Aaron Doughty explains why most people get no contact wrong after a breakup. They use it as a strategy to make their ex reach out, not to actually let go. Real no contact works because it redirects your energy back to yourself.
So often what people do when they hear ideas like no contact, people hear it all the time. Like they get to a video and it says the best thing to do when you're letting go of someone or after a breakup is to go no contact. So what some people do is they literally believe I'm gonna let go because if I let go and go no contact, they're gonna contact me again, which is interesting because there's an intention there of doing something in order to get a certain result. Which means there's actually still an attachment. So you've now become attached to this thing as a mechanism. But what happens, and one of the reasons it's so powerful to go no contact and to bring your energy back when you're really doing that at a deep level, is what happens is you finally bring the energy back to you.
