Aaron DoughtyAwareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, LLC · Spiritual Teacher and Educator

become MAGNETIC in love & life...

4 Sept 2025 · 1 min

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In this talk, the speaker explains how many people unintentionally block love by confusing it with a need for validation and approval, a pattern often rooted in conditional love experienced in childhood. When love was tied to meeting certain conditions, individuals learn to seek external approval—by being perfect, fixing problems, or taking on tension—instead of authentic love. This pursuit leads them to abandon their true selves, reinforcing the belief that love requires meeting external standards. The speaker advises recognizing this pattern and shifting toward self‑love and self‑acceptance, even embracing the very patterns that arise. By choosing to embody love internally, one can attract and perceive the same loving energy reflected by others, breaking the cycle of conditional validation.

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Many people may subconsciously block love because they think what they want is love when they're really striving for is validation and approval. What can happen is as a kid, if love was conditional, the next best thing is validation and approval because that was the condition in order to be loved. So people may find themselves blocked from feeling love or allowing themselves to be loved because they believe the conditions they have to being loved is they must have validation and approval and who they believe they must be be in order to get that validation and approval may mean to be perfect, to be a fixer, to take on tension, etc. And what ends up happening is they end up abandoning themselves to meet the condition of the approval and validation, which actually isn't love. So one of the best things you can do is to begin realizing this pattern and to instead begin to embrace self-love and self-acceptance, even for the patterns themselves. But to be more so aware that the more you choose you, the more you choose to be the more you choose to embody that love that is all around you, accepting it within yourself, you then can perceive of other people that mirror that energy back to you. So instead of looking for validation and approval, let go of the condition and start to accept yourself in realizing that reality will reflect back that self-acceptance you have for yourself.