Aaron Doughty explains how a calm nervous system attracts deeper connections and repels people stuck in fight-or-flight. Most people normalize dysregulation and chase dopamine hits or approval instead. Simple practices like deep breathing and body awareness can rewire these patterns and shift who you attract.
One of the most attractive qualities there is is to have a calm, regulated nervous system. In a calm, regulated nervous system, you will both attract to you people that you can actually go deep with, and you will repel away from you people that have a dysregulated nervous system or people that keeps you in fight or flight. So many times what happens is from childhood, if it felt normal and familiar to be dysregulated, you might find yourself attracted to people where there are these high highs and low lows because it feels familiar, where maybe you're chasing dopamine, chasing approval, and it's something that happens as a response to your nervous system. One of the main things that I recommend people do is learn how to regulate your nervous system. You simply take a deep breath in, let it go, put the awareness inside of your body, and recognize that you then from that place can begin priming yourself for that regulated nervous system
If you can see this, you're about to become so magnetic you are unrecognizable
