240. 33yr Old Father With Terminal Cancer's Advice

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Correct. Yeah, second season.

Yes, sir. Aidan, not to get straight to the point, but, you know, Aiden came to us in a position where he unfortunately has what's been labeled as terminal cancer. Very interesting. You know, this is going to be one of the most unique podcasts I think we ever do for you men out there listening to this and. Or watching this on YouTube. Very special. Very special. And the reason why not to turn this into a mini power rant. Satan's with me. I'm not on my own. Is. It's disgusting how many men out there have their whole life ahead of them where they can go and create phenomenal opportunities and unfuck all the bullshit that they've caused and created. Because, yes, you have. I don't always judge. I never judge the man, but I' judge actions. And a lack of responsibility and leadership has led to a man who can do something about it, but he fucking doesn't. Because there is an answer. HPF has been here for a while now, so I think it's very. Not that those men probably listen to this podcast anyway, but it's going to be a very inspiring story for a lot of you men who do listen to this. And you do want to live a great life. You don't want to just become basic, average, or ordinary, which you will if you don't keep growing. Now, he's a man who's been labeled with terminal cancer and obviously a finite timeline, which we're all part of a finite game of life, but it appears to be very accelerated, obviously for Aiden. And here he is going all in. When with respect to you, bro, 99.99 will continue to Wallow in self pity and guilt and shame and blame of all the opportunities of life because it's all about to disappear apparently. And then they push everything away and then they don't do anything. But here you are, you know, not without your hardships, I'm sure, but it's amazing having you in hpf. But welcome, bro, glad to have you on here with us.

Appreciate it. Thanks for having me.

Yes, this is a very powerful man who built an incredible business in high demand and obviously for reasons that we'll dive into, moved on with all of that to look after himself. And like we said, he's been in HPF for a second season now. But I guess Aiden, I'd love for you to just, just rewinding a little bit, mate. Give us a little bit of a background of where, where life was as a father with business, what was happening and then, and then obviously the finding out one day you had a fall at work and then having scans revealing a, a mass on the frontal lobe which was obviously determined to be cancer. But yeah, talk us through a bit of your journey, man. And, and I guess what eventually led to you reaching out to HPF.

