EP426: How to take the EDGE off Without Losing Your F*cking Edge

I didn't just take the edge off. I took pieces of myself with it. One sip, one ritual. One quick fix at a time. You know what it looks like? A glass of wine to unwind. A hit of sugar when the emotions get tight. A Diet Coke because it's the only thing that tastes like control. Or even a sacred ritual that turns it to a daily escape hatch. It doesn't always come in some big dramatic spiral. Sometimes it's slow, quiet, sophisticated. Wrapped in wellness or productivity, or even just a little treat. And for a while, it works. You feel a moment of calm. You exhale. You finally stop spinning. But here's what I learned. What helps you take the edge off can also take you off your edge. I know because I've lived it. Alcohol has been an obvious choice of mine over 12 years. Alcohol free now. And I still remember what it felt like to think I was more fun, more. More relaxed, more me with a drink in my hand. But truthfully, I was just less aware of the parts of me that were screaming for help. Then came the subtle stuff. Sugar when I couldn't sit in my sadness. Diet Coke when I needed a hit of dopamine or fake power like a grown up pacifier I didn't want to admit was running my nervous system. And then there was the Hoppe. That one hit a little different. Part of me thought I needed it to help drop in even deeper. To access something sacred in me. And sometimes it did. But over time, I wasn't using it to connect anymore. I was using it to bypass to fast track calm without checking in. To skip the discomfort and call it presence. Even the most intentional things can become a trap when you start depending on them to feel like yourself. That's the sneaky part. This isn't about shame. It's about self honesty and self honoring. It's about owning your choices and asking the hard questions with a hell of a lot of compassion. Because you can't stay sharp if you're dulling your instincts and your intuition. You can't lead with fire if you're sedating your truth. You can't embody your edge if you're outsourcing your calm. This isn't a cut it all out episode, I promise you. It's an invitation to pause, to take an inventory, to ask, is this truly grounding me? Or is it numbing me just enough to survive? You are never meant to live dulled down. You are built with edge on purpose. But if you're not careful, the very things you think are helping you cope Might be the very things robbing you of your clarity, your power, your leadership, and your fucking legacy. So let's talk about what it really means to take the edge off without losing the edge that makes you you. Let's go. Hey. Hey. And welcome to the Enneagram Edge. I'm your host, Tracy o', Malley, Enneagram expert, leadership coach, recovering control freak, and. And your personal translator for the shit you keep repeating but don't totally understand yet. Now, if you're new here, buckle up. This is absolutely not another fluffy Enneagram podcast where we talk about how sweet it is to be an Enneagram, too, and bake cookies for your friends. No, this is the real deal. This show is about using the Enneagram as a tool for transformation. Not just information and definitely not some party trick. Because knowing your type is cute, but embodying your highest expression, that is where your edge is. Every week, I'm bringing you the truth behind the types and the hype. How to stop self sabotaging, lead like a damn legend, and actually understand the people in your life without wanting to scream into a pillow. Or if you're an enneagram8 like me, not throat punch someone. We'll talk about leadership, relationships, business, healing, high performance, and why couples therapy isn't working. But fully understanding your Enneagram blueprint might just save your marriage. I'll drop solo episodes behind the curtain coaching, and the occasional rant when someone calls the Enneagram just a personality test. So if you're ready to stop playing small and start showing up with unshakable clarity, confidence, and compassion for yourself and others, this is your space. You've got an edge now let's use it. Hello. Hello. Welcome back to another episode of the Enneagram Edge, where we talk about how to really leverage the edge that you were born with, that you're gifted with, that is inside of you already and how to access it. And I know after hearing that opening, you're probably like, oh, here it comes. And although I'm going to share parts of my journey with this and how sneaky this whole, you know, taking the edge off can be and all of that, this is going to be for you. And again, not to beat you over the head or saying you must live like this in order to blah, blah, blah, I'm not going to do that for you. But we're going to talk about you for a second. And not the curated you, not the high functioning you, not the I've got my shit together version of you. Let's talk about the want behind closed doors. And, you know, I work with a lot of people. I've worked with thousands and thousands of people. And usually, usually they'll come for some strategy and, you know, my business acumen and, you know, all the things, right. They want their soul seen until they actually see their soul scene sometimes. And we have these hard conversations about the things that we justify, the things that we do, the things that, you know, take the edge off because we work so hard, because we deserve it, because we're running Mach 12. And, you know, there's this part of us that we have to take this inventory again. I'm going to asterisk this with a lot of compassion. If we're truly here to live out the calling that's on our life, are