In this video Aaron Doughty explains that people attract relationships based on who they are being in the present moment, not merely on their desires. He outlines three common blocks that prevent people from attracting a romantic partnership and offers concrete mindset shifts to overcome each. First, he argues that attachment to the outcome and a belief that one is incomplete without a partner creates resistance; he advises cultivating a feeling of wholeness and self‑love, treating the relationship with oneself as a prototype for the external one. Second, he notes that obsessing over the absence of a relationship keeps the focus on lack; he recommends redirecting attention to personal passions and releasing that resistance, which allows the desired relationship to emerge naturally. Third, he points out that blanket, gender‑based definitions (e.g., “all guys are douchebags”) color perception and limit possibilities; he suggests becoming aware of these limiting statements, questioning their validity, and adopting more expansive, individualized views. Throughout, Aaron emphasizes letting go of outcomes, feeling the desired state internally, and aligning one’s vibration with the relationship they wish to experience. The video concludes with a call to action to like, share, and subscribe.
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Welcome back to another video. My name is Aaron and I help people expand their consciousness. Now in this video, I'm going to be showing you 3 reasons you may not be attracting a relationship into your life and show you how to change those things or how to modify it in a way that actually gets you closer to the desire that you have. Now understand that of course under most of these videos I say this idea, we don't necessarily attract that which we want, but we always attract who we are being. So this video, these 3 things I'm going to share with you are ways to optimize who we're being in the present moment, which then increase the probabilities of us actually getting a reflection in our life of that new state of being and of who we are. Now, the first reason that you may not be attracting the relationship that you want could be because to begin with, you are attached to the outcome. Now, a lot of times when people even have the desire to be in a relationship, there could be the main desire being from getting away from the pain of being single, of getting away of the pain pain of not having someone there. So the first key is realizing that we are attracting who we're being, so we must first condition the feeling inside of us of feeling whole and complete. So this means that we need to start to view ourself in a new way. We need to realize that if we even desire somebody else, it's because Many times we desire the feeling that that person could bring us, but the paradox is that we must first feel the feeling of what it is to be in a relationship, and we must start with the relationship to ourself. Now, in order to do this, we need to start to view ourself in a new way. Instead of viewing ourselves as not whole and complete, because many times we're conditioned to believing that somebody else will fulfill the other half of us, we then automatically have a definition about ourselves that we aren't enough, that we need somebody else to feel that way. And because of that, that generates the feeling of us not feeling whole and complete if somebody else isn't there. Now realize you can look at yourself in a new way. You can start to view yourself as already whole and complete just by changing the definition that says that you are already enough. You can validate yourself and you don't really need somebody outside of yourself to make you feel a certain way. Start to be grateful for who you are. Start to view yourself in a new light. And then the paradox is that you're more likely to increase the probability of you meeting someone because you are conditioning the feeling inside of yourself. Also realize that people pick up on vibes, so if you are feeling not whole and complete, you're feeling resistance, then there's more likelihood that somebody else that you talk to, they're going to feel that resistance off of you and that's going to repel them. So condition yourself into feeling the love you have with yourself and you're more likely to increase the probability of somebody else feeling that love off of you and then resonating with it and feeling the same way that you feel about yourself, about you. So the second reason that you may not be attracting a relationship could be because you are more focused on the absence of it than you are it being here. Now you might say, how am I supposed to, uh, feel what it is to have the person here? Well, realize that the reflection that we get in our life is depending upon who we are being, and part of that has to do with our focus. So if we're constantly beating the drum of the person I want isn't here, the person I want isn't here, then what we keep doing is we keep literally imposing that upon our life experience. We keep on imposing that, and because of that, it keeps reflecting back to us that experience. So the second part to this is letting go of the attention that we have to the relationship not being here. And a lot of times to do this, all we simply have to do is focus on ourselves, is focus on doing what we're passionate about. And as we begin to do that, it's like then we put it on the back burner. And when we put being in a relationship on the back burner, we start to release the resistance. Releasing the resistance is what then allows us to be who we're meant to be. And as we're being who we're meant to be, we're more likely to actually attract the person that is meant to be with us. So let go of that. Start to realize that you are enough already. Start to realize that as you let go of that part, you then allow something else to come in. And the key to that is letting go to that resistance that you might feel. The third reason you might not be attracting a relationship may be because you have a definition or a blanket statement that is coloring your perception that is holding you back from it. Now let me explain this. Many times we might have a belief that all girls are this way, all guys are this way, guys only want this, guys don't want a relationship, or girls are just in it for this reason. Whatever the reason might be, those kind of blanket statements are coloring our perception and making it so then we only experience it through those lenses. So the way that we have to get through this is is by realizing that all— not all girls are the same, not all guys are the same. And by letting go of the attachment to believing that all guys are douchebags or all girls are, you know, this kind of way, we can start to let go of those definitions and realize that as we let go of those blanket statements, those definitions, we then allow ourselves— we open up our perception though so that we can actually experience more of what we want. So we need to become aware of what our definitions are. A lot of times it's in our vocabulary. So when you are talking to your friends, you might be, well, you know, guys are just this way, or girls are just that way. Anytime you catch yourself with those definitions, realize that you can then change it by letting go of it and realizing that it might just be from one reference experience, but it doesn't have to be something that is true in Every experience. These are 3 ways that you can simply let go of things that no longer serve you. There are 3 reasons that you can get to the core of, and as you do that, you start to make room for what you actually prefer. Realize that you just have to be the kind of person that you prefer to be, that as you start to do that, you'll let go of the outcome. Letting go of the outcome is one of the most powerful ways of actually getting the effect that you want. Start to feel the feeling of what it would be like to be in a relationship. Start with the relationship with yourself, and then from that point you will simply start to see more of a reflection of what you want in your life. So with that being said, I hope you guys enjoyed this video. Feel free to like this video if you liked it, share it if you found it of value, and as always, I will see you guys on the next vid. Peace, much love. Of Bella State. All right, bye.