Well, yeah, so Maiden, 33, from the Sunny Coast. I've got three beautiful kids. Stepson James who's 14, Azali, my daughter who's 11 and my youngest Jarrah who's now 4. And you know, being so young, my daughter, I think I was 18 actually 20. Yeah, 20 when my daughter was born and I was looking at photos the other day and she was just so small and I was just so young and that was extremely scary. Extremely scary. And then, you know, me and my wife, we decided we have to move out and you know, this is a parent thing. She already had a child and, and this is my life now. So I just sort of knuckled down and thought what do I, what do I have to do? I've got two kids and this is it. So sort of knuckled down, found a, found a bit of a, a calling to floor laying which I absolutely enjoy. I love working with timber, polished concrete, all that. So yeah, built quite a, a good business. Started importing a new new product into Queensland which got our name out there quite a lot which was just demand was just through the roof. Work was everywhere through Queensland. We were servicing from, from Gympie to the Tweed Heads, you know, with a, with a quite a big crew and it just never seemed like work was ending. Indulged myself in work because that's sort of what I thought I had to do. Didn't really spend the early years with my daughter because I was just working and working and working. Being the owner and the boss, I thought I would just be able to put things aside and, and transition them onto other people. But it just didn't happen. Or I thought I couldn't trust people. Just had to be done by myself. Otherwise, you know, that was my name and things like that. And then business was really good. Life seemed to be quite easy financially, easy mentally, not. As I said, I indulged myself in work a lot. Having young kids. Was our oldest, James, he's autistic and he's got oppositional defiance disorder. So that was hard for me to adjust to as well. And how to learn to speak to a child like that with things that he does. But yeah, and then, yeah, life was. Was pretty good. And then found out my wife had a miscarriage. Throughout the time I was working in that, I could see her sort of falling into a hole and I was not in a place where I could help at all. I tried to, but I focused more on my work because I thought if I could provide good financial help, she could get better help than what I could give. Turns out she just needed me. And then fast forward a couple years. My, My son Jarrah, he was born. And that even Jarrah was actually planned by, by Cassie and Cassie and me. And it was just wonderful. After the miscarriage, you know, we. We really wanted another child. Jara was born and I was actually on a timber job and we were trying to come up with names and you know, I, I couldn't name him some of my, my, my favorite timbers like sassafras and, and stuff like that. So we came up with Jarrah and he's just grown up to be this solid 30 kilo mass of just pure joy and power. He has definitely been there for me to sort of go through a lot of what I've been through. He just is always smiling. He's great. Absolutely amazing. But yeah, just kept working and working and working because there's three kids now. So I was like, wow, this is incredible. Like two kids is okay, but once you add that third one, the dynamic of the household just completely changes, you know. You know, you're looking after two kids and, and your wife's looking after one and vice versa. And you got three kids you're looking after and you're like, this is just too much. It's just too much. Like, you know, I'm looking at Facebook, at my mates traveling Europe and no kids and all this and you're like, no, I have money in the bank. You know, I can just leave right now. And it was just. I couldn't do that. But the thought was always there to just go and live a better life. That's what I thought was better, you know, but yes. And then fast forward a little bit and I got a massive contract in Canberra. Um, I got two 27 story high rises to supply and lay on those, which led to more and more work and all I did was work. I became, I didn't sleep. I was so stressed out because of deadlines and you know, when you get contracts that big, there's always a financial burden of a deadline. You know, there's demands of. If you go over deadline, it's upwards of $25,000 a day for every trade you hold up. So just stress coming out the eyeballs. My, my business partner at the time wasn't helping at all. It was all on me. And, and Kathy started doing my, my invoicing which I was starting to get really frustrated with her because she was stuffing things up, she had no idea how to do them. I just shoved him in her face and said, here, I need this done. No direction. And she'd stuff some up and I just blow my lid. Absolutely blow it. You know, like ten thousand dollar mistake is, is on us. It's not on on them. So I was just getting more and more upset and yeah, it was just work. Um, I started using drugs as an escape and to stay awake, which just. You think you're, you know, productive and you just completely not. You're the opposite. You've got a million things in pieces, just half jobs everywhere. And I just couldn't cope. Couldn't cope really at all. It was just, I wasn't spending time with anyone. I was using drugs as an escape. When I got home, I was using drugs at work. I was yelling at the kids, just blowing my lid. You know, there was some stuff on the ground or you know, they'd put the dishes not in the dishwasher and I'd just lose it, which is terrible. So, yeah, I did not think that I was a good father at all. Sort of had this guilt that every time I yelled at him it was just worse and worse and there was nothing I could do. My father died when I was nine years old. He committed suicide. He hung himself. And you know, I had a great life, great father. He showed me love, he built things. He was my hero. And you know, one arm and he could tie his shoelaces like you know, no worries. And that, to me, was just amazing. And then I think I lost that when he died. I just lost that sense of, you know, every man's just terrible. They just show you things. Just because my mother tried her best, but I could just never pass. I could never think of all the good things that my father did. I always concentrated on this one negative thing that he did in his life because he couldn't handle it anymore. And I passed that on to my children. And I could see myself falling in that hole. And, you know, there was times there where, you know, I would plan out what I was going to do. I didn't want to be here anymore. I felt like Kathy and the kids weren't respecting me at all because of the life I'd given them. Like, here it is. Look at what I've done for you. Give me that respect. Because I would go to work and I would just have. I'd step onto site and there'd be instant respect because of a status. And that's what I was chasing at home, this. Oh, my God, look what dad bought me today. But it was always this financial thing. That's all I was providing. There was no love, there was no affection, there was no direction, there was nothing. There was a dad sitting in the corner, screaming at his children, not spending time engaging in family, throwing his life into service and killing himself at the same time, which was. Just sent me into a spiral, I guess, and just indulged myself into work. I managed to get split shifts. I, you know, managed to tell the. Tell the foremans and things that, you know, we need more. More teams. So I had. I had guys like, you know, 24 hours on that side to get things done. And I was there a lot of the time, 16, 17 hours a day. And, you know, I was just there because I didn't want to be at home. And that made me feel. Feel like crap even more. I just beat myself up. And once you indulge yourself in something and it is an escape, it becomes a routine. And routines become your main structure. And my routine was work. That's all I'd ever done. So I didn't know how to re. You know, go home and say, hey, kids. There was no smile. There was, you know, I've had a bad day. Get out of my way. Like, what are you doing? You know, you know what I do? Just. Just go get an iPad, go to your room. And. Yeah, so I fast forward a little bit in Canberra, and I had a fall in the back of my van. At work one day and smacked my head. And I ended up going to doctors. They suggested a full body mri, just see what's going on. And that's when they found a mass in my frontal lobe. And I think the scariest thing that's ever happened to me in my life, the worst thing is by my father would be that meeting with the specialist saying that there's a mass on, you know, on your head. I listened to Paul's podcast, and I can't imagine the feeling that he would have gotten in that meeting as well. Your whole world crumbles. It's just no mass on the brain. All you think about is cancer. So, yeah, that. That happened. And then we started, you know, obviously investigating a lot more, and then they had to find out if it was cancer. So they went in and had a. Had a biopsy done and said it was cancer, which is scary, you know, Is that a mass on the. On the frontal lobe? That's okay. But as soon as