we operating in integrity in all areas of our life? And as somebody who walks their talk, I am constantly taking an inventory. And so I'm here to tell you this isn't always easy or comfortable, but it is necessary for you to honor the edge that you were born with. Right? Okay. So back to the one of you, the. The you that's behind closed doors. The one who says, you know, I just need this to unwind or I'm going out with friends and, you know, it's a social thing. This is a little treat. This is my reward. I've worked so hard. It's just Diet Coke. Seriously, it's my only vice. It keeps me going. Or I use it to ground, to reset, to breathe, to drop in. Does that sound familiar? That is all I have said to myself. You know what I mean? Now, let me ask you this. Have you ever stopped to ask if the thing you're reaching for is actually helping for the long game, right? Or if it's slowly dulling the sharpest part of you? Because we don't lose our edge all at once. We leak it, right? One sip, one scroll, one snack, one hit at a time. Tiny moments of permission that quietly say, I can't handle this on my own, and I'm not here to shame you. Like I said, I'm here to ask you to tell yourself the truth. What are you using to take the edge off? And what is it actually costing you? Like I said, I've coached high level leaders, entrepreneurs, CEOs, powerhouse parents and couples. Brilliant entrepreneurs. And every single one of them has had their version of edge erosion. Not because they were weak, not because I'm weak, not because you're weak, but because no one ever taught them to sit in discomfort without sedating it, you know, when I got sober almost 13 years ago, I realized honestly that the alcohol really wasn't the problem. And the food and, you know, you insert it. It was my emotional capacity to cope with life, right? And I know a lot of you are doing the work and in personal development and you might even say, I'm doing the work. So how is this harmful? And trust me, there have been moments in almost 13 years of sobriety that I'm like, I know how to emotionally cope. I have all the tools. I fucking teach the tools. What will this, what, what harm could this do? And I haven't entertained the alcohol at all because I know where that could go. That could be very, very destructive. And that's not a slow leak, you know what I mean? But little things like, oh, I love Diet Coke, I love the flavor, you know, and the next thing I know, I am, you know, jumping out of bed at 5am, going to the convenience store, looking homeless and like, seriously, like a, like a crack addict looking for her crack, right? And I realized that even though it's socially acceptable, I mean, it's legal, right? It was sedating the parts of me that get inspired. That is creative. So I want you to pause with me right here. Take a breath. I'm catching my breath too. Ask yourself, what do I reach for the second I feel overstimulated, overwhelmed, underappreciated, uncertain? Is this soothing me or silencing me? And who am I without that buffer? So even things like scrolling, throwing ourselves into other people, over giving, it's not always just a substance like alcohol or Diet Coke or, or even a sacred ritual like, you know, plant medicine or sacred medicines, right? And I'm not knocking any of these things. I want you to know. I want you to know. But this is where radical, compassionate honesty has to come to the surface for you. Because the edge you're trying to soften might actually be the signal that you're out of alignment, not broken, not bad, maybe just a little misdirected. And, and if you never pause to listen to that edge, you'll spend your life managing it instead of owning it. And now that we've got, we've gotten there, I want to tell you how I can give my edge away piece by piece. Now that I have you thinking about your edge, let me tell you how I handed over mine a little bit. You know, obviously the alcohol, like I said 13 years ago, was very destructive. And maintaining over 4600 plus days of continuous sobriety when it comes to alcohol is something I'm super proud of it has allowed me to have the life that I have today because it, I was chipping away at my edge very rapidly when that was a part of my life, even though it wasn't an everyday thing. But over the last 13 years, there have been moments where I can feel little things that are very sneaky. Slippery slopes kind of sneak into my life. And again, none of it's destructive or bad, but if you're somebody raising your hand saying, I am here to be the best version of myself, I am here to honor the calling. I am here to be the best parent, the best partner, the best friend, the best man, the best woman then to whom much is given, much is required. And like I said, I'm taking my inventory on a daily basis. And even sometimes, even though I am probably one of the most self aware people I know, there are times I can justify the things I do. So I want to tell you about some things. I didn't always lose my edge overnight. It, it didn't come in one dramatic crash like it did decades ago. And, and this is why it chips away at you and you don't even realize it. Sometimes it, it can be a slow erosion, a dulling, a soft surrender to things that look like they were helping. Like I said, alcohol was first. I used it to think it made me easier to be around. And you know, if you're like me, I'm pretty intense now, your intensity might look different, but that pressure, you know, I want you to think of intensity as pressure, you know, and for all Enneagram types, this looks really, really different. But it still feels like pressure inside of you, right? And how