Aaron DoughtyAwareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, LLC · Spiritual Teacher and Educator

Children often carry household tension for safety.

8 Dec 2023 · 1 min

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In this spoken monologue, the presenter explains how people‑pleasers, empaths, and highly sensitive individuals often adopt the role of easing household tension during childhood as a survival strategy that feels safe. This early‑life role becomes internalized, leading adults to continue taking responsibility for others’ emotional tension in relationships, work, and love life. The speaker argues that while avoiding tension feels protective, tension is actually essential for personal growth. By shifting perspective and embracing intention, individuals can recognize tension as a catalyst rather than a threat, especially as they move beyond the childhood mindset.

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Here's the thing about people pleasers, empaths, people that can feel other people's energy. A lot of times they feel like it's their job to ease tension in their life, to ease tension at their job, with their relationships, in their love life, whatever. They want to ease tension because as kids they felt like it was their job to ease tension in the family, to ease tension in the childhood house. That was a role that felt safe back in the day. The idea was if I wanna feel safe, I must mitigate the tension in the household. So then that role was taken on and what, why is that role really there? The role is there as a safety survival mechanism. The challenge is that then you grow up and you're still trying to mitigate taking responsibility for everyone else's tension because you don't want to feel, all because you don't wanna feel tension, but tension is where growth comes. Think of intention, literally intention. You are intention and people, especially spiritual people, they say, I don't want tension, tension is bad, but you're not in childhood anymore. It's not bad, tension is good.