cancer comes in, it's all you think about is death. And at the time, I didn't tell anyone. I didn't tell Kathy, didn't tell my kids. No one knew. I wanted to investigate more. I wanted to find out if it was actually true. So I kept having scans. And with frontal lobe tumor, it affects your motor skills, it affects your speech, it affects everything, your mood, just absolutely everything. So with the rapid increase of treatment affecting it, it's really inflamed. I was a horrible person, to say the least. To say the least. Yeah. While. While I was going through that, my wife thought I was cheating on her, which was horrible. So she decided to look elsewhere, and she. She had an affair in the time. But she. She didn't know what was happening. So, you know, when I look back on that and when she told me, I feel like I was. I can see it now. It wasn't present. She was searching for someone to talk to and to feel something with other than a statue or a robot, you know, which was horrible. So when she told me that, I. I think it took me a little bit to process that, but she just said, like, you know, I don't. I don't love you anymore. And that was fun, but I was angry. I just blew my lid. And then I said, kath, I've got cancer. The doctor's given me under a year to live. And I. I don't really remember the conversation that we had. I don't think there was one. I think she walked away and processed that for maybe a few days. And then, yeah, we just decided to have a bit of a talk and we just told her everything. Told her everything that's happened. Here's all of the paperwork, you know, it says it there. That's what I have. She researched it and she just broke down. She saw terminal, the amount of time that I had left and she felt horrible for, for what she did, but she thought she was losing me in a different way. Which I think in the long run was fair enough and you know, not the best circumstances, but definitely I can't say anything, you know, I couldn't have changed the fact. But that was hard. It was hard to tell Kathy. I think the second, second hardest thing was telling my children I had to get my mother down because I could not tell them without my mum being there. And it was a winter's night and it's pretty freezing in Canberra. We're all on the couch and I was just in tears. And so when I told my kids, they just said, you know, got something to tell you. And we said this may be my last Christmas. And. And you know, obviously they asked why and yeah, then you sort of got to tell them and that was definitely hard. It just taught me out that I didn't really know my kids and I didn't have that, didn't have that engagement to just tell them what was happening. They could slowly see. They would ask me every day, you know, for, for a good month, you know. Yeah, right, dog. We're buying new shirts and things because I lose a lot of weight. So yeah, major impact on the kids lives as well. So, you know, education is pretty, pretty big in our family and I could see afterwards my kids didn't want to go to school, they couldn't concentrate, nothing. So that made me feel worse that I was just having a massive impact on them, which is horrible. And I just became self involved. So when you're on, I'm thankful that I got to do my treatment at home. So tomolazide is a oral chemotherapy. But while you have chemotherapy and radiation, your bodily fluids are toxic, so you sweat everything. Um, so I was in my own room alone, told that I was dying. My wife didn't really want to be with me anymore. She was with me because I was dying. That's what I felt like. My kids couldn't be around me. They couldn't really embrace me because I was sweating all the time. I was always angry at them. I felt like, you know, why aren't you spending time with me? And I still treated them the same. I didn't know how to engage. I stuck to myself in my room and I. I would wake up some mornings and I would look in the mirror and I could literally see myself, you know, dying. I had sunken eyes. I. You can see all my, you know, jawbone, just everything. Like it was horrible. And I was an overweight kid. I was 110 kilos in year six. Like I was a fat kid after my dad died. Stopped all my athletics and just TV and eating, that was my life, you know. But I was incredibly fit due to work. I was like 80 kilos. So I was. I was pretty fit. I weigh 52 kilos at the moment, which is a massive thing for me. I just was losing weight, losing my hair. Was obviously bald due to treatment. So, yeah, didn't treat kids any better at all. But just before we left Canberra, I met a meta barber who also had cancer and he told us to come in and Kathy had actually organized me to come in and. And Kathy and the kids had already got the head shaved. Yeah. So that was just one of those things. It was. They care. And I think that was a defining moment for me was like, after everything I've done, I told them I'm not going to be here. I still treat them the same. My daughter has, you know, long, long hair and for her that was huge. She sharp shaved up her head and put a big star on the side of it. So, you know, urban star. Yeah, it was pretty awesome. My wife, you know, she got like a nice little undercarle with a pattern on the back. It was just. It was just a special moment. So, yeah, sort of after that we decided we have to sell everything and sort of move. Move back to Queensland to my mum, to family. You know, my wife's family is. Is up on the sunny, sunny coast as well. So, yeah, we decided to move back and moved into mum's house. She was in disability support at the time, so she sort of took me on and my mother caring for me was a horrible experience. Felt like a child again. Losing all dignity was definitely hard. It enraged me even more and I just fell into a hole. You know, I went from one room in Canberra to another room in Queensland and it made no difference for me. Made no difference. I was just alone. There was just times that I would just tell Kathy that I don't want to do this anymore. I'm over it, I'm done. And, you know, I told her I sacrificed absolutely everything for everyone and no one treating me any better. Kids don't want to spend time with Me, she just said, you, you're. You're the difference in that. She said, you're angry all the time. So you call them, you know, call them names. You just aggressive. You spend no time with them, you know, do you remember your daughter's birthday? You know, it was just things like that. And sat down and thought about it and I said, no, I don't know who my children are. I don't know who my wife is. What have I done with my life? And that absolutely destroyed me. I think I just laid in bed and I was just scrolling and scrolling and scrolling, just doom scrolling, just trying to get away, escape. And then one of your the things came up on, I think it was Facebook or Instagram, and it said, you know, don't be laying on your deathbed with regrets. That's where I was. I was on my deathbed with a huge pile of regrets in my life. You know, what's this guy talking about? So I listened to a couple podcasts and I just hit connect. I think on the thing straight away, I think I listened to Britt Cowley and I was like, I gotta do something. And I just clicked that connect and, you know, I think within an hour or two said something would be in touch. It's just like, what's this? You know, someone's trying to sell me something. You know, I've dealt with this my whole life. I'm over it. I wasn't searching. I was. I guess I was searching for a quick fix to fix everything in my life because I thought I had such a short time. Yeah, I got a call from. I think it was Adam, Daniel, I think. But yeah, I sort of told them my story and these two were just sort of smiling on the other end of the call, you know, a zoom call. And I was like, while they keep smiling, I'm bawling my eyes out here. I'm a piece of shit with nothing to live for. And these two are smiling at me like. And then one of them said, like, you're awesome. Like, you know, you've got this. We can see the potential. Like, this is. This is the place for you to be. And I guess at that stage I needed something. I definitely needed something in my life to change. And that change was me. Everything my wife had said, everything in my life, I could bring back to me. It was my decision because I had done this for the family. My wife had no say. She came along for the ride. I didn't give her a say, I didn't give her a voice. So she Never spoke to me. My kids didn't speak to me because dad might just yell at me like, you know, probably say no. And that was me, the no dad. It was, you know, it was grumpy old man. It was just horrible. So, yeah, I, I got off the phone and I told Kathy, this is what I'm going to do. That's what I'm going to do. So, You know. Yeah, joining. Join up to sign up to hpf. And that's sort of when it all started. Yes. You know, it was just engagement. I was put into this tribe and the moment I was in there, I was just welcomed. I've never felt that before. Like I had my father. I didn't know what a man was. Didn't know what a man was supposed to do. Like I said, I was doing the right thing by providing. That's what a man's supposed to do. No, it's part