Trying to be magnetic backfires. Real magnetism comes from detaching from outcomes, living by your values, and stopping the chase for approval. When you stop performing, you attract the right people naturally.
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you can't try to be magnetic, right? The harder you try to be magnetic, the less magnetic you are. Being magnetic comes as a result of surrendering to the present moment and also understanding why do you even wanna be magnetic? What does that question imply? The question implies you wanna be magnetic because you want people to validate and approve of you. You want to have this energy that other people wanna be around. But why do you want that? What do those other people have that's gonna help you feel different about yourself? So even questioning that and realizing you don't even really wanna be magnetic to everybody. Do you wanna be a magnet to narcissists? Do you wanna be magnetic to sociopaths? Do you wanna be magnetic to like evil people? No. So you don't really just wanna be magnetic to everybody. But the funny thing with being magnetic is the less you are trying to be magnetic, the more you detach from outcome, the more you live according to your own values, the more that you're in your own energy and enjoying your life because not of what it gets you, can't be magnetic to get something back, that's when you are the most magnetic.