Why You Haven't Achieved Your Dream Life (and how to fix it)

Hi, guys. Welcome back to my channel. If you're new here. Hi, my name is Shelly. In this video today, I really want to provide actionable tips that you can take away to help you get to where you want to be. Because there's a reason nothing is changing. Trust me, I've been there for so long. I was battling with thinking, I was doing everything, but nothing was actually working. So I want to actually provide actionable tips that if you go away and truly listen and implement today day, I guarantee you will have success. And the other day I was driving along and. And I say this purely for context. I was driving along and it dawned on me that I'd actually done it. I'd actually stuck to my word. It was a Tuesday afternoon. I was driving to pick my mum up to take her for a facial that I'd booked for us. I have trips planned over the next few months. I am living, you know, my dream life. I've moved to Dubai and I was like, I've actually done it, like, Shelly, what's going on? And I kind of had this, like, epiphany moment. But trust me when I say two years ago, I was pretty much at my rock bottom and I had a business that completely failed. I thought that business was my life and it just completely crashed and burned. I wasn't living in the best place. I wasn't living, like, the life that I wanted. I wasn't able to afford the things I wanted. I wasn't able to. I was working a job that I hated. I wasn't able to enjoy going to nice places with my friends. I was always thinking about how much things cost and could I afford it. I just wasn't living in my highest self. I was always thinking, overthinking instead of living from abundance, can I afford it? Not I can afford it, you know? And if you're watching this video and if you clicked on it, it's probably because you're looking for help, you're looking for the answers, because this would have aligned with where you're at. And I always think the right things find you when they're meant to find you. So, honestly, take this as a sign. If you're watching this now, it's because you're meant to hear it. And I was longing to find advice and to find guidance and to have that guide when I was in that place two years ago. So, really, I want to discuss a few actionable tips that you can take away to help you achieve what you actually want to achieve too. Because honestly, I can't believe I've done it. Like I can't believe I've stuck to my word and actually pulled it off because for years of trying, I never could. I know it feels like you're in this hamster wheel. Day by day, you're in a job you don't enjoy, paycheck to paycheck, etc. Trust me, I know. So, with that being said, my first, I guess, advice tip reason why you're probably not where you want to be and the probably not living your dream life is because you're waiting for that perfect time. For example, you may want to start your fitness regime, you may want to start your new fitness journey, and you may want to go for a run, but you're waiting for the perfect day. You're waiting for it to be not too hot, but not too cold out. It can't be raining, but it can't be windy. There can't be too many people on the streets because you feel embarrassed. You could be waiting days, weeks, months for that moment to find the perfect day to go for a run, where instead, if you just put on your trainers, went outside and just gave it all you've got, you'd feel so much more motivated, you'd feel so much more accomplished by just doing it. And honestly, the reason I bring this up is because I have people in my DMs weekly saying I'm going to get into high ticket sales next month. I'm going to do it. I'd love some advice. And honestly, you're already setting yourself up for failure by just saying you're going to do it next month. Because there's no perfect time. Next month turns into the month after. There's always going to be a wedding or an event or a holiday or an exam or something. There's always going to be something. And trust me, if you keep on making that excuse, you're not going to get to where you want to be. And it can sound harsh, but I'm telling you what you need to hear in order to break the cycle. It was exactly what I needed to hear to break the cycle. You can't do the same thing and expect a different result. So don't wait for the perfect moment. Trust me, if you just start now, you're going to feel so accomplished. You're going to feel light, you're going to feel free, you're going to feel happy that you finally taken this step and you finally done what you said you were going to do. And this leads me on to my second point. Which is make a plan and stick to it. I cannot tell you the correlation of my most successful women in my training program are the ones who come in, who make a plan with myself and they stick to it. They follow my blueprint even though it makes them feel uncomfortable, even though it's pushing themselves out their comfort zone. They are the ones who show up and who stick to to the plan. There can't be more said for sticking to the plan. Like that is the secret, guys. Sticking to the plan. If you want to come in and you want to pick and choose, I want to do A, but I don't want to do B. I want to do D, but I don't want to do E. Trust me, you're not going to be successful. It's going to. Or it's going to take you double the time and you're going to recircle back and realize that you should have just stuck to the plan in the first place. If you're watching this and you're constantly buying programs or seeking mentorship, but the problem is you, because you're not sticking to the plan, this is the time to take accountability and make a change. I completely get it. I was the first one to admit that if I was cooking muffins, I would not be following the recipe. If I was driving in the car, I would not be following this. That nav. I would never stick to the plan. I would never do what I was told. And when everything changed was when I just did what I was told by someone who knew more than me. Who. Someone with. With someone who actually did what I wanted. With someone who actually had achieved what I wanted to achieve. So if you're going to invest in training, if you're going to invest in a mentor, but you know you're not going to stick to the plan, then save your money. There's no point. If you're going to invest in training and you're going to invest in mentorship, then just listen, just follow the plan. Trust me, that is like my most important advice. Like if you can take anything away from this video, it will be to make a plan and stick to it. Next would be stop focusing on the end result and enjoy the journey. And as cliche as that sounds, it's so important. You don't need to explain what you're doing to others. You don't need to over explain your end destination. You don't need to prove yourself on social media, pretend you're someone that you're not just to fill your cup, just to fill that void. Start being the person. Don't pretend to be the person. Be the person. Trust me, I pretended to be the person and that had to go. I needed to stop pretending and start doing. And that's when I literally went ghost. Like, I didn't post on social media, I didn't go out with my friends. I didn't do all the things that gave me that dopamine rush. I actually did it. I actually just did the grind. And that's gonna take some mental resilience. It's gonna. It's going to mean that you have to actually be strict with yourself, but you can really create what you believe is possible. But you can't create your dream life if you don't actually believe it's possible. Or if you're telling a million people what you're doing and they're getting in your brain, giving you all these excuses, telling you why it's such a bad idea. For example, if you want to buy a program and start a new career and you're asking your friend who's never done it, should you do it or not? Stop asking people for advice that you don't want to be. Like, stop. Stop seeking validation from people that you don't know or even that you do know. Like, the closest people to you can sometimes not always help you in the way you need to be helped. Really look within. It's you and only you on this journey. And yes, having a mentor can massively help because they've truly been there, they've done it. They know what you've been through. Like, the girls in my program can come to me, and I know how they're feeling because I've walked the path. Even. Even if sometimes they may not think I know, I do know. Like, when I read their messages, I feel it in my heart, kind of their emotion from behind the screen. Because I've been there, I've done it. So if you're going to listen to anyone's advice, listen to the person who's where you want to be. But honestly, stop living through the validation, the gratification, and start working. Get to work. Lock in, start now, do what needs to be done. And I promise you, six months from now, if you implement these steps in this video today, you will be so much closer to your dream life than you ever realized possible. The reason I know this is because I've done it myself. And with that being said, if you are finally looking to take the step, no more excuses, no more putting things off, no more not sticking to the plan. If you actually want to see real results, then there's a link below. You can book a call and we can discuss how you can get into high ticket sales. But honestly, if you're going to book a call and then tell me you want to think about it and you want to start next month and you want to speak to your mum and your cat and your hamster, please don't. It's not worth it because already that mindset won't allow you to be successful. I want to work with women who are ready to do it, who have the conviction, who have the drive. They may feel a bit nervous. That's okay. That's what I'm here for. But you're genuinely ready to change your life. You're genuinely ready to do what needs to be done. If you feel that's you, then there's a link below. Book a call with me. You can speak with me directly and we can discuss your goals within sales to see if I can help you on this journey. Bye, guys.