of my religion. It's what I'm supposed to do. Society tells us to do. You know, that's what I did. And I was great at it. But now I had nothing. And what was I going to do? Because I couldn't leave my kids anything other than money. That's not memories. That's. I'll make my own memories. There's no memories of dad in money, in zeros and ones, there's no memories. You know, I was just driven by unconscious need, unconscious needs to sort of validate my existence, sacrifice everything. Playfulness, joyfulness. And that's what I'd lost. I'd lost that childlike inability to do anything, find joy in anything. But, you know, while I had treatment, all my rights got taken off me. Financial rights. People control my money, people control my medical, people controlled my, my appointments, my life. And I, I just didn't want to do it, didn't want to do it at all. This is, you know, initially while I was joining up to HPF and there were still struggles going through, going through it all. I was still losing touch of everything. I was trying to engage in the trial, trying to tribe, and something just hit me sort of a couple months in. I just looked at my kids and I've been told that I'm going to die. I said, I'm sick of looking at these men, get these wins every day and the engagement they have with their kids. Like, that's the father that I had and that's the father that my kids will never have or never get to experience the love of a father. And that hit me like a ton of bricks. It Was if I do not go all in, in this course, this, this environment, this community, I. I cannot do that. These kids, they're going to have zero memories of their father. And for me, that just killed me. And I decided just the next day to get up and just start doing the right thing. I started engaging myself more. I started sharing a lot more. I was doing a lot of the courses of the relationships. So the mindset one for me, getting my mind right and clear and being able to slow down and think clearly. And the end vision that I want is to live. The end vision that I want is my kids to be like my dad was my hero, you know, or my wife to love me again. And that's what I wanted. And that's why I joined hpf. And it has made such a massive difference in my life. I can honestly say that, you know, everyone sort of says it on here. We hear it a lot that HPF saved my life. And it's a big thing. You know, if you didn't go through your things, Al, we wouldn't be sitting here. It's these hardships that we go through that really define us as a person. And it really discourages me. Like you said, opening. You know, people just forget how precious their life is and they're just going to piss it up the wall. They forget that they're incredibly lucky. You know, like with the guy with anorexia that you said, people don't think to slow down and think about other people. I think that's what I lost. I was only thinking about myself. So, yeah, it's all the engagements that I've had. I'm spending quality time with my. With my kids again. We go camping quite a lot. Not feeling okay. I am fully engaged with my kids now. Talk to them a lot of the times. Nothing really gets me down. I can slow down and think about it. When the kids come with problems, I can still get stern with them, but it's not that explosive aggressiveness out of nowhere. It doesn't, you know, send them into that fear thing. So my relationship with Kathy has, you know, come a hundredfold. We're still not there, but we're. We're really good. We're talking, we're engaging. We debrief sort of every Friday, which is thing for us. Just talking, talking about our week. We've got no time through the week or things are happening. You'll spend that hour or two hours just telling them what's going on. And I think that's a major thing that's made Me calm down a lot, too, is being able to. I know that that person's going to be there and we can talk. I can talk to my son who's going through puberty, which is a huge change for him. He's turning into a man. And, you know, he's like, I got a mustache now, so, you know, it's like he's talking about his first razor. These are things that. That I wanted to do as a kid. You know, that's what I did with. With my dad, and this is all I want, and I forgot how to do that. And HPF has brought the joy back into my life because I don't work anymore. I don't do anything. So I have to engage myself and keep my mind busy and clear so I don't fall into that hole. So, yeah, my kids just see, you know, fun dad name, you know, get up in the morning, jump around, do whatever, play some music. It's. It's an environment that kids should be in. You know, it's a safe environment that we love and support each other. James not being my. My son, biologically, you know, he's wanting to. To change his name to my last name, which is incredible. Like, when he said that, like, I broke down, I didn't think that would ever happen. So, yeah, we've just had some absolutely amazing wins over the time of HPF just getting mind right and our family dynamic has changed so much. There's just. Hasn't. There's been, you know, there's obviously your times of stress and normal societal things, but other than that, it's. It's cruising. And I think that's what we've done. We've just slowed down. And, you know, if you ever got time, like, if you ever thinking bad, like, oh, I know, like, my life's so hard, honestly, walk through the children's ward in a hospital, like, you got no idea how good your life is. Just like that anorexic fellow. You got no idea. Know, I look at my coach Ed's arms and I'm like, mate, that's ridiculous. I could never be that big. And then I see that kid you spoke about, and he's like, he's got that vision. He's got that clear vision. That's what he's doing. He's getting after it. And that's what HPF teaches you. It's that 1% of getting up, getting after it. Because if you don't, this is what you're going to lose. Like, if I don't get up Every day and do my ice bath, like, and stick to my routines. That's me done. You know, I feel like it's going to be so detrimental if I don't stick to my routines. My tube is going to grow. Like. I am diagnosed in what, September 2022, and it's now 2024. They told me I had nine months to live under a year, and then it resolved. You might live another six, seven months. And then now it's like your tumor's reducing, Adam. Oh, it's, you know, this month it hasn't reduced, but it's stable. Next month it's reduced. Next month it's stable, and then it's still stable. Last one was stable. So now, after doing all this and not sinking myself into the hole, I'm seeing being able to see a neurosurgeon now because they think they could take the whole tumor out, which would be absolutely incredible. I may have to learn new things. So some people have to learn to walk, learn to talk again. But for me to still be here would be amazing. And I was talking to my coach, Coach Ed, shout out to Coach Head. And, you know, I just said, if I do go, my kids will have these beautiful memories that we've engaged in, and they're going to be able to listen to this podcast, hear my voice. I've made videos for them, and I have funny videos for their birthdays that I've actually had to delete because I've been here. I made videos for. For Christmases and. Which is a good thing I've had to delete. You know, my son's 14th birthday, I didn't have to send. He didn't have to watch a video of me, you know, saying Happy Birthday. I was there in person. And these are all huge wings like those. Those. To me, that's. That's life. That's. That's why I'm here. I'm. I'm not here to provide the financial things. Like, it's just once you flip it around and you. And you think about life and what it really should be. For me, it is just compassion and love and understanding. That's. That's what I try to be now. I try to be a solid father. I'm still learning every single day. As I said, I didn't have a father, but every man on the inside has been a father figure for me. Like, I'm 33. There's some guys there with, you know, their kids nearly my age, and they're just, like, saying that I'm an Inspiration for them. But sometimes it's hard to see that when they've guided me through everything, you know, they've really been, you know, it's high performance. Father. They've all been my fathers, you know. You know, in a way which is incredibly special to me. And yeah, it's, it's just been an amazing, amazing journey through, through hpf. And yeah, people just got to think how beautiful their life is. You can take a breath in the morning, you know, that's, that's amazing. That's beautiful. So I think once you slow down and think about things a lot more clearer, it's this vision that you have, it's manifestation. I think it just keeps adapting, it keeps driving. You're like, okay, well I've hurdled that one. Let's hurdle three. You know, it's like you're a kid again. You try to jump two steps, no monkey bars. It's just that. Try to overachieve. Yeah, I'm just taking it slow. Taking it slow, man. And I'll be here forever. That's my goal. I'll be here until I'm 75, 85. But yeah, I'm going to watch, you know, my kids grow up, I'm going to watch my daughter get married and you know, it's my goals.