you feel about it and how do you manage it looks really different. When I think back, this is kind of one of the revelations I've had over the last decade in really diving deeper into this is when I was 15, was when I had my very first drink of alcohol. And you know, growing up with alcoholism in my home, I swore I would never be like that. And I wasn't. I was very different in a lot of ways. Like I said, I didn't drink every day. So like, I was like, I'm not like that. So you know, I'm not that bad. But that very first drink I had when I was 15, everybody was drinking Zima wine coolers. This is dating me. I know all you, you know, people that aren't in your late 40s, early 50s, have no idea what Zima is. But it was like the high school drink, right? And I decided to drink Southern Comfort. And I will never forget that very first sip I took. And trust me, Southern Comfort tastes got awful. I didn't care. It was the pressure release valve. That very first drink, I was like. And I realize sometimes with other things in my life, even the innocent ones, even the not so destructive ones, that I am on a constant search and chasing that first drink, feeling that first exhale, that first pressure release. Think of the insta pot, right where you hit that little button at the top and it goes. That's how some of these things that we use to take off our edge, that's what we're looking for. And because it worked that one time, if you're like me, I sometimes think more is better, right? More alcohol, more diet coke, more caffeine, more scrolling, more sex, more food, more sugar, more sacred rituals, right? More doesn't always mean better. And the epiphanies I've had, especially in recent months, is I don't need anything to exhale other than me being fully present in my body, mind, soul, spirit. And that usually comes in just moving it, walking, being out in nature, being vulnerable with people that I trust, right? So alcohol was the first. And it, like I said, it used to make me think I was easier to be around, More relaxed, more fun. I told myself that it helped me take the edge off, but really it disconnected me so much from the part of me that needed the most attention. And honestly, it created such a division in the things that I cared about most. Sobriety didn't just remove something. It returned something. It returned my edge, my presence, my fire. Now, I'm not saying you have to have a destructive alcohol problem to know that this is not good for you. You know what I mean? If you are, you know, not waking up as fresh, if, you know, you need it at the end of the day to take the edge off, if this is how you get through parenting, whatever that looks like for you, again, this is not to shame you or like, you gotta burn all the boats of things that you like in order to do that. But to be an integrity sometimes and to, you know, your truest must most authentic self, and to honor the edge that's inside of you, this might be something to consider, right? Then came the sneakier ones for me, sugar when I didn't want to feel. So my first sugar hit came when I was five or four. Four or five. That's when I remember it. And it had the same feeling as that first drink of alcohol. I remember the disordered relationship with sugar when I was about that age and things, the household were getting pretty intense. And when my parents would fight and I couldn't intervene the way that I wanted to, even though I kind of played referee a lot, sugar was my comfort. And it gave me the same feeling of that exhale, the. For a moment, it was that quick hit of relaxation, of comfort, of companionship. And then, you know, obviously throughout the next 30 years, 35 years, that has been probably one of the most intense things that I have used to dull my edge, to take the edge off. And that usually creates a whole nother cycle of, you know, my brain doesn't work, I don't feel as clear. I look in the mirror and I look puffy, you know, all the things. And then the shame spirals come. So, you know, recognizing that when I have the sugar, what is that about? Diet Coke? Diet Coke, my goodness. I was known in high school, back in the 80s, I used to drive a pickup truck then. I drive one now, but I was known for having cases of Diet Coke at the back of my pickup truck. And I used them a lot of the time because in the winter my, my back end would kind of sway back and forth so the, the weight of the cases would help, you know, weigh down the, the bed of the pickup truck. But I was a full blown Diet Coke addict and I loved it. And, you know, in the 80s was all about, you know, low fat, low calories, you know, sugar free, eat as much as you want as long as it has, like no calories and no sugar or, you know, the fake sugar. Right. And Diet Coke was one of those things, you know, I didn't eat a lot because I would be so extreme with, you know, the disordered relationship with food that the Diet Coke filled that gap, right? Are you trading one for the other? And then when I got sober and started really getting healthy in my 40s, all of a sudden I woke up one day and did want it anymore. And before that happened, I was literally going to that convenience store right around the corner from my house four to five times a day, getting like a 52 ounce, like thirst buster, Big Gulp kind of thing. So much Diet Coke again, no calories, right? What harm is it going to do? So when I quit it, I went back to that convenience store to go grab ice or something. It was about a month after I just quit it cold turkey. Decided I didn't want it anymore. And the guy behind the counter was like, had this look on his face. I'm like, what's going, going