Aaron DoughtyAwareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, Awareness Mastery, LLC · Spiritual Teacher and Educator

Every People Pleaser Has a Hidden Source of Power

12 Aug 2026 · 1 min

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In this monologue Aaron Doughty explains that people‑pleasers and over‑givers carry a hidden reservoir of energy that stems from unexpressed anger and resentment. When they say “yes” while meaning “no,” the anger is pushed beneath the surface, leading to self‑criticism and a feeling of being stuck. Doughty argues that confronting and sitting with this stored anger—allowing oneself to feel the bodily tension that arises when others sense that tension—unlocks personal freedom and transforms the people‑pleaser’s life. The key practice is to acknowledge the discomfort, sit with it, and let the repressed emotion surface rather than managing others’ reactions.

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The dark side of a people pleaser, every person you meet that's a people pleaser or that has that kind of, or an over-giver, there's a certain untapped energy inside of them that if they were to tap into would completely transform their lives. What is that? That energy is being in contact with the stored anger and resentment underneath the surface. What happens is that anger that you're afraid to share towards other people by expressing yourself becomes internalized. So then you beat yourself up because you said yes when you really meant no. So there's this part of us that gets repressed underneath the surface with anger. And the key is actually the thing that you avoid, if you can embrace it, you will start to become more free. So if you think about it in the form of a people pleaser, if instead you let it be okay that you express yourself and someone feels tension, the tension they feel in their body is not your thing to manage. You will feel tension inside of your body when you first start allowing other people to feel tension. And the key is to sit with it.