So.

And that's what I live for. So, yeah.

Aidan, I'll be blunt. I truly believe that this is the first podcast of many that we'll do. And I think we'll probably do annual podcasts, mate, because your story is extremely unique and special and if I can keep you accountable to that, then you will live on and live long. And I spoke to Aidan about this off air about. It's very interesting. Bruce Lipton, the biology of belief and props to you, man. You know, I'm very, I'm very glad that I never stepped in and just allowed you that full platform and I believe there'll be more and maybe this will be a unique episode where I sign off with a little solo on the back of it. But it's just been an incredible. Some of those things you shared, man. An incredible share. So this is episode one of many, I believe. And in wrapping up. Thank you so much for that, mate. Because like I said, I think wrapping up on your side, mate, and I'll dive in and do a little piece to add to this upon reflecting because I think I owe you that as well, that respect for me to actually pull back a little bit and go internal and then come back with maybe a little 10 minute piece from what you've shared, what I've written down, I'd love to throw it to you on your end to give some advice. There's fathers listening to this who aren't inside hpf. They don't quite understand. And this isn't, hey, just fucking join hpf. And it never is, it's give. These men in your position, you have a unique gift now that life has, well, weirdly enough positioned or provided or moved you into where your word is a word that I can't even give. So I'd love for you to give your advice to a man who's got his fucking head in the sand. He knows deep down intuitively that he needs to pull it out and look up and really assess what matters most in life. Things like joy. Things like what you've just spent the last fucking 40 minutes talking about. Amazing. What's your advice? Man to guys who don't quite get it, they don't quite understand. And this will be valuable for men inside HPF too, make no mistake. But final thoughts and advice, mate. For men listening to this life, legacy and your journey so far. Final thoughts, yeah.

So final thoughts. I've been there. I. For a nine year old to find their father hanging from pergola does something to. I don't want any man to ever feel like that is the answer. Like, you have to understand that you're enough and there is someone there that loves you. You've probably got many people that you don't even realize, but there is someone there that wants you there. And you're here for a purpose. You've already fought, you know, you're a sperm that fought against how many other ones? You know you've already won and you're gonna throw that away. You've got such a beautiful life to live. You don't even know what you. You're gonna achieve. Al thought he was going to be the greatest footballer alive. Now, sitting here talking with a cancer patient, you know, it's. You don't know. You don't know what you're going to achieve until you start one foot in front of the other. And that's all it is. Lift your head just a little bit higher and you'll see the beauty in everything. Because there is. You're. If you're a father, listen to your child's laugh. Just listen to it when they're playing, using their imagination. Why they do that? That's funny, you know, that's beautiful that they have that you've provided that. Never forget that there's Someone there that, that really wants you here and that you are enough.