on? He's like, I thought maybe you died or something. I like, so used to seeing you every day. And for over a decade I didn't touch Diet Coke. Literally all I drank was water and I loved it and I felt good and all the things. And then one day I was like, you know what? I missed the bubbles, right? This is how sneaky, you know, our own, you know, subconscious mind can be. And maybe it is about the bubbles. Maybe it was at first you. Right, like what's, you know, I didn't need to stop it, but like I needed to stop the excessive drinking of it. But it did start off as just a few bubbles. And then I'd go to the store and buy like a little 20 ounce bottle, which I don't usually like drinking it out of the bottle. I love the fountain drink, by the way. And I would have a little 20 ounce thing of diet Coke sitting in my fridge and it would take me about five days to drink it. Next thing you know, I'm going through half of it a day. Next thing you know, one a day. Next thing I know, my beautiful partner in crime, my lover boy, he's going to the store and it's two for $4. So he grabs me two of the 20 ounces every time. And next thing you know, I'm going to the, the convenience store and getting on top of the ones that he gets me at the store, the big fountain drink. Then it turned into two. Then I feel like, oh my God, like I can't function without it. And it is distracting my mind from the edge and the calling that's on my life now. This last one that I want to tell you about, you know, and scrolling, you know, Apple tells me every Sunday how much time I waste taking my edge off from scrolling. You know, that's a whole nother episode. Then came probably the most recent one that was really hard for me to come to terms with that it had become this. My last 18 months has been a very sacred journey of going inward. And many of you have reached out to me and been so beautiful and love this new era that I'm in this new softness that I'm in this beautiful energy. I'm still powerful, but like there's, there's something different. And about 18 months ago, I was introduced to a sacred medicine. I don't microdose and I'm all for that. Like again, I have to take my personal inventory and I have to be radically, compassionately honest with myself. And about 18 months ago I was introduced to a sacred medicine called Hape. And it is like a sacred tobacco. And I was a little nervous at first. And I was introduced to it in a beautiful, loving, ceremonial way that was honoring my relationship with God and my faith. And it was beautiful. And I'm going back in my heart, my body and my mind to that very first experience. It was January of 2024. And I remember that first time it hit me. And it's very momentary. It lasts, you know, five minutes of kind of this grounding energy. And it remind, like thinking back on it now, it felt like that first hit of diet coke, that first drink, that first hit of sugar. And I loved it so much that I started incorporating it into my life a little bit more. Not every day, you know, here and there. And it became this beautiful ritual. It allowed me to meditate in ways I've never meditated before. It gave me permission to have ceremonial, sacred time in things that mattered to me. And I loved it. And then came the time where I was getting more uncomfortable in the things that were being revealed in my meditation and in my prayer and all the things that it's like, okay, I need to go deeper. I need to go deeper. I need to understand. I need, I need this. I need this. I need this to go deeper. It was all for good intentions, right? It wasn't like I honestly wasn't using it to bypass anything. In fact, I was using it, or so I thought, to go even deeper. And there were many, many times it was a beautiful journey, an absolutely beautiful journey. And it was about six months ago that I started feeling like, I wonder what would happen if I just stopped with this. You know, it became an everyday ritual which was beautiful and loving and honoring to the calling. And I also felt the tinge from God saying, you don't need this to access me, you don't need this to exhale. You don't need this to do anything. And just like we do with the things that we use to take our edge off, I started to justify it in my mind. I don't have any vices. I mean, I have 4, 600 plus days of sobriety. I, you know, all the things that we do when we, we are feeling convicted. And so six months ago, I started entertaining the thought of letting it go. And like I said, I was justifying it, justifying it, justifying it. And when I would justify, I was like, oh, that's a red flag for me again meeting myself with compassion. It's like, you're not ready yet. What are you, what are you hiding from? What are you trying to why do you think you need this? What are you afraid to do on your own that you're using these things, people, places and things as crutches, Right? It was about a week and a half ago, I was in the shower getting ready for one of the trips that I took. I've been traveling a lot, and it was very clear to me that it's time to let it go. You know, I will still drink a Diet Coke on an airplane, you know what I mean? But I don't have it in my house. It's not part of a daily practice. I don't keep sugar in the house. But if we go out and we want a dessert, I will have a dessert. So again, this is not a like, like let go of everything bad in your life, right? It's the things that we do on the daily that take the edge off or even on the weekends, right? That or that become ritual that we have to be very, very careful of. So in the shower a couple weeks ago, like I said, it was very clear that it's time to