using the framework of the Enneagram to help me stay in my faith and still help me stay true to who I was designed to be.

I have to do this work every day too. But with the right system and the right information and the right tool, it allows me to not just come up with a word for the year and not just say what I'm going to manifest and not just set intentions and and do all the things but they're going to stick. Doesn't mean it's not going to be hard. It doesn't mean it's not going to scare the fuck out of me. It doesn't mean that I'm going to not going to have to let go of people, places and things in my life that maybe they're part of the story over. All those things are going to happen. And yes, all of those things are going to be radically uncomfort comfortable.

It is. That's growth.

And I'm gonna do it anyway. And so are you and I. That is my wish for you. Before you go into this next year.

Fired up with with without real clear understanding and direction of who you are, I want you to start this year off a little bit differently. I want you to start it off knowing who you are, where you're going, where you get tripped up, where you can compassionately meet, compassionately meet yourself. Where you can lean in for support with those that maybe are strong in different areas. Maybe understanding where you have to let some things go. People, places and things so that you can do and be and have everything that you've always desired and everything you absolutely deserve. The Enneagram is a beautiful tool to help you stay on track and stay in your lane. And even though you might go off roading from time to time, I do too. The Enneagram can help you get back on track before things go crazy for you. Like I said, this is going to be super short and sweet. The power of the pause is something that I was never really good at. The Enneagram is the tool that helps me pause before I just respond, react. And for maybe you, somebody who maybe withdraws like this, this pause can help you not get stuck down in that hole of pausing for too long, right? The pause for the with the right intention and the in the right work you do in the pause is is where the magic of this happens. I wish nothing but a beautiful 2024 for you and I want to help kick this off right by before you go, let's figure out where you where you land. And you know we're Almost in episode 400 of this podcast, which is crazy to me. But once you have the right information specifically around your enneagram type, this podcast becomes like the magic that can help you unlock the power of that Go get your blueprint today@traine O' Malley.com the work with me section. If you know that you want to have some guidance around what that information mean means just book a one on one session. You get the blueprint with that session. If you've already done your blueprint, that's okay. We have less to figure out.

But seriously, setting your 2024 off on the right foot with the right direction, the right information, the right tool and a willing soul really will make 2024 a year that we'll never forget. I'm so grateful for you in 2023 and beyond. I'm grateful for the time that you invest here on this podcast. I know you have many, many choices out there for people that you can spend your time listening to and I never take it lightly that you spend your time here. I'm wishing you so much love and transformation in this day and the many, many days to come. Let's do this in 2024 together. We'll talk soon.

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