Thank you, bro. Lift your L a little. Lift your head a little higher and you'll see the beauty because there is amazing, man. Thank you for sharing your story, bro.

No problem, no problem. Thanks for giving me the platform and, you know, gift hpf for giving me. I give back in every way, 100%. Yeah.

You're a champion, mate. True inspiration. Appreciate it, men. I well and truly hope that you really drew some inspirational stuff out of Aidan's story and sharing. And in a first time ever, when it comes to me having guests on podcasts, I'm doing a tail end solo to really show respect and reinforce whilst also at the same time giving Aidan the platform to basically speak for the entire podcast to share his position. Because I think it's very valid and worth it. Here's a man with quote unquote terminal cancer told he's going to fucking die within nine months, still joins hpf, still invests in himself, and yet here he is signing for season two and living beyond and continues to kick that can down the road, which is not a bad one to kick if you're going to kick any cans. To live a long and full and rich life as much as possible, as long as possible, with those around you that you love and care about as much as possible for as long as possible. So I wanted to give Aiden that platform, but also I really wanted to reiterate how valuable life really is, because it really is. You know, we did a session, we did an event in Manly, Sydney. A week just passed and we're all there taking a knee, doing a mindset talk together and picking up a bunch of sand and watching it just trickle out of the sides, pouring through the fingertips. And that's what your life really is, just a fucking bunch of sand. Like you go to a tombstone, right? Go to the graves. And I've done this before. I've taken my children to the cemetery and why are we here, Daddy? What are we doing here? Look around. You see all those things? You see all those things sticking up the bits of concrete and the plaques? And we stayed in the car. We didn't need to get out. My children are very young, so I was very careful of my approach, but it was like, yeah, what are all they? Well, this is where people who aren't here anymore and obviously explained it, which a lot of times, men, we try and complicate things through fancy fucking words. And take it from me, a man who articulates himself very well whilst it's valuable. A lot of the times the answer lies in the explanation and perception that a kindergartener would understand. Long and the short of it is this. When I was talking to my children about, I said, do you see those numbers there? You know, a bit hard. I know we're in the car, but what's on these things, these tombstones and plaques and numbers. And the first number is when that person was born. And the second number was when that person passed away, when that person is no longer here. I don't know if you kids can see that, but there's a little dash. There's a little dash in between that little dash. It's called a hyphen that represents everything, everything that they did in their life. That little dash. Men, you all have a little dash. And you'll have a second set of numbers one day. Not yet, because you're listening to this, you're alive. But one day you'll have a second set of numbers on the other side of that dash. That little dash is fucking everything, man. That's your entire life. Your entire life. Now, I know a lot of you. Like, we've had over half a million downloads. It's very, very popular podcast. And I know a lot of you aren't, quote, unquote, inside the inner circle in the Trojan. That doesn't matter. Fucking credit to you men for diving in, investing in yourself, taking the time and energy to listen to these podcasts. And it's great. It really is. So when I make very hard and aggressive moves on perspective, it's not against you or the members or me, or men who don't even listen to this, or men who just keep fucking losing and they don't step up and live the life they should be, could be, would be, if they did something about the situation. But I'll tell you right now, for all of us, me members, non members, if you can't take inspiration out of Aidan's story to work on all the great things you can do in that little dash between when you were born and when you die, if you can't take today's session and really be inspired to get the fuck up and win, man, and win for yourself, win for your family, win for the future experiences you can have, you can create. You're in a state of creation. You have that power in your life.

Then.

You'Ve got a very fucking disgusting mindset that you need to fix. Like, it's fucking disgusting. If you can't draw inspiration from Aiden's story, here's a man who's told he's going to die. And Aiden wasn't a good man. And he knows that, like fuck, man, like what he was sharing and what he was telling me off, off air, that that's not a good father, that's not a good husband, that's not a good businessman. Money or not, I don't give a fuck. We've got men on the inside here worth $200 million. It doesn't matter. High flyers, what about family, self and service? All three hit that sweet spot in the middle. That's the game, you know, like, you need to get your fucking head red. If you can't look at today's story and go, wow. And have that inspire you to change fate, I can't help you. No one can. Now I'm not saying that in a state of judgment. I'm not saying that as a, as a, as a, as a push or reverse psychology and sort of stuff. What I'm doing, I'm not saying that to promote the assumption that's how you guys are as well. Like surely all of you are like, wow, you must be, you fucking must be, man, otherwise you wouldn't be on this podcast anyway. Well, what I'm saying is, and what I'm reiterating is the non negotiable. Like don't ever get that complacent. Don't ever let yourself drift to 99% of the population that is living in a state that's fucking disgusting. Because they don't understand the value of life and death and how it's on your doorstep every fucking day and that motherfucker can come for you and you're done. But then there's also so much new life to create and that's all I'm doing here. I'm painting that perspective. Beautiful memories. Newborns or not, 5 year olds, 10 year olds, 20 year old, your children are now adults. Like there is so much opportunity to live life. Like Aiden said, lift your head just a little bit higher and you'll see the beauty in life. Because there is. That really hit home with me. That was like, wow. And it's not that I don't, it's just that we all need that reminder. We all do. The kid he was talking about as well. So I was at the gym working out and there's a little 13 year old kid. I found out he was 13 because he told me. But yeah, he was a kid in his school uniform, extremely fucking skinny. Like, yeah, you know, unhealthily skinny. And he's there training and I'M there on the pec deck and he's there on the rows next to me and he sort of glanced over and you know, I'm obviously in great shape and in back end of a workout and pumped up, said, hey, champion, how are you, mate?

You well?

Yeah, good, awesome. Good man. Pumping iron, lifting weights. Good to see. Yep, awesome. How long you been training for, mate? Just this week.

Wow.