let it go. And I have my own beautiful little box that I have had some of these beautiful things in. And it was very clear on Father's Day that I need to, like, thank it. Like, it's been a beautiful tool in the toolbox, and it's time that I let it go. And so I did, and so it is. And I gave the hape to the earth. I woke up at sunrise and lit a fire and put my beautiful box of things in it and. And thanked it for its part and its role in my life. Just like we need to honor all parts of our journey with grace and. And love and compassion. And so it is, and so it goes. And they all like all these things that I talk about. At one point, I believed they helped me regulate until they didn't. Right? And I know this is true for you too. They might give you and me a sense of power, but they steal the real thing at times. Maybe they offer you and me peace, but only in the form of temporary avoidance. And I know, like, you're here for the long game, like, how are the choices you're making to take. Take the edge off really, with your long game, real edge, right? And I'm not judging any of these things. I'm not judging any of the tools, any of the spiritual rituals. I trust me. But if you believe you need it to take the edge off or to find your edge, this is time to look in the mirror. I'm just telling the truth about what they became for me and what they become for a lot of people that I work with, Coping isn't evil, right? Like, this is not to say I'm a shitty person. I didn't do enough of the work. Like, no, no, no, no, no. All this. All this part of your journey is here to reveal the next steps for the next part of your journey. Coping isn't evil, but unconscious coping becomes erosion of your edge. And once I realize that, I can't unsee it. And as somebody who leads people into integrity so that they can honor their edge and calling, I have to walk that talk. I have to. Any area I feel out of integrity in, I have to course correct, and I have to meet it with compassion, right? And. And when you see it and you can't unsee it, like me, I have to take it all the way down to the roots. What is at the root of this? And that's when I turned to the tool that changed everything. The Enneagram. Right? Because the Enneagram serves as this compass. Like, the root of most things is vulnerability. For me, as an enneagram8, I'm afraid of being vulnerable. I'm afraid of being vulnerable. The Diet Coke, the sugar, the scrolling, not alcohol anymore, even the hoppy, right? It was helping me very subtly avoid vulnerability. But not. But not in a way that I thought, right? It wasn't as glaringly obvious. So the Enneagram really serves as this compass, but not in the way that most people teach it, right? And this is where, like, if you're new to the Enneagram or new to me, I want you to know that the way that I teach it, the way that I help you integrate it, is very, very different than how most people. This wasn't about, like, oh, I'm an eight, so I do this right? This is about tracing the why behind every reach, every spiral, every escape hatch that you have on repeat, right? The Enneagram didn't give me a label. Doesn't give you a label. It gives you a mirror to get to the root of things very, very quickly. When it feels like the whole thing's a show, right? It can show you and me that what I reach for when I'm out of alignment is a symptom, not a sin. And this is why, like, when I caught myself in this, like, first and foremost, I was like, how did this happen? Like. Like, it was so sneaky, but it's like, okay, what is at the root of why I do what I do? What is the biggest fear that I have as an enneagram 8. And when I started mapping that pattern, when I can see the loop, I can pause. I can meet myself with compassion. And not to fix myself. There's nothing wrong with any of us, but to face myself. And for you to allow yourself to face yourself and look yourself in the eyes with like, I am so proud of you. I'm here to walk this journey with you. Your Enneagram type isn't here to tell you who you are. It's here to show you what you've been believing about yourself sometimes. Right? And the things that you're most afraid of, like this, can really help you pinpoint what things are about. The Enneagram can also show where you believe that you're only valuable when you perform certain things. Right? And this isn't just for my Enneagram Threes. We all have this element of performance, especially when our biggest fears are looming. When, you know, some of those things that we're afraid of are being compromised. Right? The Enneagram also can reveal, you know, that for a lot of types, like, you're only safe if you disappear. That you're only lovable if you're useful, that you're only valuable if you perform. And when I use the Enneagram as a guide for myself and for others and not as some gimmick, I can take the inventory without shame. And that is what I want for all of you. Because life is going to life. You. You are coming with so much history and conditioning that helped you survive for many, many, many years, that helped you get through. And you might even have the receipts like I do to show, hey, I'm not doing so bad. Right? Right. And I also know that for me to honor the calling and edge on my life, I constantly have to take that inventory. And not with shame, but with compassion, open heart, open mind, and a willingness to do things a little bit scary and a little bit differently. I can say, and I did say, oh, I'm not addicted to Diet Coke. I'm addict. I'm addicted to feeling in control. Right? I don't need sugar. I need to sit with the part of me that's grieving. That doesn't sound fun, does