Good on you, man. Good on you. And how old are you, mate, if you don't mind me asking? You know what, I've been training for 26 years now and I started at your age as well. And good on you, mate. And you know what? Like you, as long as you never stop, I promise you, mate, you'll win. And he went on to talk about how he gets bullied at school for being a skinny kid and having anorexia and both his parents fucking died when he was a child. Like a little child. He lives with his grandma and it's like, holy fuck, man. Like, here's this kid next to me, minding his own business, pumping some weights, getting into the gym. He's only just started. And what a fucking start to life. Both your parents dead, living with your grandmother, anorexic, skinny, bullied and picked on at school. Like we all have so much fucking, like there's just so much mess in life and we all have problems and challenges, but we all fall into this trap of either in an assumptive way, that's even a word, assuming, or just saying, hey, you know, I've got it tough today. And your world gets so narrowed in. There's such a magnifying glass on your world and there should be, obviously. We're all self centered. It's your life, it's your world, you know, we're all self centered. No one's not self centered. Even those who sacrifice for others. That's because of a self centered nature of a future reward and how you're seen because you sacrifice and providing for others. That's common Italian culture, but most people, most people, it's not. I mean, I love, I love the heritage, but I'm just saying it's the whole give, give, sacrifice for the family stuff. You guys would already know that unless this is the first podcast you're listening to now, you know, but it's like, man, like I've had some rough stuff, man, like I've, you know, growing up next door to Mount Jordan. Just a brutal. Coupled with love, coupled with all sorts of messages. But here's this kid, like both parents dead, like What? One of our members, one of our founding members, actually. Pete Dunlop. He's the fifth man to ever join hpf. He's still with us. And he lost both his parents when he was a teenager. Went all around India, traveling around the world in exploration, discovery, adventuring. And Pete's such a legend. And had kids later in life as well. Had kids in his late 40s. I think he was 49, or maybe mid-40s.

But.

Who'S there to tell him and teach him how to be a father, what to look for in a woman, how to value women. Like, how to value being a father, being a man, being a husband. He's this little kid. I said, mate, good on you, man. You know what? When I started, I was a fat, overweight, obese boy. I was about 114 kilos and 12, 13 years of age, and started weights when I was 13, just like you, you know? And I didn't tell him everything. Obviously, we're in the middle of the gym, just working out, but I said, you know, and I went on to play professional sport. And I'm very blessed and grateful for the body I have now. And that's the game, mate. Never give up, and I promise you'll win. And it was just. You could see his eyes light right up and all that sort of stuff. It was awesome. And what's your name? Tyler. Cool, mate. Alex, mate. Great to meet you, mate. And shook hands. Keep it up. Great work. Maybe I'll see you around. And that's. That's what people don't realize. Not to take this away from Aidan's story, but men, you have no fucking idea the ripple effect and impact you can have. Like, we've had people listen to Rencini's podcast who may or may not. Some have, obviously, some haven't sign up with hpf, but nonetheless, get in touch and be like, hey, man, I was there and that podcast saved me. I was fucking done. I was ready to leave the world. Like, that's crazy, man. That's insane. And Ren's just one example, you know, Naz is another example. JK all in on fatherhood. Like, all of them, all of the men who've been on these sessions, Stewie, you know, like, obviously a lot of our later ones and a lot of our original ones, it's just incredible, man. That's the ripple effect. What I love about what Aidan was sharing is HPF helped bring back the joy. He's in great fucking shape. He's looking good, too. I don't know if you guys saw the video, it was a tough session, man. Like he was welling up several times, whether you heard it in his voice or not. Composed himself very well. And I want to take this moment, Aiden, because I know you'll listen to this as well, to say, I'm fucking proud of you, man. I'm proud of you for stepping the fuck up because you sounded like a horrible father. And man, and look at you now. And you know what, mate? It doesn't matter that people have guilt or shame and feel like they need fucking to be knocking on death's door to wake up. Don't feel bad about that, bro, because guess what? Most of the fucking men out there are already dead. They just haven't been buried yet. And that's fucking sad. You're not even there anymore, mate. You're already through. You're already. Aiden 2.0. We gotta keep working, mate. We gotta get to Aidan 3.0 and 4.0 and, and do a podcast every fucking year. Because you will be here every year and you make that fucking happen. And that's the value and the power for all you men. You don't need to have terminal cancer and illness. This is for the men who obviously don't want to be like the majority of everyone else who's. Or just fucking fall into shit. And they're never going to do anything with their life. And that's fine. That's not me. If you looked at me and said, hey, Al, you're an average, basic, ordinary standard man, I'd be fucking disgusted. Because my standards of exhausting and living a rich and full life, regardless of how much sand I've got left, is front and center, man. That is my life. The journey is the destination, the type of journey is the destination. And most people won't ever get it. And that's okay. You're not most people. Those of you listening to this, you're not fucking most people. So take it on board when I say this, that you can die at any moment. You can die any day. You don't need terminal cancer. And Aiden, you don't need to feel bad that it took fucking terminal cancer for you to pull your head in, step up and fucking grow. Because you are killing it, man. Because despite the perspective of us as men going, hey, I can die one day, let's do something about it. It's at the forefront every fucking day. And a real experience through therapies, treatments and, and the acknowledgment of the current facts as they exist in Aiden's life. That's crazy shit. And look at him stepping up, moving forward, getting it done, focusing on his routines and the tumor and the growth shrinks and stabilizes when he adheres to his treatments, his protocols, his breath work, his ice bar, all things. And this is where I said again, and I'm not here to rebuttal medical science or to, to downplay or downgrade or say hey, just think and grow rich or any of those other fucking law of attraction books and all that sort of shit. Like that's not. No, I'm not here to say that. But that is a very powerful book. The Biology of Belief by Bruce Lipton. And you hear these stories of people who do find a way curing themselves of cancer, the power of thought, the power of conscious creation. And maybe it's a bit of luck, maybe it's a bit of everything. It's absolutely your environment. But the biggest thing, men, regardless of how much time you have left, is bringing the joy back to your life. And you don't always have to have fun, but you can provide it. You don't always have to be happy, but you can live with purpose. But one thing that I think and truly believe we should all be seeking in some capacity is joy. It's really important. Shannon Brenton, one of my mentors, best friends and one of the experts inside HPF, he's consulted probably nearly 100,000 people now. It's fucking ridiculous. He talks about this seeking joy in your life. Now I truly believe that it can go like I'm holding my fingers together, like they're crossed over, like I've got my hands held together in a fist. They go hand in hand where the fingers are interlinking of joy and purpose to fucking protect and provide. To be the man that steps up, to be the man that leads, to be the man that despite the conditions, he fucking gets shit done and he wins. And you can have both of those together. Maybe not at the same time. I gotta eat shit every single day, man. Like work is hard. Helping middle aged men is tough. This comes with baggage building, growing, the projects, the events, the retreats. There's so much work. Like, you know, like we enjoy what you see in the highlights reels and the videos is the cream on top. The celebrations after the work's done. And then guess what, we get the fuck back to work and we go again. You can have both coexisting and I think that's really important. Like Aiden could have gone the other way and just gone, oh well, I'm just. Whatever money I'M fucking got. I'm just going to be a gluttonous creature and what is it called? Hedonistic lifestyle. Just seeking pleasure everywhere. It's like, yeah, fuck, good luck with that. And that's the funniest thing. It's just come to me then. That's what I love about this space. You learn all the time. As good as I am, with my range and perspective and accuracy and speed. I'm thinking about this now, but I don't think. I don't think it's untrue. You can't have pleasure and purpose at the same time. Food for thought. Food for thought. I'm going to sit on that for a little bit, but that just came to me then. Can you have pleasure and purpose? You can have them in the same day, but can you have it at the exact same time? I don't think you can because I think with purpose comes. The reason why something is purposeful is the grit. The reason why a six pack is valuable is because it's fucking hard to get. The reason why relationships are valuable. Things that do or don't cost money is because they're hard to get. Can you have purpose and pleasure at the same time? And then some would say, well, yeah, there is pleasure in the purpose because, you know, you're growing and you're building. Well, I don't think so. Like, there is, but I don't think that's something you're experiencing in the moment, like in the gym. Like, I enjoy and love the reward that comes with my ass hanging out and fucking dying while I'm lifting my final reps. And there's a purpose to it, but I'm not sitting there in a relaxed state with a lowered heart rate going, oh, this is so pleasureful. Food for thought. Anyway, told he's got nine months left, then six months left. Tumors shrinking, potentially. Can cut it out. Like making videos for your children and then deleting that. That was fucking insane like that. I don't know about you guys, but that really hit me. It really did. So credit to you, Aidan. And I just want to finish on this note, man. Like, I, I know that there's life coaching and there's. There's fucking walking on hot coals and super soakers and techno music and all fluff and emotion and blah, blah. I get that. The only reason why I use emotions is as a tool of leverage for you to cast out hooks into the future so you can get up, take logical, factual actions and create and engineer and design a different Future that moves you and your family to greener pastures. Like, there are so many people who've done lots of other programs, lots of other things. So many things are riding our coattails and there's different fucking people in all different areas and overseas and keep it in our own fucking backyard. Like, fuck that. Why the fuck would you go overseas?

Right?

We're in Australia here for men fathers in Australia working. And yes, we do have some listeners in Europe and us and we've got some of those guys who've reached out to us and they've come on board. Fucking great. Good for you. It's awesome. However, it's like, yeah, man, like here we are. We're here to leverage your emotions to get you to move forward in your life. Not all the other life coaching and coaching programs and they're all smoke and mirrors and they, they really manipulate your emotions and play on the heartstrings and then pull you in and all of a sudden it's like, oh, yeah, this program was amazing. How, what made you feel better? No, no, what are the facts? What are the actual runs on the board again? Like I said, I'm all for feelings and emotions and not being robots, robotic killers, as we would be with men, as men, if we didn't tap into that element of us. And we've got a larger portion of the emotional part of the brain than women anyway, 20% larger. That's why rage, murder, suicide, all of them are much higher. So it's not that it doesn't exist in us as men. It's just like a big swivel bridge. When it swings, it swings hard. But how can we regulate that as much as possible and then leverage, leverage it as a tool. Because I'll tell you this, man, when you take actions and fucking hook in and get a better set of facts, one, your confidence goes through the roof. That's not a feeling. That's a track record that says, hey, I'm a winner. I'm the fucking man. Look at me go. 2. It's transferable because your confidence in you having a phenomenal body and being in great shape means you're a man with discipline, in control, with structure, who looks after himself. You're 100 to give 100. Guess what that does. Transfer to your business or place of work. We help men who aren't even in business make more fucking money because we square. The more I physically, mentally and emotionally create more stability of home. How can you not as well as obviously businessmen, fucking, you know, have that ability to remove themselves of the bottleneck. So it transfers, is my point. The confidence transfers. Your relationships are stable and healthy. That will help with your work and business. Your work and business is stable and healthy. Control, time management, work, life balance. That will help you with looking after your body and your family. But the third point is, when you get these facts in line, when you get these facts in place, the fucking feelings will look after themselves. Your feelings will look after themselves. That doesn't mean you're a robot until the epiphany happens. No, no. Again, like pleasure and purpose, they coexist. But what I'm saying is, if you define yourself by feelings alone, you're a fucking woman. Right? That's why men lead. Because women base their reality off the fleeting feelings and the moments, which means because of their emotional regulation coupled with quote, unquote, what it really is, emotional volatility, it makes them phenomenal mothers, because they can go up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down, up, down. With the children in nurturing format, with the chaos and lack of stability in how kids are. Because that's how kids are. They're growing and discovering the world, pushing boundaries. It also is a absolute train wreck for leadership. And following through with focus, foresight. And moving from a point A to point B doesn't mean women can't do it. But everything comes at a cost. So the lady bosses, the CEOs, the women go out there and they follow through on logical and factual pathways. They're applying more masculine energy. They've lost their feminine, and they're not women anymore, so to speak, if you know what I mean. Sorry. They're not expressing themselves as a true woman when they're expressing that level of energy, is my point. So that's why, because you're a fucking man, you need to lead. Your family needs you to lead. Your family wants you to lead. You must. You can die any day. Any fucking moment could be your moment. You don't need terminal cancer to understand this. But also, when you focus on the facts, the feelings will look after themselves as long as the set of facts are proper and sound, based off the environment and the right people to give you the direction, pathway, and accountability that you need. Otherwise, you're just running enthusiastically in the wrong direction. That's what I love about hpf, man. Like, our coaches work as both coaches and sheriffs, right? Part of it's coaching feedback loops. Questions. Two degrees left, right. Hey, traveling cool. Let's do this. Let's try that. And it's a journey of exploration. That's half of the element, the other half of the coach's role as a project manager is to be like, hey, I'm the fucking sheriff. Don't think you've got enough on your plate. Let me save you time and mental capacity. This is your game plan. Do this, this, this, and this. Don't think. Go fucking do it. Report back to me and show me that you did what you said you would do. The end. And that's awesome. Like, shout out to Ken Lavender, one of our experts. He does all my training programs for me. I'm an elite athlete, international rugby league, CrossFit. I know my shit. I'm very dialed in. I wrote thousands of programs. Why the fuck would I want to think about that when, A, Ken's already a master in the space, and B, through obviously the amazing relationship that we have, he can help me, just like I can help him. So it removes the mental stress load in thinking. So maybe I'm that for you sometimes. Men, as we wrap this up, maybe I'm the outsource for you to go, hey, you know what, Al? My perspective's a little bit fucking cooked because I'm busy with work, the kids are Mrs. Blah Blah. And if I can unlock and tap into and open up your mind, fucking amen, mate. That's awesome. Beautiful. Happy to be here. Happy to serve 240 podcast episodes if you've listened to enough of them. You know that I go pretty hard. Like, I don't finish a podcast. I finish a podcast. Not rejuvenated. I finish a podcast. What's the word? I'd say, like, very elevated. I'm like, fuck, yeah. Like, heightened. I finish podcast in a heightened state, then I'm fucking exhausted. Like, I put everything into a man. That's what we're here for. I fucking love this stuff. Like, it's not a facade. It's not. People say I'm very passionate, but I don't assign that to myself because passion, from what I've typically seen, is a wave of expression that comes and then goes, he's passionate about this. I'm like, I'm fucking passionate about life. That's just a standard. That doesn't mean I don't have downtime and relax. But, men, one shot. Don't waste your turn. So credit to you, Aidan. Huge respect to you, mate, and I'm glad that we've given you the platform. I'm looking forward to more podcasts with you, bro. And I hope you guys really enjoyed this session. Not only this last piece, but also Aiden's sharing And just to. Just the admiration for a man who could have gone either way and cried poor me. And become extremely bitter against the world, which he was. And I'm so blessed that HPF had the opportunity to help him open his eyes up to be a man that didn't remain that way and bitter and resentful. And to hear this man in. In the face of death itself. And yes, fantastic, it's shrinking, it's stable, that sort of stuff. But the reality is, something he's been going through for nearly two years now is, hey, there is an absolute, like you said, as soon as you hear that cancer word, for a man in that position to, in such a humbling way, fall on his fucking sword and take ownership. I think there's a lot to be said for all of us to take some valuable lessons on that, to remove the ego, the pride, fall in our swords, take ownership. I'm never here to judge you as a man. I say that and I'll say that till the day I die, because I'm not living your life. Never have, never will. I'll judge the fuck out of someone's actions. And we should, and you should, everyone should. Otherwise, it doesn't exist. Life doesn't exist. Trade, services, sport, anything, anything worth doing or measurable doesn't exist. So we're always here to judge actions. Absolutely. Not here to judge the man. So it's not a fault or blame thing, men, but it's absolutely your responsibility, regardless of the relationship with your wife, regardless of the relationship with your children, regardless of you're not making the money, you should be, could be, would be. There's so much fucking money out there in the world. You just need to improve your value in the marketplace. And how do you do that? Or what's the vehicle that's providing that in the marketplace? You improve yourself, who you are. And sometimes that is a psychological play. Your own confidence, self worth and self esteem because you got so many runs on the board that says, hey, look at me, I'm a winner. Of course I should get that job promotion, man. Look, it's so funny, and I haven't done this for a long time, obviously, because I've been in business for 12 years. But if I walked into a job interview, I'd be almost like, in a respectful way, flipping the script, going, help me understand why this is something that I should be pursuing and why I should be a fit for the company in my valuable time when I've got six other interviews lined up on people who are already trying to Headhunt me, help me understand this. How can you help me grow? How can my dreams and goals fit within yours? As an organization like that sort of posturing, two things will happen. You realize you've already outgrown those people because they will get offended, shocked, and recede and pull back or, wow, pretty fucking valuable. And attractive. That's extremely attractive. It's not a fake until you make it. It's not a facade. It's got to be who you are. Which is why falling on a sword, owning the past, taking responsibility for the now so you can own the future, doing that in a way that leads your family to greener pastures. Because you're the leader. You're the big dog. Because you've got it all. You can leverage emotions, you can leverage actions, you can leverage your fucking testosterone. And being a man, that's a high power output. You can leverage your ability to produce, which is why it's such a dichotomy or the irony of life. Two sides of the same coin. Where we don't have, quote unquote, intrinsic value as a woman, where it's health, beauty, status that gets you on a 100 million dollar yacht, right? As men, your value is defined by the marketplace. And that's a hard pill to swallow. Sometimes people love you for what you do, not who you are, but maybe who you are is what you do. So if you change what you do, you can keep changing who you are. What I said then is. Fuck, mate, that's. Play that again. Slow it down and write that down. That's the shit that flows through, man. That's so valuable, what I said just then, because it's a lesson for all of us. So when you build value in what you do, you're more valuable to others. And you take that the right way. Like my children don't love me because my name's fucking Alice Ranieri and I'm their father. They love me because of how I make them feel. They love me because of what I do for them, what I do with them. What's wrong with that? Like what? Shame in the entitlement of. You should just love me if I'm. That's the whole Left Woke bullshit, right? All bullshit. Love me for who I am and my body. No. If you're fucking 150 kilos and you're a fat fucking sloppy model, I don't give a fuck what you say. You're unhealthy and you're a poor example of standards and self respect in society. The fucking end, mate. The End So, man, don't let that fucking bullshit. I don't care how PC you need to be in your work or environment, fuck that shit in your own head, get rid of it. And know that your value is based inherently off what you do, the actions you take. Which means you have so much opportunity knocking on death's door or not. It's always there, it's always around the corner, so don't fucking waste it. Take care, men. Have an amazing day, night, weekend. When you listen to this and really slow down, just like I'll try and slow down how fast I speak. Really slow down though, and take some moments, you know what I would suggest? I'm not sure if you're out and about listening to this, but I would absolutely suggest maybe not the replay, but maybe just write a couple of things down just on a little post it note. Keep it with you, put it in your pocket, pull it out at times while you're going for a walk. The significance of life and how big and beautiful nature is in itself shows us how insignificant some of our thinking is at some point point, especially the problems, right? Get out in nature, go for a walk, write in a post it note, lift your head a little higher and you'll see the beauty in life. Because there is hearing that from a man who's dying, who isn't 85 years of age, who at the same time, because I say this respectfully, Aiden, he's fucking pushing hard to live and live every day and every year and extend that out to 75. It's fucking amazing. Don't undervalue what today's session has been. Take care, men. Look after yourselves, go for a walk, get out in nature, get some key takeaways and revelations and reflections from this. And then like all things, leverage it to take action and continue to engineer or start engineering the life you will and truly can have. And when you do that, the lives of your grandchildren, great grandchildren, great, great grandchildren, they will have and live the fucking life that they truly can as well. All because of you. Fuck yeah, the dads. Well, that wraps up another episode. And just as we wind this down, I want you to just reflect and think back through some of the golden nuggets, some of the revelations, some of the saw points, points, some of the things that might have hit home with you. And then just look at ways that you can apply a different set of actions to change your position, change your circumstances, change your feelings and change the facts. These episodes are done with your best interest at heart. And there's always something we can get from that. Maybe it's not the first time, maybe it's the second time. We've had members listen to episodes four or five times and then it finally clicks. But either way, I hope you got a lot of value out of this. And also if this is something that you really want to solidify inside of your life, repetition is the key. You've listened to it. Write down your revelations, think about them, read them, speak them, believe in the changes that you will carve out in the action plan of those revelations to create change in your life and then share that. And when you teach, you learn the second time, right? So teaching and showing this to others you love and care about is the greatest way that you can remember and make sure you consistently learn and relearn what is it's true and what is it is important to you in your heart. Take care, have an amazing day night weekday weekend and I'll see you for another one soon. Cheers.