it? No. But that's what honoring your edge is all about. And that's what the Enneagram gives you. A way home to your truth without judgment. It doesn't just reveal the behavior. It reveals the motivation. And once you see that, you can choose again. You can stop numbing your edge and die dimming your edge and going over the edge and you start honoring it, right? So here's your moment. This isn't about cutting things out and making your life boring and, you know, thinking that we all have problems with this. This is about cutting the story that says you need them to be okay, right? Ask yourself, what am I really reaching for? What am I really trying not to feel? What would I hear if I sat in silence long enough to listen? And that is a big one for me. And this is why every client I have and myself like the walk, you know, the legends walk, right? This is, this is what happens when we really get quiet. Not with a podcast, not with multitasking on a walk. Even if it's just a five minute walk around the block, listening to nature, listening to the sounds of outside in your own heart. What would you hear if you sat in that silence long enough to listen? I want you to know you're never too much. And you are never not enough. You've just been managing your edge instead of trusting it, right? You don't need another fix. You need to come back home to yourself. You were built with edge on purpose. Not to weaponize, not to destroy, but to lead, to create, to love, to light things the up. So no, you don't need to take the edge off. You just need to sharpen it with truth, with love, with compassion, with empathy, with grace, with service, with yourself. Yeah, you can take the edge off without losing your edge. This is going to be. I don't even know. I don't even want to publish this episode because I just really got vulnerable with you. Like, I'm human. We're all human. And you know, even though we evolve in our journey and like, when I think back to how I was 15 years ago, this is how it can be sneaky because I can justify, like, look how far I've come. Like, look what I do for a living, right? Anytime, like we start to justify things in our head, it's a wake up call to say, okay, let's. Let's take a beautiful, compassionate inventory here. What are we running from? What are we hiding from? What are we feeling scared about? And it brings us back to the little kid inside of all of us, right? And so this is an invitation for you guys to see where maybe you're taking the edge off and losing your edge and how to take ownership of it, lean into the beautiful parts about you without anything, any people, place, things, substance, ritual, sacred ceremony, any of those things. Everything you have inside of you, everything you need is inside of you. Everything that is about you is a divine gift. And anytime we need something or even do some of these things, are we, you know, blocking that part of us? And only you can be really truthful with yourself, right? And you may not want to be. You may want to justify it and sometimes you don't get it till you get it. And even me, like, it's been a powerful few weeks for me and it feels really good. And watching that fire burn really felt good. It felt good. I'm so thankful for that part of my journey. I'm so thankful for the awareness that I have and that I can share that with you. You know, we do a lot of really deep work in our time together. Whether it's just going through your Enneagram blueprint or you partner up with me for six months, six months to a year to really go deep. Can you imagine what that might look like if you had somebody that was here to help you face your inventory with love, compassion, empathy, grace, service and fun? How far you could take your edge and how you can honor that edge and do the things that you really want to do in this lifetime and in your homes, in your businesses and your life. If that is something you're interested in, just go to tracyomalley.com the work with me section has all the offerings that I have right now. I do VIP days, one on one, private coaching workshops for families and teams. All the things if you love this episode, if this one hits you, which it's hitting me, I'm having a little vulnerability hangover right this moment. But it'll be okay. Anytime there's a vulnerability hangover, it means there's something beautiful for myself or someone else on the other side of it. So please share this Share this podcast with somebody if you share it on social media, I'm on Instagram @tracyomec. If you have not done so, and if you've listened to any of my episodes and you got value from it, it really means the world to me. It's free. Go leave a review on any of the platforms, especially Spotify or Apple podcasts. The Enneagram Edge with Tracy o'. Malley. I appreciate you guys. I appreciate you so, so much. So let's. Let's make a commitment that we don't need to take our edge off. We just need to sharpen it. With love, with truth. Together. Until next time. And that's a wrap on today's Dive into the Edge. If this episode hit you in the gut or lit a fire under your ass, good, that means it's working here's the deal. Transformation is not a checkbox. It's a damn decision. And the Enneagram? It's your ultimate power tool when you actually know how to use it. If you loved today's episode, share it with somebody who's ready to stop playing small. Subscribe, leave a review, and if you're really feeling brave, shoot me a message and tell me what cracked open for you. Remember, your edge isn't something to be polished down. It's part of you that was always meant to lead. 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